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gungadin09 -> RE: what fucking community? (8/12/2011 10:35:39 AM)
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ORIGINAL: HannahLynHeather
i keep seeing people post shit like "people in the community should be more welcoming", or "being hard on newbies will drive them away from the lifestyle". so fucking what i say. who gives a crap if some random person gets into wiitwd or not. what the fuck are you, some sort of bdsm proselyte? out to spread the word?
Oh, dear. We are just going to keep disagreeing. Aw, well.
What i've never understood is the idea that if we're NOT a community it means that we don't have to show common courtesy to other posters, however new or old. To me it's not a question of being a community, or trying to recruit people. It more a question of, dude, would you talk to people on the street like that, if you had to look them in the face while you said it? And i'll do you the justice to say i think that you, personally, would. But there's a lot of people just using the internet to get their rude on, because it's an anonymous medium. That has nothing to do with the lack of community, and everything to do with the lack of good manners.
When i first came to collarme, i started what seems to be the obligatory thread about how rude everyone was. i can tell you that went down like a lead balloon. People told me, this is how we talk, the honesty is so refreshing, and if you're that sensitive you should just leave. i thought about it and decided they were right. It is unrealistic of me to expect posters to change the way they post because i don't like it. Furthermore, the honesty IS refreshing- as long as there's a point in there somewhere. Snark for snark's own sake... well, i've never gotten used to that. Some people just seem to have a bee up their butt. But most of the time there is a point, and i'm willing to screen out the snark in order to hear it.
So i guess my counter-question to you is this: It's not a community, it's just the internet. Everyone has the right to express themselves how they like, provided they're not breaking TOS. If that gives you the right to be snarky, why doesn't it give someone else the right to complain that you're snarky?
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ORIGINAL: HannahLynHeather
why do people seem to think there is more to this shit, where does this backasswards idea of a "community" come from? and why do they think we are any fucking different than any other group of random people?
Because these random people on the internet are enough of a community to be concerned when Arpig's meds are off, or when Maxsboy goes through a identity crisis, or when there's a death in LadyPact's family, or when Termy suddenly stops posting, or that DarkSteven may have to look for a new job, or any of the hundred other things that demonstrate that people on these forums have a real, emotional connection to other posters, some of whom they have never met, and probably never will. Isn't THAT what makes a community? What is a community if it's not a random group of people that have simply decided that they are one? Are you sure it's not a community, at least for some people? To me, it's really just a matter of perception.
pam
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