allyC
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Joined: 6/2/2004 From: Las Vegas Status: offline
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Master and I have worked out a routine for this girl to lose this weight because of my self esteem and health issues. Well and because Master hates fat ppl. I am having a hard time trying to figure out why your Master would choose someone who fits into a category of people that he hates and needs to change? quote:
Can I ask how any sub / slave can look in the mirror and be pleased with themselves being that way? For many people, it isn't how they look naked in the mirror that drives their self-value and self-love but rather something more meaningful. (i.e. their accomplishments, their achievements, their level of personal integrity, how much they love and are loved by others, etc.) quote:
How do the Dom's/Domme's feel about there overweight sub/slaves? I asked my owner how he feels about his overweight slave (me) and he replied, "I love her." :) quote:
Or how do You feel seeing other ones like that? Other overweight subs and/or slaves? I guess I don't really feel any differently then when I see thin subs or slaves. quote:
Isn't health issues a major concern? Health issues are only a concern when someone is unhealthy. Fat does not equal unhealthy. Unhealthy equals unhealthy. I know lots of thin unhealthy people but they're not trying to lose weight. :) quote:
I don't want to be insecure about myself and ppl not see the sexy side of me because I am fat. I am significantly overweight and I don't think that fat negates my sexy side. Sure - for people who only find thin, athletic builds attractive I might not have a "sexy" side, however, there are plenty of other people who like different sized women. :) quote:
So I don't understand how anyone can be proud of being fat. And want to stay that way. Or want There subs or slaves that way. I haven't yet met anyone who is "proud" of being fat. I am not proud of being fat. I am, however, proud of who I am and what I have accomplished in life. I would love to lose weight and I will continue to work toward losing weight but not because I don't think I'm sexy or because society (or anyone else) tells me I'm repulsive. I will do it because I don't like the physical restrictions that my weight places on me. quote:
I see so many overweight subs and slaves in the lifestyle and I would like to understand why there are so many. Is it because of the weight? I would imagine they are in it for the same reasons that thin people are - because it is something they want to do. quote:
Is it because of insecurities? I would guess that for some people it might be. But I have yet to meet someone who isn't insecure about something or another so I don't think that reasoning really fits. I am sure some thin people join the lifestyle because of insecurities too! :) quote:
I guess my real reason for this post is to find out what brings people or draws people to this lifestyle that are overweight. Again, probably the same things that draw people who are not overweight. quote:
Do the subs and slaves that are overweight feel they can please there Dom in ALL ways being overweight. I don't think anyone can please another person in ALL ways. But in the end, it depends on what pleases each individual owner the most. Some are more pleased by women who work out every day and others might be pleased by more curves and yet others might be pleased by someone who sings beautifully or who cooks well or who gives superb head - but for every person, preferences will be different, pleasures will be different, abilities will be different. I could ask you, rose, do you paint, play piano, play guitar, sing, shoot photography, run a business, write poetry, write fiction, cook gourmet meals and give excellent massage (and head)? Would you help your owner search for and welcome another slave into the home because your owner wished it and serve beside her to the best of your ability? These are some of the things that my owner finds pleasing. These are some of the things that he chose to cultivate and/or which drew him to wish to own me in the first place. He also thinks I am beautiful, regardless of my size. (He wouldn't own me if he didn't find me attractive.) There are some things that I can't do because of my weight. I can't run marathons. I can't mountain climb or skateboard a half-pipe. But he doesn't really care about those things so its okay. :) quote:
And with 4 kids and active with them, how I am overweight, I may never know. It may just be because your body's shape is different and because your body naturally wants to fall into that range. Not everyone is meant to be a hard body and not everyone is meant to be thin. Only time will tell :) I think, rose, that you (like many others) equate fat with poor self esteem, laziness, poor health, unhappiness, etc. It isn't that way for everyone. There are lots of emotionally, physically healthy fat folks out there! :) Well wishes, Cav's ally
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