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agirl -> RE: Breastfeeding In Court? (11/15/2011 12:51:42 PM)
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ORIGINAL: DarqueMirror
That's great so long as you understand and agree that you don't speak for everyone. I worked in a restaurant as a waiter once and watched as a coworker (whose pay was dependend upon his ability to do his job adequately) stumbled and averted his gaze in every direction but the person at the table because she was sitting there breast feeding. In this society, there are two sets of people singing their chorus. The first group believes, apparently, that a person should be able to do whatever they like, wherever they like with no consequences. The other group believes in similar freedom, but for everyone. In other words, something *you* do should not affect, nor hinder something *I* want to do.
Suppose (since you like hypotheticals) that the people with the breast-feeding woman in the restaurant got offended that my coworker had such trouble doing his job upon witnessing the act. If they complained to the manager, this kid could lose his job all because he's never faced such a situation before and didn't know how to react. Is that fair? No. It's not. quote:
Firstly, it'd be a shame that a young man was so cloistered that he couldn't cope with someone quietly breastfeeding. I'd consider that a failing on whoever raised him. What on earth would he do if someone threw up? What if, what if, what if?
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There was a time in our society when a mother did what was best for her child. quote:
Mmmmhmmm, like breastfeeding her child.
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She didn't tote the thing around like a miniature-poodle-in-a-bag-style fashion statement. Is it healthy for the kid to be toted around non-stop all day? Or would a stable day in the relative safety of the home/crib be better? The problem today is that mothers don't alter their schedule to accommodate their child. They expect the child to conform to their plans and schedules. Kids, especially the very young breast-feeding ones, do not belong in some places -- movie theaters, crowded restaurants, courtrooms, etc. Why should I pay the same $9+ as you to see a movie only to listen to your screaming kid for 2 hours? When I have to abide by the rules of decorum in a courtroom so as not to bother other defendants, should a mother gets a pass because she couldn't manage to find someone to watch her kid for a couple of hours? Should I really have to listen to a kid throwing a tantrum while all I wanted was a nice quiet dinner in a nice restaurant?
The answer to all those rhetorical questions is "no." Your freedom to do as you please stops the moment you infringe on my freedoms not to be bothered by your screaming child.
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There will always be inconsiderate people. Breast feeding isn't inconveniencing anyone at all. It's a quiet, discreet mundane affair.
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ORIGINAL: Winterapple
If it offends you
don't look.
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This same sentiment could be said to a mother who freaks out upon seeing a guy wearing a "Fuck you" t-shirt while out with her kids. If she's offended, she shouldn't look. Yet I've heard more than one instance of a mother making a stink over a shirt she found offensive to her kids. quote:
Yes, I think the same sentiment applies.
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ORIGINAL: Winterapple
And back to the court thing
being a nursing mother doesn't make you
a second class citizen.
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True. But not having a child and not wanting to be bothered by them doesn't make me a second-class citizen either. My rights are no less important and I don't want to be bothered by a screaming kid in places where I have to be or where I paid money to be.
That's all a matter of reasonable consideration. People with AND without children do inhabit the same venues at times, some are considerate of others, some aren't. That's a fact of life.
Now, what has that to do with breastfeeding?
agirl
ETA........and that's why I don't fiddle with the quote thiong.......LOL SORRY!
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