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needlesandpins -> RE: Christmas gifts (12/6/2011 11:42:58 AM)
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ORIGINAL: Iamsemisweet
If someone wants to give me food, I can't stop them, I know it is a gift. I don't think I am "missing the point" by prefering that they don't. I would certainly not be ungracious about it. But if it is sugary, fatty, unhealthy crap, it is either going to be regifted or thrown in the garbage. I would probably have kept the olive oil, though. Balsamic vinegar would also be fine, so I guess not all food gifts would be a problem for me.
It is a little ironic to me that giving a gift of fitness (personal training) can be construed as an insult, but giving someone a gift of calorie dense, unhealthy food is considered acceptable. Lots of people struggle with their weight, you know.
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ORIGINAL: needlesandpins
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ORIGINAL: Iamsemisweet
I actually really dislike people giving me food as a gift, since I am pretty careful about what I eat. I avoid it as a gift for other people, too.
you seem to be missing the point on what gift giving is about. it's not about the things you would like or not, it's about what the person you are giving to would like. who cares whether you'd like food as a gift? if he would like that then it's something you can do. the fact is that you don't just give anything, but note something that would be considered a real treat, maybe it's a favorite thing of their's.
i bought my mum's hubby a bottle of extra virgin olive oil that had been grown and hand pressed by a greek family who have a stall in our town. it was in a lovely gift bottle and he said it was the best gift he'd had that christmas. i got it because i'd listened to something he'd said in passing about his love of dipping bread in it, but considered it too much of a luxury to buy for himself.
my boy and i did them a food hamper, but we made all the things that went in it; chocolate muffins (my own recipe that is a bit of a secret), mince pies, raspberry vodka, lemon curd, lime curd, sloes socked in gin, loganberry sauce and a couple of other things. they loved it because we had made it and it was things they could use.
my mum loves to soak in the bath and treat herself with scrubs and such. it's not something i would want, but i get them for her because she likes them.
it's about being personal to them, not you.
needles
no seriously, you are totally missing the point. what on earth makes you think you have the right to foist what you think of as being right as a gift on someone else. the whole point of giving a gift is to please the other person not yourself. the pleasure you should get is that you made them happy. who gives a crap whether you love being fit and you'd love it as a gift? the only time that matters is when someone is gifting you. and really, who cares what you think of calorie laden foods? you are not there to police what other people want to eat, they are adults and can make their own mind up. it's a gift and therefore should be given subject to the reciever and not the giver.
when considering a gift stop thinking of yourself, it's exceptionally self absorbed and selfish. it shows no thought for the actual person you are gifting, which is the whole point of the gift.
needles
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