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RE: Do you get angry when your being dominated? - 12/9/2011 3:38:50 PM

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RE: Do you get angry when your being dominated? - 12/9/2011 4:49:57 PM

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I burst into tears after having sex and it put me right off for a long time! It doesn't happen often, but you can't really plan catharsis.

Good word, catharsis. Good principle, too.

A male friend of mine had a girlfriend who always cried during sex. She was quite embarrassed about it and he was continually worried about her. But we all read around the subject (all his male friends - weren't we sensitive chaps? hah!) and came to the conclusion that it was nothing to be concerned about.

Me, my pretty firm conclusion is simple, really. This is that so many of these feelings are right next door to each other, in the psyche. Lust, anger, sadness, bliss - they're neighbours. You make enough noise anywhere at all on the street they all live in, you're quite likely to wake them all up at the same time.

That's a great metaphor, Peon :)

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RE: Do you get angry when your being dominated? - 12/9/2011 8:20:24 PM

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If being spanked gets you all hot and bothered but you can't stand being told what to do then likely you aren't a submissive at all but you might be a bottom: someone who enjoys being spanked.
If on the other hand, it is the idea of being spanked that drives you; the fantasy of it, and you hate the sensation, then that is okay too; not all fantasies are meant to be carried over into real life. There is nothing wrong with enjoying them just as fantasies.

This. ^^^^ And, if you happen to be a bottom and not a submissive, there's nothing wrong with that either.....as long as you're both on the same page with it.

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RE: Do you get angry when your being dominated? - 12/10/2011 6:25:58 AM

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No, if it made me angry, I wouldn't do it.

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RE: Do you get angry when your being dominated? - 12/10/2011 11:04:05 AM

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If on the other hand, it is the idea of being spanked that drives you; the fantasy of it, and you hate the sensation, then that is okay too; not all fantasies are meant to be carried over into real life. There is nothing wrong with enjoying them just as fantasies.

Actually I am going to disagree with this. I love everything about a spanking except the spanking. I love the way I feel before it, the way I feel after it, how it affects him. I just don't like the pain in the moment while afterward always wishing it had been longer and harder. It doesn't have to be 100% perfect to still be desirable.

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RE: Do you get angry when your being dominated? - 12/10/2011 1:24:44 PM

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If on the other hand, it is the idea of being spanked that drives you; the fantasy of it, and you hate the sensation, then that is okay too; not all fantasies are meant to be carried over into real life. There is nothing wrong with enjoying them just as fantasies.

Actually I am going to disagree with this. I love everything about a spanking except the spanking. I love the way I feel before it, the way I feel after it, how it affects him. I just don't like the pain in the moment while afterward always wishing it had been longer and harder. It doesn't have to be 100% perfect to still be desirable.

Thanks for explaining that Des. :) My guess is that if I thought about it there would be things that work that way for me too.

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RE: Do you get angry when your being dominated? - 12/10/2011 3:02:11 PM

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I have a lot of pent-up anger inside me. I like getting tied up and having someone with an iron emotional fortitude wail on me so that I can get it out of my system. I've been known to break dungeon equipment, although that was back when I was much younger.

I don't like being ignored, or having my input invalidated. As part of a scene I can shut off my brain and just do as I'm told, but I learned long ago that 24/7 subbing was not for me.

So, do I get angry when I submit? Yeah, but then you'll notice my profile lists me as dominant. It's a label taken from experience.

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