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How Can I tell if He's a Real Man? - 12/28/2011 1:37:22 AM

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Thanks to all who may help me with this issue. My love to you :)
As I search for my master, I have only 1 non negotiable trait that he MUST posses. He must be a true alpha male. I thought it may be worth a try to ask dominant men if they had any advice. In the sense of what behaviors, actions and spoken words would be indicators if he were in fact an alpha male. On the flip side of the coin, I would ask the same reversed. What would be behaviors, ect of a man who was not a real man at all? In short, what should I be looking for to ensure I do not fall prey to a p***y in a man costume! :)

RE: How Can I tell if He's a Real Man? - 12/28/2011 2:09:21 AM

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ORIGINAL: GwenevereLynn

Thanks to all who may help me with this issue. My love to you :)
As I search for my master, I have only 1 non negotiable trait that he MUST posses. He must be a true alpha male. I thought it may be worth a try to ask dominant men if they had any advice. In the sense of what behaviors, actions and spoken words would be indicators if he were in fact an alpha male. On the flip side of the coin, I would ask the same reversed. What would be behaviors, ect of a man who was not a real man at all? In short, what should I be looking for to ensure I do not fall prey to a p***y in a man costume! :)

In the end you will be the one submitting to him so its only your definition of what a "Real true alpha male"is that matters.
Its a definition that I believe is subjective. Dominants aren't farmed and sold with a pedigree, and there is no genetic testing available. One persons dominant is another persons pet.
Your comment "on a man who is not a real man at all" I found rather icky. There is alot of male submissives on this forum who show traits that I admire, and respect and I certainly don't think they are less of a man for not being an alpha dominant male.
However I'm sure there is a few Doms online that will be happy to describe their exact traits as the optimal alpha male. Have fun on your journey finding the right guy for you.

Kind regards

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RE: How Can I tell if He's a Real Man? - 12/28/2011 2:29:06 AM

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Oh Jesus why is it that every thread that makes me facepalm involves the word "true" or "real" rather prominently?

If you can't tell the difference between what you want and what you don't, you are unqualified to be dating.

Even aside from that glaringly obvious fact, the Alpha Male concept is bullshit. You're literally attempting to explain the behavior of the species that invented the excimer laser and then attached it to a robot which automatically performs neurosurgery, and you're doing it with a concept of social organization which has been discredited as an oversimplification in the explanation of the species that cleans its ass with its own tongue. What about that makes sense to you?

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RE: How Can I tell if He's a Real Man? - 12/28/2011 2:34:47 AM

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I recommend making sure he has all kinds of certificates and "degrees", preferably with the words "Old Guard" prominently displayed, somewhere.

Also, I've found that if you avoid guys that cry, when they lose a loved one or when they hear any kind of tragic news, you're probably in "real man" territory. I mean, what "real man" cries?

Another good idea is to make sure that he isn't overly doting on his mother. The ideal would be someone who refers to "that bitch that bore me".[/sarcasm]

Peace and comfort,

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RE: How Can I tell if He's a Real Man? - 12/28/2011 3:49:08 AM

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I recommend making sure he has all kinds of certificates and "degrees", preferably with the words "Old Guard" prominently displayed, somewhere.

Also, I've found that if you avoid guys that cry, when they lose a loved one or when they hear any kind of tragic news, you're probably in "real man" territory. I mean, what "real man" cries?

Another good idea is to make sure that he isn't overly doting on his mother. The ideal would be someone who refers to "that bitch that bore me".[/sarcasm]

Peace and comfort,

Michael

You left out......pictures with him, in sunglasses, standing in front of or sitting on/in his manly car or motorcycle. Should have arms crossed to 'enhance' the illusion of manly muscles also (and draw your eyes away from his stomach). Possibly even a photo of his dick to prove once and for all he is a real and twue man....And pictures of his BDSM toy collection.......always important to know he is real and true yanno.

Then there is a photo of him with another woman/other women.......preferably with their faces cut out.

If they've written an essay on being real and true, their one true way.........they get bonus points.

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RE: How Can I tell if He's a Real Man? - 12/28/2011 3:51:46 AM

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How Can I tell if He's a Real Man?

just check if he has a real penis

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RE: How Can I tell if He's a Real Man? - 12/28/2011 3:56:31 AM

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just check if he has a real penis

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How Can I tell if He's a Real Man?

just check if he has a real penis

The simple and elegant solution and a great icebreaker on a first date!!!

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RE: How Can I tell if He's a Real Man? - 12/28/2011 3:57:15 AM

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you are welcome

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RE: How Can I tell if He's a Real Man? - 12/28/2011 4:00:24 AM

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You left out......pictures with him, in sunglasses, standing in front of or sitting on/in his manly car or motorcycle. Should have arms crossed to 'enhance' the illusion of manly muscles also (and draw your eyes away from his stomach).

Whew! I ran and checked my profile photos, right quick. I figured that with my light sensitivity issue, there might be some photos of me, wearing sunglasses. Not to worry, though, a 1994 Chrysler New Yorker can hardly be confused with a 1970s muscle car! LOL

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse
Possibly even a photo of his dick to prove once and for all he is a real and twue man.

Alas, I can't afford the proper photographic equipment that can take a good photograph of anything that small so ...

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Then there is a photo of him with another woman/other women.......preferably with their faces cut out.

Faces cut out or not, what lady would allow herself to be photographed with me? I guess I'm screwed?

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse
If they've written an essay on being real and true, their one true way.........they get bonus points.

Uh-oh! Of all of these, I've actually done this (sort of) LOL! Am I in trouble?

Peace and comfort,

Michael

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RE: How Can I tell if He's a Real Man? - 12/28/2011 4:18:08 AM

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old spice swagger. j&b on the rocks. bitchin camaro. snaps at the waitress and makes her cry because he sees her noticing his receding hairline. knows why it's all bullshit, and explains in great detail "how they get you" throughout dinner. took a pua course with mystery and mastered how to use neg hits to keep you in your place. lots of strong, loud opinions. has pictures of a deer he and his buddies hooch and slapdick shot on his cellphone (pictures actually stolen from the internet). facebook friends with ketel one. short spiky hair. dressed like he aspires to someday be in an 1800 tequila commercial. vibes...lots of vibes. vibe on vibes on vibes on vibes.

you'll KNOW.

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ORIGINAL: GwenevereLynn

Thanks to all who may help me with this issue. My love to you :)
As I search for my master, I have only 1 non negotiable trait that he MUST posses. He must be a true alpha male. I thought it may be worth a try to ask dominant men if they had any advice. In the sense of what behaviors, actions and spoken words would be indicators if he were in fact an alpha male. On the flip side of the coin, I would ask the same reversed. What would be behaviors, ect of a man who was not a real man at all? In short, what should I be looking for to ensure I do not fall prey to a p***y in a man costume! :)

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RE: How Can I tell if He's a Real Man? - 12/28/2011 4:32:14 AM

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He must pull at his crotch in public, not get aroused when he's wear ing your underwear, laugh at his farts, pick his ears & inspect it, cut his toenails with a craft knife, have holes in his socks, wear his undies for more than one day. Hope this helps.

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RE: How Can I tell if He's an alpha male? - 12/28/2011 4:34:07 AM

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If you define alpha males as below, I find them to stand out by virtue of their aggression.

http://www.wisegeek.com/what-is-an-alpha-male.htm

Some use the term to mean the guy who seems most at ease with women and can essentially marry or date any woman of his choice. In this sense the alpha male is often good-looking, has a great build, and may have a relatively high socioeconomic status.

In work settings, the alpha male may be a natural leader, exuding confidence. But he also may be contentious, demanding and difficult to work with. This is thought to be in part due to the alpha male attempting to retain his stature, however unconsciously, as alpha. Being the top salesperson, the quickest worker, the most aggressive boss may contribute to remaining at the top, and the alpha male has a tendency to respond aggressively to any attempts by others to outshine him.

Though leaders in a company are excellent to have, alpha male characteristics in the workplace may not always be seen as positive. Aggression and disregard for others are not necessarily inspiring. Some people better lead by being “beta” and having good communication skills, sensitivity toward others, and downplaying their strengths so they can showcase the strengths of others.

In adult social settings, alpha males again may be judged not so much by aggression, but by their ability to get the most attractive women as mates. This is the primary reason for alpha behavior in other animals.

The alpha male in adult society is likely to be confident, attractive, and wealthy. Questions remain as to whether the alpha male can retain mates, since relationships often require ability to compromise, to discuss feelings and to be sensitive. Some alpha males have these characteristics typically thought of as beta, but many of them lack such traits. You can certainly point to prominent alpha males in our society who seem to have poor track records with women, either involving themselves in a succession of failed relationships or marrying one woman after another, with no marriage lasting for very long.

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RE: How Can I tell if He's an alpha male? - 12/28/2011 4:51:48 AM

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Ahhhh, you are all wrong....you just need to see if he has a Master's degree.

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RE: How Can I tell if He's a Real Man? - 12/28/2011 4:55:40 AM

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Well, you are the one who wants an alpha male, so you should already be aware of what that includes. Unless of course you just heard the term and thought it sounded really hot. In any case, good luck with that.

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RE: How Can I tell if He's an alpha male? - 12/28/2011 4:58:03 AM

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Myers Briggs type indicater....look for the ENTJ.

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RE: How Can I tell if He's an alpha male? - 12/28/2011 6:36:55 AM

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If he asks you to call him "The Duke".

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RE: How Can I tell if He's an alpha male? - 12/28/2011 6:53:51 AM

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I also seek alpha males, it is the type of man i am drawn too. What does this mean? There is no true, there is only what you end up defining as the qualities you must have in a man and whether or not you believe he possess the power in his own life.   Personally, an alpha male is not someone who is successful in whatever he chooses to do, he lives his life pretty much by his determination and his determinations are based on his perception of the world around him and moves him to reaching his (to me) above the norm expectations and standards he has set for himself,which includes the concepts of honor and integrity. He expects the best out of himself. When he is not happy with something he will work to make the changes necessary for him to achieve that happiness -- whether its with his life, his career, his family, his friends, or himself.   He is a master of himself.

All of the above is pretty much arbitrary and can fit any man who has set determinations for himself.   So there is no "true" except what is true to you.   However, you need to realize that whatever expectations of being an alpha male you set, each expectation will make your playing field smaller as the farther you move into any extreme the less candidates you will find that meet your criteria.

Also, whatever criteria you set for your definition of alpha male, you must also realize that these men will also have expectations for the women they seek to share themselves with.

My definition of alpha male is complex in many ways but my profile holds some pretty basic concepts i see as being an alpha male to me - all of the below are arbitrary due to the interpreter of same has to be the one who defines what is actually very arbitrary:

I love and need a dangerous man, not dangerous because i fear him, but dangerous because i desire him,

His will is such i can only be what naturally compels me

He exudes confidence, i, as a woman, know He possesses more than confidence; He possesses power. Power that comes not from practice, but that formed as a building block of his character.

and this one:
Not interested in those who confuse anger with power, bluster for, and annoyance for persuasion
paraphrased from The Waiter who writes Waiterrant blog

Yes, people tend to get their panties in a twist when someone asks about a specific type of man because they think a man is a man made up of qualities -- however, there ARE alpha men out there, people know it and there are men who aren't alpha, and people know it. All in all, its not bad or good to seek one or the other, it is simply preference.  All in all, while you are defining in general the man you are seeking -- only you can define what that means to you. If you want an alpha male then YOU have to decide what that means to you. But remember the more criteria you expect a man to have means the smaller your playing field will get which means you may not have a lot of selection and then you have to remember that these men also have their criteria that you may not reach for them to select you.

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RE: How Can I tell if He's an alpha male? - 12/28/2011 6:55:07 AM

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Okay the font got all screwed up -- sorry.

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RE: How Can I tell if He's an alpha male? - 12/28/2011 6:56:10 AM

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If to be an alpha male I have to be able to do that color thing and remember all those pound signs and numbers in thr right orders and whatnot......uh, you might wanna investigate becoming a lesbian, cuz it so ain't gonna happen.

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RE: How Can I tell if He's an alpha male? - 12/28/2011 7:08:35 AM

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You'll know because he'll be just like Gaston in Beauty and the Beast.

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