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RE: Would you be less inclined to submit to a man who'd... - 9/30/2011 6:17:40 PM   
ProlificNeeds


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Sometimes I think women want men to be like rocks to stand on. They'd appreciate their being smoother around the edges, but when all's said and done the last thing they want is for them to move at all. We're supposed to be the devil they know. We shout sometimes, but we don't ever cry.


I had to comment on this, and the other post about the 'protective' element you'd mentioned.

I think it's definitely got merit because on the occasions when I do have a primarily submissive partner, that mirrors closely a dynamic I look for, but I'd honestly say not all women are like that.
Reality also comes into it, even if someone wants the 'unshakable rock' it would be selfish not to realize there may be a day you need to return the favor of being a solid anchor for your partner. Maybe it never happens, but anyone not willing to be that rock in return certainly doesn't deserve one to stand on.


I certainly have never looked down on a male partner who's needed to mope a little and seek some stability, it would be hypocritical of me to deny someone something I myself want.

I also like knowing about a partner's bisexuality up front, it shows me they feel no shame about themselves or their preferences... and it opens the door to some fun ribbing.

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RE: Would you be less inclined to submit to a man who'd... - 9/30/2011 6:59:50 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think we're rocks for each other. It's part of being crazy in love with each other. 

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RE: Would you be less inclined to submit to a man who'd... - 10/1/2011 2:06:16 PM   
strongbottom88


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Status: offline 		I just can't see how this can not be true in most realtionships even where feelings as strong as love are not present. Even with play partners or close friends, I just can't see not having enough empathy to not want to be there when the other person lets me know they need me.

I can be such an emotional rock at times, that I have a hard time allowing myself to feel vulnerable. BDSM play actually helps me with that, but it doesn't take away my ability to be calm and focused in moments of stress or crisis, or my ability to be even keel when someone needs me to be, even if they are the person helping draw vulnerability out of me. For a relationship of any type to be otherwise seems unhealthy. (although I am no model for what is healthy and I certainly abide by the philosphy of "to each their own" so if it works differently for others, more power to them)
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I think we're rocks for each other. It's part of being crazy in love with each other. 


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