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ORIGINAL: tj444

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ORIGINAL: Unshriven
well,.. thats the funny thing about people's opinions of themselves.. there is a term for that..
its called "illusory superiority".. - "I don't think I'm fugly" is illusory superiority? 

to me it is.. as i would do exactly what you find happening, i would hover over your email, see your pic and the first bit of your email and i would delete unread..
It means you think you are more attractive than you actually are so imo you are emailing women way out of your league.. i suggest you email women that are more in your league but its up to you.. btw, changing your profile doesnt do much if the women dont even click on your post, read it, like it and your photo enough to make it to even looking at your profile..

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ORIGINAL: searching4mysir

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ORIGINAL: Unshriven

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ORIGINAL: TheFireWithinMe

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ORIGINAL: Unshriven

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ORIGINAL: Fornica

fr
I always doubt ppl when they say they have lots of anonymous folks backing them up.
<shrug>

Yeah, fair enough, but I'm not throwing someone under the bus just for support. 

In case you ever do, we have a saying here "pics or it didn't happen" so don't forget your camera.

Sorry, I don't get what you're saying...if I ever do what?   Also, 'pics or it didn't happen' is a 4chan thing.

She is saying she wants pics if you throw someone under the bus.

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

About not getting responses. Firstly, if you are writing people who ask for someone within a certain distance, age limit etc and you don't fit that then they won't even get your mail. They will have set their mail filters to send you straight to junk mail.[/quote[

OMG this! When I was single I was blasted with emails from guys that had decided they were the exception.

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Secondly, you're extremely narrow minded. You claim to be tolerant of other people's kinks yet you also demand that every sub be humble to every self proclaimed dominant out there. I'm submissive to one. Which means not you and there is no reason I should be to you or any one else. And this applies to every submissive. Until she has agreed to commit to you, she owes you nothing. You want someone to feel humbled in your presence? Then you need to inspire her with your dominance. Until that happens, there's no reason for someone to pretend it.

Beyond that, respect is earned. Until you've reached that point, you deserve nothing more than common courtesy.

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As far as the anyone who won't do housework isn't a real sub, we've just had a long thread on that.

Guess, I'm not a real sub. I'll have to break the news to Master.

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To sum it up, we've all gotten emails from guys who say their bathroom hasn't been cleaned it six months and that's why they need a new sub. Because of that, and the fact that we aren't interested in being anyone's mommy, we don't feel it necessary to agree to clean the house for some guy who can't take out his own garbage. Beyond that, if she works all day, comes home and cleans her own house, and then has to come over and clean yours, when does she get any down time?

I flat out wouldn't have dealt with someone that expected me to keep house in a house I didn't live in. You want a maid...call Molly Maids.

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If you're living together and both working, then you both need to do the household stuff as otherwise there's no time for fun. Plus you sitting watching tv while she's working an unpaid job won't inspire her with your dominance, it will make her think you're a lazy ass.

Beyond that, it would indicate to me that you view a submissive woman not as someone to have a relationship with, but as something to take advantage of.




< Message edited by OsideGirl -- 12/5/2011 5:27:40 PM >

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

*lol* one of my first posts was a poem that I put up in the general forum. (a poem about bdsm and submitting)
Oh yeah...that went over GREAT!
But I just kept posting...even some really really really dumb sub frenzy stuff.
Sometimes I got my feelings hurt. Hell, I still do.
But I have made connections here with amazing people I never would have, had I let myself be scared off by well...actually...some of the amazing people I've gotten to know!

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

About not getting responses. Firstly, if you are writing people who ask for someone within a certain distance, age limit etc and you don't fit that then they won't even get your mail. They will have set their mail filters to send you straight to junk mail.[/quote[

OMG this! When I was single I was blasted with emails from guys that had decided they were the exception.

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Secondly, you're extremely narrow minded. You claim to be tolerant of other people's kinks yet you also demand that every sub be humble to every self proclaimed dominant out there. I'm submissive to one. Which means not you and there is no reason I should be to you or any one else. And this applies to every submissive. Until she has agreed to commit to you, she owes you nothing. You want someone to feel humbled in your presence? Then you need to inspire her with your dominance. Until that happens, there's no reason for someone to pretend it.

Beyond that, respect is earned. Until you've reached that point, you deserve nothing more than common courtesy.

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As far as the anyone who won't do housework isn't a real sub, we've just had a long thread on that.

Guess, I'm not a real sub. I'll have to break the news to Master.

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To sum it up, we've all gotten emails from guys who say their bathroom hasn't been cleaned it six months and that's why they need a new sub. Because of that, and the fact that we aren't interested in being anyone's mommy, we don't feel it necessary to agree to clean the house for some guy who can't take out his own garbage. Beyond that, if she works all day, comes home and cleans her own house, and then has to come over and clean yours, when does she get any down time?

I flat out wouldn't have dealt with someone that expected me to keep house in a house I didn't live in. You want a maid...call Molly Maids.

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If you're living together and both working, then you both need to do the household stuff as otherwise there's no time for fun. Plus you sitting watching tv while she's working an unpaid job won't inspire her with your dominance, it will make her think you're a lazy ass.

Beyond that, it would indicate to me that you view a submissive woman as someone to have a relationship with, but as something to take advantage of.

Well, I stated previously that it wasn't about the cleaning, my comment was more about bottoming from the top.  It doesn't matter what the action was. cleaning, shopping, cooking or whatever, it was meant to be a comment on a certain attitude.  Unfortunately, some have focused on that particular act (cleaning) rather than what I was talking about.

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ORIGINAL: fragilepieces

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ORIGINAL: searching4mysir

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ORIGINAL: Unshriven

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ORIGINAL: TheFireWithinMe

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ORIGINAL: Unshriven

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ORIGINAL: Fornica

fr
I always doubt ppl when they say they have lots of anonymous folks backing them up.
<shrug>

Yeah, fair enough, but I'm not throwing someone under the bus just for support. 

In case you ever do, we have a saying here "pics or it didn't happen" so don't forget your camera.

Sorry, I don't get what you're saying...if I ever do what?   Also, 'pics or it didn't happen' is a 4chan thing.

She is saying she wants pics if you throw someone under the bus.

Thanks I just spit coffee....

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ORIGINAL: babygirl4daddie

Everybody has an ideal of what they seek. Ive lost quite a bit of weight this year , and whether im ok for some or not i don't worry about too much. Everyone has an ideal of a look they seek...in all honesty. I think and know that UnShriven is a good guy, He has encouraged me along the way and has a great sense of humour. Me personally , i could never be with someone with bad teeth, Its a personal thing, and im fine with how i feel about that. Unshriven i know personally is ok with someone with a little extra padding, we've talked on numerous occasions on the phone , so i know he is a "normal" guy, with a good personality and attitude. What he is not seeing is alot of the game players we all come across on this sight that are online hiding from a bigger picture. Not everyone on here has good intentions, and lives in a pretend online world.
Back to the weight thing..... When i was overweight , i never felt bad if someone didn't want me , It was their choice. I was always active even heavier. Now im fit and healthy. Its never been my future Dominants role to incourage me to get off my butt and lose weight, I did it for me. Why is it always someone elses job to encourage people to be healthy???? Why not do it for yourself if you want to.
Just smile and wave .....be positive , and keep looking .....

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OK, even I have to admit that was pretty funny

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Thanks I just spit coffee....

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Jump to:

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ORIGINAL: TheFireWithinMe

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OK, even I have to admit that was pretty funny

Wait gotta check are you saying I was funny? Gotta ask because what's funny in my head doesn't always translate.

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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

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ORIGINAL: babygirl4daddie

Everybody has an ideal of what they seek. Ive lost quite a bit of weight this year , and whether im ok for some or not i don't worry about too much. Everyone has an ideal of a look they seek...in all honesty. I think and know that UnShriven is a good guy, He has encouraged me along the way and has a great sense of humour. Me personally , i could never be with someone with bad teeth, Its a personal thing, and im fine with how i feel about that. Unshriven i know personally is ok with someone with a little extra padding, we've talked on numerous occasions on the phone , so i know he is a "normal" guy, with a good personality and attitude. What he is not seeing is alot of the game players we all come across on this sight that are online hiding from a bigger picture. Not everyone on here has good intentions, and lives in a pretend online world.
Back to the weight thing..... When i was overweight , i never felt bad if someone didn't want me , It was their choice. I was always active even heavier. Now im fit and healthy. Its never been my future Dominants role to incourage me to get off my butt and lose weight, I did it for me. Why is it always someone elses job to encourage people to be healthy???? Why not do it for yourself if you want to.
Just smile and wave .....be positive , and keep looking .....

Oh good....the random endorsement....

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ORIGINAL: tj444

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ORIGINAL: Unshriven
well,.. thats the funny thing about people's opinions of themselves.. there is a term for that..
its called "illusory superiority".. - "I don't think I'm fugly" is illusory superiority? 

to me it is.. as i would do exactly what you find happening, i would hover over your email, see your pic and the first bit of your email and i would delete unread..
It means you think you are more attractive than you actually are so imo you are emailing women way out of your league.. i suggest you email women that are more in your league but its up to you.. btw, changing your profile doesnt do much if the women dont even click on your post, read it, like it and your photo enough to make it to even looking at your profile..

maybe I'm missing this, are you saying that I'm so ugly no one would bother looking at my profile or are you saying that because I don't think I'm fugly, I'm deluded?

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

*lol* one of my first posts was a poem that I put up in the general forum. (a poem about bdsm and submitting)
Oh yeah...that went over GREAT!
But I just kept posting...even some really really really dumb sub frenzy stuff.
Sometimes I got my feelings hurt. Hell, I still do.
But I have made connections here with amazing people I never would have, had I let myself be scared off by well...actually...some of the amazing people I've gotten to know!

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ORIGINAL: kalikshama

OP - good job with the editing. It's a tough crowd - you're doing fine - hang in there - try some other threads.

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ORIGINAL: tj444

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ORIGINAL: Unshriven

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ORIGINAL: tj444

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ORIGINAL: Unshriven
well,.. thats the funny thing about people's opinions of themselves.. there is a term for that..
its called "illusory superiority".. - "I don't think I'm fugly" is illusory superiority? 

to me it is.. as i would do exactly what you find happening, i would hover over your email, see your pic and the first bit of your email and i would delete unread..
It means you think you are more attractive than you actually are so imo you are emailing women way out of your league.. i suggest you email women that are more in your league but its up to you.. btw, changing your profile doesnt do much if the women dont even click on your post, read it, like it and your photo enough to make it to even looking at your profile..

maybe I'm missing this, are you saying that I'm so ugly no one would bother looking at my profile or are you saying that because I don't think I'm fugly, I'm deluded?

personally, i dont find a double chin and a beer belly attractive at all..

.. I said imo you are emailing women that are out of your league & you should email women more in your league... i dont know how to make it any clearer than that.. Seriously, they arent even clicking on your emails for a reason (or several reasons)..

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

*lol* one of my first posts was a poem that I put up in the general forum. (a poem about bdsm and submitting)
Oh yeah...that went over GREAT!
But I just kept posting...even some really really really dumb sub frenzy stuff.
Sometimes I got my feelings hurt. Hell, I still do.
But I have made connections here with amazing people I never would have, had I let myself be scared off by well...actually...some of the amazing people I've gotten to know!

Yeah .. but blushes, you is different than this guy.
not in the same catigory.

This clown is a whole other ball of yarn.