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WinsomeDefiance -> RE: what fucking community? (8/13/2011 3:14:33 PM)
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- why do people seem to think there is more to this shit,
- where does this backasswards idea of a "community" come from? and
- why do they think we are any fucking different than any other group of random people?
Why do you think there isn't more to this shit. More than what? Are you implying that there is less to it, and if so, less than what?
Not to get all existential on you, but at different times in my life 'this shit' meant different things to me. When I first found out about BDSM, I came to it as someone who had walked away from pretty much every belief she had. I walked away from the role of 'wife,' the role of 'minister,' and I left behind my community. My friends, much of my family, and except for my children and a few close friends - I was alone in the world. Then I came across this wildly insane notion of D/s - which replaced my former teachings of 'wives submit yourselves unto your husbands, in the lord, for this is correct.' With this door opened, I learned about BDSM - which just sounded FUN and EXCITING. I was in my early 30's and I'd never once orgasmed during sex. Sex was a duty. Here was a concept where it was ok to enjoy oneself and seek fulfillment sexually. Then I learned about Munches, and learned there were play parties and I experienced all these things that had never entered into my realm of knowledge before. Yes, I know. I was pathetically naive about a LOT of things. But more than all that stuff, I met people that for once I felt at home with. People who on the surface seemed so much more open-minded than the religious community that I'd walked away from. For me, it was a time of healing, and growing, and learning - and with people that I felt a sense of community WITH. So, for those who do see it as a community. I wholeheartedly relate to their thinking. If that doesn't answer #'s 1 and 2 for you, from my perspective. I could elaborate a bit, but meh. I'm not really caring to do so.
The difference any group/organization/community I'm part of has to those I'm not - is what pretty much defines it AS a community for me. It is something I choose to bring into my life, my mind, my inner-circle. Those who share in that with me, are part of the experiences - even if in just a small manner. It connects me to others, and I hope in some way, that it connects them to me. Because I relate to the world by way of those things I feel connected to - it makes it special to me - and this in turn makes me see it as different from things I do NOT relate to.
I cannot speak for others, but it would seem odd to me, for people to NOT find the things that bring them happiness, joy, pleasure, knowledge, wisdom, fulfillment, whatthefuckever, as special. Humanity being what it is, it gets taken to extremes and blown out of proportion - but yeah, whatever. People do stupid shit as much if not more as they do amazing and smart things.
Just my thoughts on things.
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