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VaguelyCurious -> RE: How do you sort out the real profiles from the fakes? (8/4/2011 11:52:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Goodfilthyfun I have to disagree about the phone comment earlier. I don't give out my number until I really feel like theres a possible connection with someone, and the more they push me to give it out right away, the less likely I will. I just find it rude and pushy, and that's not the type of man I'm interested in. Well that's fine, but for me personally if there's not an instant connection then there's probably not going to be one at all, and if someone doesn't trust me with a phone number then I probably don't want to know. I won't date people who are scared of me or scared of the dating process. But that's just me. You may find that men have a higher tolerance for that kind of thing.

Rochsub2009 -> RE: How do you sort out the real profiles from the fakes? (8/4/2011 11:52:49 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kalikshama quote: I spent a good chunk of time trying to exploit his code to download a picture and had no luck Bah, if I had the link I could I'll send you a pic in under a minute if I didn't have to resize it. You're right. I took Fetlife's defenses as a personal challenge. It was a problem to be solved. It took me less than 5 minutes to figure out a way to download their pictures. Now I can download any picture from Fetlife that I want.

Icarys -> RE: How do you sort out the real profiles from the fakes? (8/4/2011 12:06:45 PM)
quote: You may find that men have a higher tolerance for that kind of thin Not this one.

Arpig -> RE: How do you sort out the real profiles from the fakes? (8/4/2011 12:37:50 PM)
Nor this one. That's why I really don't bother, I had a wonderfully entertaining series of conversations over a period of a few weeks with what was obviously a guy pretending to be a woman using his ex-girlfriend's pictures on here. I personally don't care if a person is male, female, or anything else when I am looking for entertainment, I don't care, for example, if Icarys is a man living in Alaska, or a woman in Zimbabwe. The persona he (or possibly she) presents is entertaining and insightful, and that is all that matters. This is online, and we can be anything we want to here, and I'll accept you however you present yourself. I don't know if LP is real, or if the piles of people who claim to have met her are real, they could all be one guy in a basement in Newark for all I know. But it doesn't matter, because when that pimply geek puts on his LadyPact persona, he says things that I find thought-provoking, entertaining and useful. Now, as to the problem of fakes when it comes to dating...well I don't use this site for that much, other than finding the odd girl with a passing creepy old man fantasy to live out and they are usually pretty anxious to meet and get it over with, so it's not an issue.

VaguelyCurious -> RE: How do you sort out the real profiles from the fakes? (8/4/2011 12:40:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Icarys quote: You may find that men have a higher tolerance for that kind of thin Not this one. Heyyy, I said 'may'. :p

tj444 -> RE: How do you sort out the real profiles from the fakes? (8/4/2011 2:12:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Awareness Where the fuck is your wireless internet? Smartphones can connect to that shit. are you talking about toggling my smart phone to that? if so, I cant with this one, or so i have been told.

DecadentDesire -> RE: How do you sort out the real profiles from the fakes? (8/4/2011 2:31:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009 quote: ORIGINAL: kalikshama quote: I spent a good chunk of time trying to exploit his code to download a picture and had no luck Bah, if I had the link I could I'll send you a pic in under a minute if I didn't have to resize it. You're right. I took Fetlife's defenses as a personal challenge. It was a problem to be solved. It took me less than 5 minutes to figure out a way to download their pictures. Now I can download any picture from Fetlife that I want. Actually, we're both right and wrong. I didn't want to get into the specifics of it, because I didn't want to throw the thread off course. The actual pictures themselves, in OTHER PEOPLE'S galleries, get rendered using a CSS web trick instead of HTML image elements, so they can't be downloaded directly. They are also served up differently, probably a database, instead of being resources on a web server. The thumbnails in the galleries, however, are HTML image elements and easily downloadable. There is good performance reasons for why they did it like that. I didn't descend into the nuances of the strengths and weaknesses of Fetlife's system architecture, because I didn't really want to go that far. I was just highlighting an example of why I find Fetlife's privacy to be better and therefore, am more comfortable posting and uploading content there. At the end of the day, however, if someone really wants your picture that is displayed on a website, they are going to get it. There is no stopping that. It's a fact everyone should be aware of when posting pictures publicly.

Icarys -> RE: How do you sort out the real profiles from the fakes? (8/4/2011 5:33:29 PM)
quote: Heyyy, I said 'may'. :p Kisses. :P

Ninebelowzero -> RE: How do you sort out the real profiles from the fakes? (8/5/2011 4:51:05 PM)
That is something I never want to see Hannah

xssve -> RE: How do you sort out the real profiles from the fakes? (8/6/2011 8:17:56 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Arpig Nor this one. That's why I really don't bother, I had a wonderfully entertaining series of conversations over a period of a few weeks with what was obviously a guy pretending to be a woman using his ex-girlfriend's pictures on here. I personally don't care if a person is male, female, or anything else when I am looking for entertainment, I don't care, for example, if Icarys is a man living in Alaska, or a woman in Zimbabwe. The persona he (or possibly she) presents is entertaining and insightful, and that is all that matters. This is online, and we can be anything we want to here, and I'll accept you however you present yourself. I don't know if LP is real, or if the piles of people who claim to have met her are real, they could all be one guy in a basement in Newark for all I know. But it doesn't matter, because when that pimply geek puts on his LadyPact persona, he says things that I find thought-provoking, entertaining and useful. Now, as to the problem of fakes when it comes to dating...well I don't use this site for that much, other than finding the odd girl with a passing creepy old man fantasy to live out and they are usually pretty anxious to meet and get it over with, so it's not an issue. That kind of works for me too when it comes to the internet, in way, it's interesting because there is no physical involvement, if that awkward moment comes when the chick you're dating turn out to have a penis, no harm, no foul - it's much easier to deal with than a long drive home through an unfamiliar neighborhood, with all sort of uncomfortable feelings running through your head, just sayin', it's just an abstract head in cyberspace. Personally, I prefer to cam, I can find out if you're real or not real fast, and while a lot of people think that it's tantamount to being a stripper or a masturbation aid - so what? Again, there si no physical contact, no STD's, no guy pissing all over your toilet or farting and holding your head under the covers, it better than frigging alone no? I prefer meatspace, who doesn't? But what are you supposed to do if fireworks go off but you're 2000 miles away? And, as I say, it's hard to fake a cam - for that matter, who says it has to be sexual? If you can talk to me in a coffee shop, you can talk to me on cam, it's the same thing, neutral territory. But you say cam, and it's suddenly all about sex, and you're some kind of wanker - I can't reach through the fucking screen and rip your clothes off, it's actually the one medium where you have absolute and perfect safety: you can kill it with the touch of a button, and at least I know what you look like, but I have no address, no phone number, I don't know what kind of car you drive, it doesn't matter if you're fat, or smell funny, now it's just a head with a face. There is a downside to it of course, plenty of people susceptible to click fever, I quit chatting because I was sick of trying to talk to a chick with five other guys on the line and a half hour between relies, it's like a blindfolded gang bang - I mean, if you did that in meatspace, I'd drop you in a heartbeat. But if it's just entertainment, what's the big deal? It's just socializing without all the complications, even if you cyber, it technically just makes you really good friends, not really lovers, per se - and it doesn't prevent you from dating does it? Shit I love it when chick tell me about their sexual adventures, it's no skin off my nose, shit, live it up, bird in the hand and all that. Anyway, if I can't ever see you, I'll never know if you're real or not, and I'm going to be a lot more detached, I just can't get that serious with a voice coming out of the void, I try to take you at face value, but it's very weird for me, that's just the way I am.

0ldhen -> RE: How do you sort out the real profiles from the fakes? (8/6/2011 8:27:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Awareness And a woman without a smartphone is probably a crack-whore. AHEM.......Recently I spent a week with several cm members.....other members have met me in real life real time in this or my old persona here..... Email any of them....not one will tell you I'm a crack whore.......or a man....or anything other than who I present myself to be (ask Greedy and KC what happens to my nipples and the hair on my arms when a bike goes by)..... I spent a good bit of time shopping for a regular cell phone with buttons.....cause that is what I like..........Rethink your criteria there....technology is just not important to all........

lockedaway -> RE: How do you sort out the real profiles from the fakes? (8/6/2011 8:33:57 AM)
i can spot a fake profile from a mile away. First, i have noticed that a number of profile read the same way. There are words or phrases that appear again and again it is too frequent to be mere coincidence. The writing style is also very similar. The profiles of the phenomenally hot, young, dominant lesbian girls are often fake. The profiles of the girls looking for money are, of course, often real. But anyone who tributes to paypal or Amazon or pays to go on NiteFlirt is an idiot and deserves what they get. Any profile that is a month old with no activity is probably fake....after all, how often are YOU on here? You want to see how many people on here are "real"? Try this, break it down on a state by state search and see how many profile come up that have been active in the past week. Start picking through those and you will quickly find a few that are obvious fakes. Hide them from view. If you are looking for a "relationship" something that could be long term and even lead to marriage, hide all of the professional Dommes from view and all of those seeking tribute to "weed out the fakes" or whatever bullshit excuse for money they are using and then see how many profiles you have left to choose from.

ElderKnight -> RE: How do you sort out the real profiles from the fakes? (8/6/2011 9:21:16 AM)
SubATX, I am back on this site after a couple of years away, as the majority of folks say here, keep it real. Previously, I met a sub from here and we had a good relationship for a few years, but my job (military) tends to move me around the world, and she couldn't go with me. So I can tell you it is possible. Now, devil's advoacte, I know people in various BDSM organizations, and the will scream "Stay away from CM!!" citing there is nothing but trouble here. But again, be smart about it. My advice, for what it's worth, treat it like a normal dating site, but in the back of your mind, you already know you'll have at least kink in common, so focus on the other things you can have in common that will make you both excited to be around each other. L

GreedyTop -> RE: How do you sort out the real profiles from the fakes? (8/6/2011 9:33:48 AM)
Chickie!! ya mena those were REAL bewbs ya squished me with?? ducks n runs LOL

0ldhen -> RE: How do you sort out the real profiles from the fakes? (8/6/2011 11:01:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: GreedyTop Chickie!! ya mena those were REAL bewbs ya squished me with?? ducks n runs LOL Um....Greedy..to borrow one of your phrases "REALLY"...... LMAO....everytime somebody does something stupid in traffic I hear you in my head going" Really"..... In fact they were rubber boobs......fake....totally fake.......

MasterNeo1 -> RE: How do you sort out the real profiles from the fakes? (8/6/2011 1:33:33 PM)
With, a fine toothed comb that's how. Also many of these posts are spot on. However, do not simply go by everything that is being said. For example: I've noticed that some suggest that if poor vocabulary or structure is used, then they are most likely to be fake. Which, for the most part, might be the case. But then again, English may not be their first language. Or what about; not writing an adaquite amount on their profiles. (A couple of short, vague sentences) Again, this is a likely indicator, that they could've at least spent time on their profile, (if they are who they say they are, then surely it should not be too difficult to write about themselves). On the other hand, some might just not like to divulge all the information about themselves to the public, and would rather share it with the person that they feel they could have a connection with.. -Shrugs- If you read a profile, and it happens to catch your interest; Start a conversation. Begin with the 'get to know each other' questions. Save the pick up lines and msn/yahoo/skype addresses for later. Do not get into intimate, romantic or even touch upon BDSM conversations. Not until you are certain 'it' is who they say they are.

lally2 -> RE: How do you sort out the real profiles from the fakes? (8/6/2011 2:06:58 PM)
the mobile phone removes all doubt on the gender question. usually because the phone call never happens, apparently. from the sub perspective here. i avoid anyone with a cock shot, its just naff. i cant speak for men and cunt shots but ive heard theyre not so popular either. i suppose its a prefferance thing. anyone who launches straight in with 'i want you, kneel and now tell me youre darkest fantasy' gets the 'ignore and pass' response. but mostly i read their profiles carefully, notice what kinks theyre into and how they describe their motivations and who it is theyre looking for. also beware geography. its such a bitch when they live miles away and in truth its a total non-starter unless one of you can relocate (should all things work out that way) like some here ive been 'here' for bloody ages and im a seasoned CMer. so the best advice i can give you and has been given already. is just exchange chatty friendly open emails and get to know them. chatting about BDSM is fine, chatting about their views on submission and dominance is also fine, in fact its a good idea and gives you a feel for whether or not youre both working from the same premis. one more thing, while im at it. beware the whole online chemistry thingy. beware collaring someone or assuming to own someone before youve met them. what goes down online doesnt always translate to chemistry in real life. in short. real life is when it starts to cook, the preamble on here is all about finding out if you guys have things in common and things to talk about once the play is done.

domiguy -> RE: How do you sort out the real profiles from the fakes? (8/6/2011 2:19:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Desertrose5 Ok, here is my honest answer. I have figured out 2 ways to verify.. I figure anything else can be tampered with. 1. Phone verify them and make sure you have their number 2. Ask them where they are at that moment and tell them you need a cell phone pic taken and sent to you within 10 minutes or see ya sailor. You need to do both to verify Works like a charm I love this because it is impossible to send a fake picture from your phone. You should get out of the desert. The sunstroke can be fatal.

domiguy -> RE: How do you sort out the real profiles from the fakes? (8/6/2011 2:21:01 PM)
I have met fake people off of here. Faked fucked'em all.

theshade -> RE: How do you sort out the real profiles from the fakes? (8/6/2011 3:02:52 PM)
I think the best thing to do which has been mentioned is view posts from that person on here, also go to munches/events and meet people, truth is there is alot of fake profiles out there its annoying but no-one has an answer to stopping it, I've been on a few other sites and found nothing but chaff, thats why I joined here but still few about. take everything with a pinch of salt I would say.

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