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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 9/5/2011 3:50:09 PM   
Arpig


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She told me her marriage is basically over "there is nothing there for me anyomore",
Except financial support, a comfortable home, and a husband who is dedicating himself to providing a home for her and their kids.
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She has already decided she wants to get a divorce but wants to get the children raised before doing so.
So she has decided that her ease and financial well being is more important that the well being of her children.
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It is a difficult situation for her, apparently she has decided the childrens well being is more important to her than her own happiness.
I see absolutely no evidence of this whatsoever, in fact just the opposite. She is putting her happiness ahead of her husband's and her kids' well being. And you are placing your happiness ahead of their well being and ahead of hers as well.
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I don't know all the details but I assume the household is stable and functional but she has fallen out of love with her husband.
Exactly! You don't know the details. And just an FYI....in this context "fallen out of love" actually means "I'm a bored."
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I am not stealing her from her husband.
You are doing exactly that.
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Not an ideal situation and I'm looking for someone I can have a real connection with to share my newly exposed dominant traits.
Assuming that what you have posted on this thread is indeed how you feel, then what you have newly exposed is the antithesis of any "dominant traits". You are so undominant, that you engage in actions you know to be immoral and harmful to your partner purely for the purposes of fulfilling your own tawdry erotic fantasies. A dominant is first and foremost a leader who guides himself and his partner on a path for their mutual betterment. You, on the other hand, are being led down the proverbial garden path. I can't help but wonder if it was painful getting that nose ring installed.
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I am not going to be able to see her for almost 3 weeks, it might be a good oppurtunity for me to think about what I am doing and decide if it's worth it.
It's not worth it. Period, end of story.
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I didn't seek her, she found me.
Completely and utterly of no relevance. It takes two to tango...you chose to dance, so it's 100% your fault. Nobody else's. It's called taking responsibility for one's actions, this is another one of those "dominant traits" you wish you had...but don't.
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It is wrong and I know it, but it's my problem and my struggle.
If you know it is wrong then there can be no struggle, Spike Lee told you the answer to your self-induced "problem" back when you were in college....Do The Right Thing.
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Like some of you, I'm not sure staying in a bad marriage is good for the kids.
It's not. It is harmful to them, you are deliberately hurting her children. You are enabling a child abuser.
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But ending it by finding out she is cheating sure won't be a good outcome.
You are correct, it wouldn't be. So stop being part of that cheating.
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I really don't want to talk to her about all this, but it's starting to sink in, that is exactly what I need to do.
Of course you don't want to talk to her about it, you don't want to lose your weekly fuck. As far as needing to talk to her about it, you're right. Here's what you need to say to her: "What we are doing is wrong and I will have no further part of it. I strongly advise you to seek professional marriage counseling. Do not contact me again in any manner. Good bye and good luck."
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If I let her know that I don't feel good about what we are doing, I'm pretty sure she will realize she doesn't feel right about what she is doing either.
Sure she will. Oh BTW, email me with your dealer's number, because I want some of what you're smoking...it must be some seriously good shit.
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I would like ideas to turn her thoughts to her husband.
Good. There is only one way to do this. Tell her what she is doing is wrong and end the relationship. You are in no position, morally, professionally, intellectually, or in any other way imaginable to do anything more for her. Pull a Pilate...wash your hands and walk away.
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If I just dump her, she will just find someone else.
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It's the excitement of the BDSM games she likes, not me...
Correct. She'll just go find her "random dick on the side" elsewhere, you are of no importance to her whatsoever. How does it feel being a dildo...because that's what you are to her.
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I know this isn't really my problem, but I got myself involved and I always like to try and fix things.
Wonderful. I refer you to the advice of the vast majority of those who have posted on here...say goodbye. That will minimize the damage, and that is the only thing you can do to fix what you have done. That's right...you did it. You and you alone are responsible for this situation.

I doubt you will ever be a dominant or much of a man, but at the very least try, rather than being just one more in a long line of pathetic horny little embarrassments to humanity.



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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 9/5/2011 5:10:47 PM   
ummmmNo


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Status: offline 		I've been reading this for a few days and I finally had to put my two cents in.

Soooo, I'm into cucking and find this to be shitty. What does that say?

Also, telling someone to call you "Sir" anything is a joke. To me, that's a term you earn, and darlin, you haven't earned shit. Grow up, man up and leave the bitch.

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 9/5/2011 7:43:32 PM   
xCallMeSirx


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Status: offline 		Sir Hammy is a joke for miss fuckity fuck. It really doesn't matter what anyone else thinks of me. The only thing that matters is if I'm getting my rocks off. And yes I am.



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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 9/5/2011 7:45:20 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		what was the purpose of posting your/her little fantasies????

Was it supposed to show us how domly you are? Yeah...eerr...that did it ohlorddomlyone.



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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 9/5/2011 8:16:48 PM   
ummmmNo


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Status: offline 		You sure put me in my place.

Gosh, how can I handle how "masterly" you are based on those emails? It's incredible.

On a side note, when you get married, and your wife is unhappy and starts sleeping with another man, how will you handle it? How will you feel? Humiliated? Emasculated?

She says she is staying with her husband for the kids. How about being honest or faithful for the kids? Or, *gasp*, talking to her husband about having an open relationship? Obviously, she doesn't give a damn about her children, her promises or her family. She gives a care about her cunt. Just like you. Maybe, that's why you have so much in common.


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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 9/5/2011 8:24:12 PM   
tinkergirl


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Status: offline 		Porn fantasies don't make anyone more dominant or submissive. They mean someone has a good imagination. You have already established that you both have the self control of gnats in a rain forest. There is more to being dominant than sex hammy. (just cause i think Hannah is great)

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 9/5/2011 8:31:59 PM   
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ORIGINAL: xCallMeSirx
The only thing that matters is if I'm getting my rocks off. And yes I am.



And that alone, speaks to the kind of man that you are.


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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 9/5/2011 8:44:12 PM   
DarkSteven


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ORIGINAL: xCallMeSirx

It really doesn't matter what anyone else thinks of me. The only thing that matters is if I'm getting my rocks off. And yes I am.



A Dom is more than just a spurting cock.  His standing in the community and his self-worth should be worth a helluva lot.


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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 9/5/2011 8:58:26 PM   
sunshinemiss


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ORIGINAL: coookie

umm if you are going to pull the bible out ... the fact that you are a christian and doing something you know is on that list of big rules jesus put out (ya know thou shalt not covet thy neighbours wife kinda dealie)



Did Jesus say that?  Huh.  I thought that had something to do with Moses.  Ah well.  I've not been to church in a few years.


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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 9/5/2011 9:05:25 PM   
DarkSteven


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ORIGINAL: sunshinemiss

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ORIGINAL: coookie

umm if you are going to pull the bible out ... the fact that you are a christian and doing something you know is on that list of big rules jesus put out (ya know thou shalt not covet thy neighbours wife kinda dealie)



Did Jesus say that?  Huh.  I thought that had something to do with Moses.  Ah well.  I've not been to church in a few years.



You're correct, sunny.  It's in the Ten Commandments - the Mosaic Law.


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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 9/5/2011 9:11:05 PM   
ummmmNo


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Status: offline 		You say that all that matters is you getting off.

That's awesome and all, but I thought about dominance was about control. Including, controlling yourself.

I'm a sub, so what the hell do I know?



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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 9/5/2011 9:24:24 PM   
coookie


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< Message edited by coookie -- 9/5/2011 9:26:05 PM >

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 9/6/2011 9:40:18 AM   
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And the scribes and Pharisees brought unto him a woman taken in adultery; and when they had set her in the midst,

They say unto him, Master, this woman was taken in adultery, in the very act.

Now Moses in the law commanded us, that such should be stoned: but what sayest thou?

This they said, tempting him, that they might have to accuse him. But Jesus stooped down, and with his finger wrote on the ground, as though he heard them not.

So when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her.

And again he stooped down, and wrote on the ground.

And they which heard it, being convicted by their own conscience, went out one by one, beginning at the eldest, even unto the last: and Jesus was left alone, and the woman standing in the midst.

When Jesus had lifted up himself, and saw none but the woman, he said unto her, Woman, where are those thine accusers? hath no man condemned thee?

She said, No man, Lord. And Jesus said unto her, Neither do I condemn thee: go, and sin no more.
Quoting this scripture to justify sin is blasphemy in the eyes of the Nameless. You have seen not the moral of this tale which is equal to what has been said by others.

Go, and SIN NO MORE.

I will pray that My Goddess grant you the wisdom to see how you have done wrong in the eyes of your God and the strength to do what it is that all know you should do.

Be at peace
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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 9/6/2011 10:31:38 AM   
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One more thing: I am Sir Hammy to you little one.


BDSM 101, you may be a dom; you're not HER dom.


(Now, who can help my find the picture of the Fukin Troll's t-shirt to that effect?)

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 9/6/2011 3:21:45 PM   
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Fuck is supposed to be saved to add emotion to your language, if you use it in every sentence it loses any impact it might have otherwise had, that and it shows you have no class.


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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 9/6/2011 3:24:16 PM   
Aileen1968


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ORIGINAL: xCallMeSirx

Sir Hammy is a joke for miss fuckity fuck. It really doesn't matter what anyone else thinks of me. The only thing that matters is if I'm getting my rocks off. And yes I am.




I had a hamster named Hammy. He lived for six years. Please don't ruin my fond memories of him.

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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 9/6/2011 8:26:29 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

It's in the Ten Commandments - the Mosaic Law.

There are ten commandments for laying tile? ;o)


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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 9/7/2011 6:42:25 AM   
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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

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One more thing: I am Sir Hammy to you little one.


BDSM 101, you may be a dom; you're not HER dom.


(Now, who can help my find the picture of the Fukin Troll's t-shirt to that effect?)


I can!

http://www.cafepress.com/+organic_womens_tshirt_dark,508387961


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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 9/7/2011 11:14:34 AM   
kalikshama


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RE: Playing with Sub when your away - 9/12/2011 3:54:50 PM   
xCallMeSirx


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Status: offline 		The married woman who was being my bottom said we could see each other as until is was no longer working for one or both of us. My conscience was bothering me so I told her that we cannot see each other anymore. I did have fun with her and made her happier through some of the suggestions I got here.

I want to thank everyone for helping us enjoy our short time together.

I also want to thank the people that pointed out the obvious downfalls.

It's all in the past now, we can all move on.

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