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lost faith - 5/21/2006 4:29:52 PM

34shadesofblue

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Anyone got any ideas on how to restore faith that there are real, honest, genuine, loyal, true,understanding ,respectful Doms (real)out there?or am i just dreaming that those qualities are possible?

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RE: lost faith - 5/21/2006 4:35:16 PM

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Anyone got any ideas on how to restore faith that there are real, honest, genuine, loyal, true,understanding ,respectful Doms (real)out there?or am i just dreaming that those qualities are possible?

It seems at least a few people around here have them, so they must exist.........lol.

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RE: lost faith - 5/21/2006 4:43:24 PM

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I don't know, it is probably as hard as finding a real submissive that isn't a man in drag that hides his adams apple with a collar and crosses his legs to hide his bulge.

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RE: lost faith - 5/21/2006 5:04:37 PM

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Anyone got any ideas on how to restore faith that there are real, honest, genuine, loyal, true,understanding ,respectful Doms (real)out there?or am i just dreaming that those qualities are possible?

Yes, it is very hard to find someone you can put your faith in. Yes, they do exsist, because I have found such a person. Don't give up! Be careful, honest with your wants and needs and don't settle for less then what you deserve. Good luck!

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RE: lost faith - 5/21/2006 5:10:53 PM

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Hope springs eternal, doesn't it? Sure, they're out there...along with the trolls, liars and cheats. Hey, no one said it would be easy.

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RE: lost faith - 5/21/2006 6:01:57 PM

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oh don't ya remember bandit, anything worth having is worth waiting for...or is it fighting for...i can never remember...lol.

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RE: lost faith - 5/21/2006 6:26:55 PM

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There are, if you read the threads you realize there are many contented subs/slaves i coolarsand many great Doms/Dommes available as well. After 6 years of looking i found the most perfect match you could imagine. That is why my nic is twicehappy.

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RE: lost faith - 5/21/2006 8:51:04 PM

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There is no hope.

Its all bullshit.

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RE: lost faith - 5/21/2006 9:06:33 PM

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There is no hope.

Its all bullshit.

i disagree. i do agree that it is hard to find the right one ... probably harder even than finding a match in vanilla-land for that matter.

i do prefer the one-on-one rather than online. But i am lucky and live in the midst of a thriving BDSM community.

My advice would be to look for a local community, and proceed online with extreme caution!

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RE: lost faith - 5/21/2006 9:10:05 PM

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There is no hope.

Its all bullshit.

i disagree. i do agree that it is hard to find the right one ... probably harder even than finding a match in vanilla-land for that matter.

i do prefer the one-on-one rather than online. But i am lucky and live in the midst of a thriving BDSM community.

My advice would be to look for a local community, and proceed online with extreme caution!

Disagree all you want. Its all a load of crap. Especially on this site.
its not about finding the right one.

Finding even a couple people who understand the situation would be nice enough.
I have a partner. And I still agree with myself that its a bunch of crap.

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RE: lost faith - 5/22/2006 2:47:39 AM

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OK, devil's advocate here. KarbonCopy has a point. I only say this because he mentioned that he has a partner, and STILL holds to his opinion. Keep in mind, I just got a divorce because my wife betrayed me, so I may be a little bitter. It's a sick world out there, puppet, but we all take our licks and move on. Finding a loyal, kind, caring, accomodating, self-sacrificing, complimentary (and by that I mean when you are together, you are BOTH better people for it) Dom or sub/slave, for that matter, is truly and irrevocably a lost cause.

ALL THAT BEING SAID, I steal and collect mottos from any philosiphy, religion, joke, movie and especially book that doesn't run fast enough. Usually I only hold on to them as long as they apply to my current situation. But there is one motto that has stuck with me through the years that I think would help you out a lot, and it is this: Lost causes are the ones most worth fighting for. Be it ending world hunger, stopping crime, finding that perfect mate or even finding the goddamn car keys so that you can get to work on time, just because there is no hope doesn't mean you shouldn't take the time and bloody well make some.

So go wherever it is that you find most peaceful and reinforcing, bring whatever you need to remind yourself that even if you don't want it, you can be in control, and use that control long enough to realize that against seemingly impossible odds, those things that we think are outright impossibilities, both horrible and beautiful, happen at a rate of about once per month (ref: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Littlewood%27s_law). You can have your faith back. You might want to dust it off a bit.

Oh, and KarbonCopy...get a new partner. Your attitude sucks donkey balls.

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RE: lost faith - 5/22/2006 3:20:47 AM

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It is hard to find the right one, but I think that means its only worth my time. I wouldn't want it to be easy, cause then I probably wouldnt appreciate him near as much.

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RE: lost faith - 5/22/2006 3:31:17 AM

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Jeez. everyone. Ok, Life sucks and then you die. But, along the way, lighten up! Vandal, sorry your wife betrayed you, but that doesn't mean all women are lying, deceiving bitches. Men do it too, you know. Stuff happens. Whaddya gonna do? Get over it, that's what. Pick yourself up and get back in there! I've said it before...I admire twicehappy soooo much, She has the most wonderful attitude and look at her! By her own admission, she has the most wonderful pair. Ok, so it took 6 years. So, if she wasn't looking, she'd still be 6 years older, now wouldn't she? And Texas? You GO girl!

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RE: lost faith - 5/22/2006 3:34:10 AM

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<<<is all in favor of wonderful pairs LOL

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RE: lost faith - 5/22/2006 3:37:12 AM

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You are? Well, Level, I have a wonderful pair right here, jsut waitin' ...LOL

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RE: lost faith - 5/22/2006 3:53:03 AM

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Vandal, sorry your wife betrayed you, but that doesn't mean all women are lying, deceiving bitches. Men do it too, you know. Stuff happens. Whaddya gonna do? Get over it, that's what. Pick yourself up and get back in there!

Um...hey, bandit...did you even read my entire post?

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RE: lost faith - 5/22/2006 4:35:14 AM

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Duh! I misread the last line. Sorry.

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RE: lost faith - 5/22/2006 7:05:33 AM

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Not a problem...you had me worried there for a second. I didn't think I was THAT cynical.

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RE: lost faith - 5/22/2006 7:11:44 AM

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Anyone got any ideas on how to restore faith that there are real, honest, genuine, loyal, true,understanding ,respectful Doms (real)out there?or am i just dreaming that those qualities are possible?

As a recent 'victim' of mistrust, based on how he had been treated in the past, NOT based on my behaviors, I think it is important to look at each person as an individual, not paint all with the same brush.

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RE: lost faith - 5/22/2006 7:33:28 AM

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Now there's some good advice

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