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RE: Tired of fakes! How does Messaging with a normal mi... - 12/21/2011 2:19:52 PM

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While you are bowing to my superior knowledge... could you tie my shoe... my back hurts a bit today and it would be a big help!

Sure. Hey. Not bad legs for a youngster.

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RE: Tired of fakes! How does Messaging with a normal mi... - 12/21/2011 2:26:14 PM

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Hi Steve,

Get rid of this - the dudes won't care and you'll annoy your target audience:

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no guys!! Im a STRAIGHT guy and no way looking for guys to mesage me only females.

Only been on here a couple weeks but it seems like there are a lot of fakes and guys posting as females. I'm a normal guy just lookin to meet some dominant woman. If your a guy posting as a female just trying to get some pics that's just disgusting. Please woman only

If you send me a sample of your first email to a Domme I will be happy to critique it.

Best,

KK

Okay great! Im just trying to go through all the posts here and then i will do some editing of my profile and then i will definitely send you a message. Thanks a lot

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RE: Tired of fakes! How does Messaging with a normal mi... - 12/21/2011 2:30:50 PM

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ORIGINAL: Fetters4U

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While you are bowing to my superior knowledge... could you tie my shoe... my back hurts a bit today and it would be a big help!

Sure. Hey. Not bad legs for a youngster.

I love blind or delusional men and smart asses!

Now be nice to me... I think I covered my ass here... I have a headache! Shhhhhhhhhh Granny is doping up!

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RE: Tired of fakes! How does Messaging with a normal mi... - 12/21/2011 2:31:18 PM

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If it's of any use I normally look for a possible connection on a lady's blog & start the conversation there.

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RE: Tired of fakes! How does Messaging with a normal mi... - 12/21/2011 2:39:39 PM

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If it's of any use I normally look for a possible connection on a lady's blog & start the conversation there.

And then he goes into competition of... who's the biggest tart of them all...

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RE: Tired of fakes! How does Messaging with a normal mi... - 12/21/2011 2:43:12 PM

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Also what are some signs that a mistress may be fake

1. Forehead higher than 23cm.

2. Hair follicles on the knuckles.

3. Slightly more pronounced canine teeth or incisors.

4. Orangey tinge to the complexion.

5. Has a cheese phobia.

6. Has a preoccupation with penises.

7. Nods head when walking forwards like a pigeon.

8. Useless at arm-wrestling.

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RE: Tired of fakes! How does Messaging with a normal mi... - 12/21/2011 2:44:13 PM

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Well thanks for the help everyone. I know im young and not as experienced at this as most of you so i apologize for some of what ive said. But ive taken all of ya'lls advice and made some changes to my profile. I will definetley be more aware of my grammar use, I didnt realize it was as big of a deal lol.

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RE: Tired of fakes! How does Messaging with a normal mi... - 12/21/2011 2:44:42 PM

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If it's of any use I normally look for a possible connection on a lady's blog & start the conversation there.

And then he goes into competition of... who's the biggest tart of them all...

That's a slur on my inherently submissive nature Honeybunny!!

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RE: Tired of fakes! How does Messaging with a normal mi... - 12/21/2011 2:46:48 PM

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1. Forehead higher than 23cm.

2. Hair follicles on the knuckles.

3. Slightly more pronounced canine teeth or incisors.

4. Orangey tinge to the complexion.

5. Has a cheese phobia.

6. Has a preoccupation with penises.

7. Nods head when walking forwards like a pigeon.

8. Useless at arm-wrestling.

Cannot spell Keesh... er Kitch.... er... Keysh... er... Egg Pie.

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RE: Tired of fakes! How does Messaging with a normal mi... - 12/21/2011 2:54:01 PM

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Well thanks for the help everyone. I know im young and not as experienced at this as most of you so i apologize for some of what ive said. But ive taken all of ya'lls advice and made some changes to my profile. I will definetley be more aware of my grammar use, I didnt realize it was as big of a deal lol.

It's a competition Steve. Male subs outnumber Dommes by a good number. Every little bit helps. Stick up a couple more good quality pics to take advantage of your youth and looks. Stay polite and well spoken. Spell check everything (especially quiche). You will be fine.

Ed

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RE: Tired of fakes! How does Messaging with a normal mi... - 12/21/2011 3:01:46 PM

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And accept that Niney will always be a bigger tart than you.

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RE: Tired of fakes! How does Messaging with a normal mi... - 12/21/2011 3:05:33 PM

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hey you just have an issue with me being a pro slut/tart. Dammit I'm good at it.

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And accept that Niney will always be a bigger tart than you.

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RE: Tired of fakes! How does Messaging with a normal mi... - 12/21/2011 3:07:17 PM

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Problem? What problem? I luuuuve me some tart!

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RE: Tired of fakes! How does Messaging with a normal mi... - 12/21/2011 3:18:36 PM

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i loves you too Hibby.

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RE: Tired of fakes! How does Messaging with a normal mi... - 12/21/2011 3:19:40 PM

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Ok so ive been on here for only a few weeks. Seems like there are a lot of fakes.. I want to know how a normal mistress messages if I were to send a message to them. [...]

Also what are some signs that a mistress may be fake?

I do hate to say it, but Collarme has been overrun by men pretending to be lesbian slaves and Mistresses, among other things. In between the cracks you'll find real women...if they even bother to log in anymore.

Signs of a "fake Mistress" profile from the outset usually involve super hot photos that look like they were ripped from a stock photography or porn site. Look for images that exude the qualities of a "real world" capture (amateur exposures amidst domestic or other "ordinary" settings with no professional touching), and make certain there's more than just a few in the profile. Examine the profile text itself; usually Mistresses—and dominant personalities, overall—are fairly particular in describing themselves and what they want. Further, search the user name out on other sites to cross-reference. Most serious individuals involved in "the lifestyle" leave tracks on more sites than merely this one alone. Facebook, Twitter, Fetlife, Wordpress, Blogger, etc. are the usual suspects. Some Mistresses even have individual domain names to visit, especially if they have a professional side to what they do.

A critique about your profile, if I may? Saying you "live for" Queening isn't a smart gesture; it makes you look too focused on sex (although I'm entirely aware this may be a bit of Freudian honesty at play). Most dominant females with a brain are looking for males with a heart in this, and while sex is obviously a powerful motivator, it's best to not be so direct and open about your oral proclivities at the top of your interest list; it's the textual equivalent of a cock shot for an avatar. "I'm looking for friendship with the possibility of something more in the future," is a little vague, as well, especially when combined with, "I'm new to this lifestyle and don't have much experience at all so I don't really know what my interests are for sure." Most alpha females I know of avoid the young and the clueless, especially those with "nilla" vibes.

Assuming you are real, your profile text needs work, too. Correct your grammatical mistakes and make certain to write with care in the future; you'll loose a lot of bites with sloppy, bland writing that says nothing about who and what you really are.

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RE: Tired of fakes! How does Messaging with a normal mi... - 12/21/2011 3:41:48 PM

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Thanks for the help. And ya that what it seems like is happeneing with some of the people ive messaged and some have messaged me. But...What is a nilla vibe? Or the term vanilla in general. I dont have any much experience with a lot of fetishes so how else would i say it? thanks man

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RE: Tired of fakes! How does Messaging with a normal mi... - 12/21/2011 3:57:16 PM

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Aren't you being a bit tough on this young man? I don't think he's stupid or on here to cause any trouble. Yes, his is a hard question to answer and sure, he is naive. But I think if you consider the fact that he's very young...a little patience may be warranted here?

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RE: Tired of fakes! How does Messaging with a normal mi... - 12/21/2011 4:53:42 PM

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Thanks for the help. And ya that what it seems like is happeneing with some of the people ive messaged and some have messaged me. But...What is a nilla vibe? Or the term vanilla in general. I dont have any much experience with a lot of fetishes so how else would i say it? thanks man

Means 'not a participant of the lifestyle.'

I don't see a problem with how you worded it. That said, if you want to change it to 'new to the lifestyle so would like to explore potential likes and dislikes with my partner.' There's nothing wrong with being inexperienced, or young, and telling it like it is. That you present yourself as intelligent, curious, willing to learn and genuinely wanting a significant connection will always be more important than being young and hot. If this is true of you, I recommend using these descriptors in your profile.

Also, a word about patience. Due to the vagaries of the internet as well as supply and demand, it may take significant time and effort to wade through the crap. Best advice I can give you? Make CM a hobby, and don't neglect your real life. It's your 'real life' that will be appealing to a dominant. So just continue being your curious, gentlemanly, cute self and when you least expect it...something good will happen.

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RE: Tired of fakes! How does Messaging with a normal mi... - 12/21/2011 5:18:47 PM

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... Examine the profile text itself; usually Mistresses—and dominant personalities, overall—are fairly particular in describing themselves and what they want. Further, search the user name out on other sites to cross-reference. Most serious individuals involved in "the lifestyle" leave tracks on more sites than merely this one alone. Facebook, Twitter, Fetlife, Wordpress, Blogger, etc. are the usual suspects...

The key word there has to be "usually" or I have been doing it wrong all these years.

OP, keep approaching dominant women as a person. The "real" ones will generally respond in kind. But it will still take patience and luck. It's the nature of supply and demand on the internet.

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RE: Tired of fakes! How does Messaging with a normal mi... - 12/21/2011 5:18:56 PM

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Thanks MistressDarkArt for clarifying that for me, had no idea what it was and kept hearing it brought up. Yeah im in no rush to find anyone, just taking my time trying to figure this all out. I really appreciate your time and effort in helping me out

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