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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/28/2011 11:13:34 PM

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There was a munch in fayetteville AR which is apparently about 18 minutes from you OP. If thats too close, an hour away in fort smith there is a munch on the 10th. if i were you i would drop the married chick and go look for submissive women falling out of the sky there. Married women come with A LOT of trouble.

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/28/2011 11:40:27 PM

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I wanted to type something deep and intelligient, but everything worth saying has allready been said. Leave her, get a single s/s. Stop quoting scriptures from a book written when people thought the world was flat and dragon's were real. Use the search function.

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/28/2011 11:43:20 PM

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Seriously? You are banging a married chick, and you want to quote from the bible when people don't approve? Interesting approach, but not really convincing.
Look, if she is trying to convince you that this is OK, she is just lying to herself and you are being naive.

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I want to thank everyone for their help. Not all of is was exactly what I was looking for but your heart was in the right place. I'm not going to try to explain the situation because ultimately having a relationship with a married woman is wrong. I have been a good boy my entire life and there are some things on my bucket list I want to do, the Slave/Master thing is just one of them. I don't have a lot of time and submissive women seeking men aren't exactly falling out of the sky here in my area. It is what it is.

And the scribes and Pharisees brought unto him a woman taken in adultery; and when they had set her in the midst,

They say unto him, Master, this woman was taken in adultery, in the very act.

Now Moses in the law commanded us, that such should be stoned: but what sayest thou?

This they said, tempting him, that they might have to accuse him. But Jesus stooped down, and with his finger wrote on the ground, as though he heard them not.

So when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.

And again he stooped down, and wrote on the ground.

And they which heard it, being convicted by their own conscience, went out one by one, beginning at the eldest, even unto the last: and Jesus was left alone, and the woman standing in the midst.

When Jesus had lifted up himself, and saw none but the woman, he said unto her, Woman, where are those thine accusers? hath no man condemned thee?

She said, No man, Lord. And Jesus said unto her, Neither do I condemn thee: go, and sin no more.

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/29/2011 1:38:03 AM

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...it's fucking rich isn't it, some guy who is banging a married broad against his own morals quoting the bible and lecturing us on integrity. i thought i'd fucking seen everything but this is a whole new level of ironic.

I couldn't agree more... what a pathetic, total, and complete piece of shit of a person we got here!!!

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/29/2011 3:07:28 AM

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ORIGINAL: DecadentDesire

I figure I will be the one person who actually answers your question.

Hey hey there Rabbit, I answered his question too..back at post #19

:) Just sayin'

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/29/2011 3:22:49 AM

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ORIGINAL: DecadentDesire

I figure I will be the one person who actually answers your question.

Hey hey there Rabbit, I answered his question too..back at post #19

:) Just sayin'

Ignoring the entire moral-fest above....apart from the two posts above..

DD and Hisfreedom gave you some good ideas.You could also tell her exactly what you will be doing with her next time, just before she leaves, so that she will have the week to be thinking about it.

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/29/2011 5:19:04 AM

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I wonder how many other "classes" the cheating wife has in other parts. If she's cheating with the OP, who knows how many other "masters" she has.

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/29/2011 6:30:32 AM

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In light of that, I figure I will be the one person who actually answers your question.

oh fuck it, why not.

uh shortfuse, you might want to actually look over the fucking thread here
http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=3825711
http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=3825874
http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=3826263
http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=3826293
http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=3826565

so by my count you're the sixth fucker to answer his question directly, so really rather than being the noble and understanding "one person", you're just a fucking johnny-come-lately. blow that horn a little louder, somebody might believe you one day buckwheat.

and the fact that in your view admitting wrongdoing absolves one of all blame even when one persists in the wrongdoing is unsurprising, rather the opposite, i fucking expected it from you.

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/29/2011 7:08:33 AM

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ORIGINAL: xCallMeSirx

I want to thank everyone for their help. Not all of is was exactly what I was looking for but your heart was in the right place. I'm not going to try to explain the situation because ultimately having a relationship with a married woman is wrong. I have been a good boy my entire life and there are some things on my bucket list I want to do, the Slave/Master thing is just one of them. I don't have a lot of time and submissive women seeking men aren't exactly falling out of the sky here in my area. It is what it is.

So, basically your dick has over ridden your morals. How charming....

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ORIGINAL: MrRodgers

Trouble is, that it is society's acceptance of and thus the prejudicial presumptions created by the western Christian value system and a system that doesn't seem to work all that well in so many other areas, that one must still observe monogamy or be labeled a social outcast.

It's not about monogamy. It's about the lying and engaging in an act that you know will eventually hurt someone else. If her husband had given his blessing, then none of us would care.

He is knowingly participating and he doesn't care because his dick is getting sucked.

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/29/2011 7:33:48 AM

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ORIGINAL: DecadentDesire

Well, you managed to handle the criticism here pretty well. You are, at least, owning up to the fact that what you are doing is wrong and not attempting to argue and justify it as being right.

In light of that, I figure I will be the one person who actually answers your question. I would do a search on the forums for "long distance". There is a few old threads that have a lot of good suggestions. I tend to date local, single girls so I don't have much experience with keeping someone remotely "aroused".

It's nice that you're referring the OP to other threads and all, but you're not actually answering his question. In fact, some of the answers that he'll find through those past threads (and even a couple on this one) have the potential to do more harm than good. A very good example is the comment that came in regarding having her call the OP every time she has to use the bathroom. How well do you think that's going to go over with her husband in the house? Most suggestions regarding long distance aren't going to apply because they can't be completed due to other people in the house.

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/29/2011 7:39:41 AM

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Lance is going to go with a different approach for post #51 (and yes, Hannah, I read the whole string. LOL!)

Consider what we have here: "the SO doesn't know I'm into BDSM and the SO doesn't know I'm getting my BDSM needs satisfied." In my 25+ years of experience "in the scene," every such case I have heard about and or had been asked about has changed into: "My needs for BDSM have over-run my relationship with my SO."

Here, this woman may very well be satifying her BDSM needs as a precursor (maybe a year or two out) to dumping her husband who will go "What?" - He might have come around to BDSM if she'd given him a clue.

So, my advice is "Order her to try some 'slap-and-tickle' on her husband and report the results."

Oh, and, as usual in such cases, I'll quote a tag line from my signature block.

"Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer, but wish we didn't." Erica Jong

ETA: Thanks to BurntKitty at #47. You're right about "more than one class," and "more than one master." Had not thought about that one, and have added to my "advice tapes." - the tapes I play for the people who start, "You have probably never heard of this problem, Lance, but maybe you can advise me." LOL!

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/29/2011 7:42:16 AM

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Well, you managed to handle the criticism here pretty well. You are, at least, owning up to the fact that what you are doing is wrong and not attempting to argue and justify it as being right.

In light of that, I figure I will be the one person who actually answers your question. I would do a search on the forums for "long distance". There is a few old threads that have a lot of good suggestions. I tend to date local, single girls so I don't have much experience with keeping someone remotely "aroused".

It's nice that you're referring the OP to other threads and all, but you're not actually answering his question. In fact, some of the answers that he'll find through those past threads (and even a couple on this one) have the potential to do more harm than good. A very good example is the comment that came in regarding having her call the OP every time she has to use the bathroom. How well do you think that's going to go over with her husband in the house? Most suggestions regarding long distance aren't going to apply because they can't be completed due to other people in the house.

Not to mention she's a Kindegarten teacher! Hello! She has a job teaching young children. Anything even remotely sexual or kinky related showing up while she's at work will get her fired for life.

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/29/2011 8:45:17 AM

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You know, the foundation of this lifestyle is built on one thing: trust. You are making a mockery of it.

The foundation of ANY healthy relationship is trust; lifestyle has nothing to do with it.

Another attempt at mythologizing why the "lifestyle" should make people smart about their decisions in life.

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/29/2011 8:57:36 AM

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and yes, Hannah, I read the whole string. LOL!

smart move, i'll put away the chainsaw and blowtorch, but i still have the machete and razor wire handy.

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/29/2011 9:32:09 AM

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By the way OP, if your chick has kids, what you are doing is even worse. Tell her to go home and take care of them

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/29/2011 10:35:56 AM

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

It's nice that you're referring the OP to other threads and all, but you're not actually answering his question. In fact, some of the answers that he'll find through those past threads (and even a couple on this one) have the potential to do more harm than good. A very good example is the comment that came in regarding having her call the OP every time she has to use the bathroom. How well do you think that's going to go over with her husband in the house? Most suggestions regarding long distance aren't going to apply because they can't be completed due to other people in the house.

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Maybe a link to some ideas I can use in my own way?

I believe I answered this question exactly as it was asked.

It's up to him to figure out what will work and what will not work given his "unique" situation. I'm not interested in helping him sort that out. I'm just someone who was impressed enough by how he handled himself in this thread that I thought it was worth taking a whole 10 seconds to point him in the direction of some resources.

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/29/2011 10:41:53 AM

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ORIGINAL: DecadentDesire

I figure I will be the one person who actually answers your question.

Hey hey there Rabbit, I answered his question too..back at post #19

:) Just sayin'

Yeah, you did. My bad.

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/29/2011 10:52:13 AM

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In light of that, I figure I will be the one person who actually answers your question.
oh fuck it, why not.

uh shortfuse, you might want to actually look over the fucking thread here
http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=3825711
http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=3825874
http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=3826263
http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=3826293
http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=3826565

I did review those threads, snugglebunny. I did miss two of the responses. It was hard to find them among the moral tirade. The others were done before cheating became known or done in jest. Thank you for pointing them out.

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and the fact that in your view admitting wrongdoing absolves one of all blame even when one persists in the wrongdoing is unsurprising, rather the opposite, i fucking expected it from you.

Since your ability to read is clearly as horrific as your ability to write, let's review what I actually wrote.

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Well, you managed to handle the criticism here pretty well. You are, at least, owning up to the fact that what you are doing is wrong and not attempting to argue and justify it as being right.

I fail to see where I said he was absolved of all blame. My only statements were a critique of how he handled himself and my own admittance to finding someone owning up to the fact that he is contradicting his own values is somewhat more palpable than someone who falsely attempts to twist his own moral code to justify his behavior as righteous.

His participation in her cheating is his choice. I'm not condoning or approving of it.

But...hey...maybe next time you will "get" me.

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/29/2011 1:12:36 PM

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Looks like someone needs a good, old fashioned ass whoopin'.

Trust should be the foundation block for everything in this world. Trust is one of those universal things that doesn't apply to any one religion, lifestyle, or financial class. It's like having a backbone. A center core. If you don't have that, it is a little hard to function properly.

If I owned a company would I hire someone I didn't trust? Or leave them in charge of anything? Relationships are infinitely more important and should be given that much more respect and care.

Quoting the Bible as a defense while continuing to do something you know is despicable? I had a good chuckle on that. I thought I was reading the script to a Monty Python skit for a minute.

Hannah can be quite the spirited young lady. Reminds me of my mom a good bit (aside from the continual profanity, of course). But I think she is 100% right on this. Among a few others who wrote too.

I'd love to write more, but I don't want to be late. O.J. Simpson and Phil Spector are hosting an event called "Cultivating the Perfect, Lifelong Relationship" and I have a non-refundable ticket. It isn't a D/s thing, but I heard there was going to be a lecture on edge play and "how to know when you're going too far." I have an extra ticket if the OP wants to come...

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 8/29/2011 1:14:33 PM

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omg, AMyg.. you so ROCK!!

(and btw? MP would have had more class than a skit like that...)

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