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ORIGINAL: JeffBC

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ORIGINAL: Jessymarieh
See when you write it like that it's clear he is asking too much of me!

Actually, let me put a different spin on that. I'm not one for least common denominator when it comes to relationships. I tend to prefer going for the most I manage. Towards that end, the spin I'd put on this is not that he's asking too much of you, it's that he's delivering too little to you. All of the things you mentioned are things that I have asked of Carol. She's mine -- period. I think the key difference here is that Carol doesn't feel cheated somehow. I ask a lot of her. By her assessment, I deliver value on her investments. She's happy to comply because doing so works out well for her -- she's not the only one giving into the relationship.

Like Kana, I tend to view this through the lens of TPE/ownership. But even without that, I like the idea of two people giving the most they can into the relationship rather than the least. Whether that's possible in this situation is, in my opinion, exactly what you two ought to be talking about.

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ORIGINAL: Jessymarieh

Hi there,

I just wanted to share my situation and see if any of you have been in a similar situation.

I have been together with my Master for 3 years now, we live together and are usually very happy! Have known him 8 years so we are very close. I just feel like recently he wants me to be something else. For example he wants me to lose some weight. I am not fat, I go running 3 or 4 times a week and eat well! So I joined weight watchers and have stuck to it for 2 months with only 2lb loss. I am human at the end of the day and the fact that he doesn't like how I look is making me upset and my confidence is at an all time low.
I have talked to him about it and he said not to get upset about it.
He is also annoyed at me because time and time again I refuse to get a tattoo. I told him this when we first met, and I will never change my mind. He always wants me to turn down a promotion at work, which is a 6.5k pay increase.

It is just getting to much to handle now, I just feel like I love him, but will never be what he wants me to be.
Maybe he just wants me to be a skinny girl, that always says yes, and stays at home all day.

I think we need to sit down and talk about what we want.

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ORIGINAL: Kana

Let's go further grace and point out that this weight loss thing need not be negative if handled correctly.

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Yeah-I'm pretty sure my weight loss program wouldn't work.

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ORIGINAL: Kana

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ORIGINAL: LoreBook

I don't find any of those requests unreasonable (except the promotion one - who doesn't want an extra 6.5k?).

I thought that things like that were the prerogative of a "Master". If your "Master" wants you to lose weight; you do what it takes to lose weight. If your "Master" wants you to get a tattoo; you call and make an appointment. If your "Master" wants you to turn down a promotion (I can't imagine why); you turn it down.

Otherwise your "Master" isn't your "Master" at all. He may be your Dominant, but if you don't do what he tells you to do, he's not your "Master".

Out of the mouth of babes :-)


(Referring both to hotness factor and post count-not being derogatory)


edited to add smileys

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ORIGINAL: Kana

Let's go further grace and point out that this weight loss thing need not be negative if handled correctly.
I'm gonna skip the tattoo thing because that's a straight up talk-you had a limit expressed at the beginning, he wants otherwise.

But the diet, hell, make a game out of it. Give rewards for each pound, small things, bigger rewards for each 5 pound block. Take her shopping. Do something she likes to do (Maybe even, gag, see a girlie type movie), give the slut orgasms!
Lay out lots of positive affirmations, encourage her in every way.

And not just that, but I think we are missing out a key fact here-it's hot as fuck when a slave/sub/slut denies herself pleasure as an act of service. In fact, it's kinda the root of all of what we do. that giving of self over and beyond ones personal expectations or rewards because the giving itself is the reward.
And self denial can be a smoking hot and sexy part of it.

Chain her hungry ass spread-eagled on the bed.
Kiss her all over. Start at the face, Cradle her head. Stroke her cheek. Nibble her nape. Blow in her ear while you stroke her all over. Tell her how proud of her you are, how hot her suffering and self denial is, how horny it makes you to watching her give of self to please...even, especially when its something like food.
Lick her nipples slow, slide your hand up, down, all around her thighs, vulva, hips, cunt mound...but never actually touch the cunt.
Move lower, mouth everywhere-light kisses that flutter and burst, hands busy, coming so close but never making cuntular (Hows that for a coined word!) contact.
Drive her to a point of passion that she is arcing her body, begging to be fucking, penetrated, hell just touch my cunt already sorta stuff.

Then go to town with every Doms best friend, Mr. Rabbit.
Slam that fucker home. No foreplay now,. No fooling around.

Just top end vibrating, balls churning on high, slam that puppy in as high, fast and furious, pushing it as far in as humanly as possible...
All the while grinding those lovely rabbit ears against her greedy little clit, hard press, soft press, hard press, soft...
Wait till she is on the edge of her first orgasm (Which should occur in about .1 seconds), then finish off just as she's letting go by driving a big fat plug up her ass.

Make her world explode. I'm talking stars, rockets, fireworks, the whole nine yards. I'm talking break the bed, wake the neighbors, set off car alarms type screaming and bucking.

Then continue for about 2, maybe 3 hours like that, smashing her through orgasm after orgasm till she is a sopping spent mess with a big fat well used puffy cunt begging like the broken soul that she is to, "Please, please, no more orgasms. I can't take any more" as she lays in a puddle the size of Lake Ontario.

Yeah-I'm pretty sure my weight loss program wouldn't work.

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ORIGINAL: Jessymarieh

Hi there,

I just wanted to share my situation and see if any of you have been in a similar situation.

I have been together with my Master for 3 years now, we live together and are usually very happy! Have known him 8 years so we are very close. I just feel like recently he wants me to be something else. For example he wants me to lose some weight. I am not fat, I go running 3 or 4 times a week and eat well! So I joined weight watchers and have stuck to it for 2 months with only 2lb loss. I am human at the end of the day and the fact that he doesn't like how I look is making me upset and my confidence is at an all time low.
I have talked to him about it and he said not to get upset about it.
He is also annoyed at me because time and time again I refuse to get a tattoo. I told him this when we first met, and I will never change my mind. He always wants me to turn down a promotion at work, which is a 6.5k pay increase.

It is just getting to much to handle now, I just feel like I love him, but will never be what he wants me to be.
Maybe he just wants me to be a skinny girl, that always says yes, and stays at home all day.

I think we need to sit down and talk about what we want.

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ORIGINAL: Kana

Let's go further grace and point out that this weight loss thing need not be negative if handled correctly.
I'm gonna skip the tattoo thing because that's a straight up talk-you had a limit expressed at the beginning, he wants otherwise.

But the diet, hell, make a game out of it. Give rewards for each pound, small things, bigger rewards for each 5 pound block. Take her shopping. Do something she likes to do (Maybe even, gag, see a girlie type movie), give the slut orgasms!
Lay out lots of positive affirmations, encourage her in every way.

And not just that, but I think we are missing out a key fact here-it's hot as fuck when a slave/sub/slut denies herself pleasure as an act of service. In fact, it's kinda the root of all of what we do. that giving of self over and beyond ones personal expectations or rewards because the giving itself is the reward.
And self denial can be a smoking hot and sexy part of it.

Chain her hungry ass spread-eagled on the bed.
Kiss her all over. Start at the face, Cradle her head. Stroke her cheek. Nibble her nape. Blow in her ear while you stroke her all over. Tell her how proud of her you are, how hot her suffering and self denial is, how horny it makes you to watching her give of self to please...even, especially when its something like food.
Lick her nipples slow, slide your hand up, down, all around her thighs, vulva, hips, cunt mound...but never actually touch the cunt.
Move lower, mouth everywhere-light kisses that flutter and burst, hands busy, coming so close but never making cuntular (Hows that for a coined word!) contact.
Drive her to a point of passion that she is arcing her body, begging to be fucking, penetrated, hell just touch my cunt already sorta stuff.

Then go to town with every Doms best friend, Mr. Rabbit.
Slam that fucker home. No foreplay now,. No fooling around.

Just top end vibrating, balls churning on high, slam that puppy in as high, fast and furious, pushing it as far in as humanly as possible...
All the while grinding those lovely rabbit ears against her greedy little clit, hard press, soft press, hard press, soft...
Wait till she is on the edge of her first orgasm (Which should occur in about .1 seconds), then finish off just as she's letting go by driving a big fat plug up her ass.

Make her world explode. I'm talking stars, rockets, fireworks, the whole nine yards. I'm talking break the bed, wake the neighbors, set off car alarms type screaming and bucking.

Then continue for about 2, maybe 3 hours like that, smashing her through orgasm after orgasm till she is a sopping spent mess with a big fat well used puffy cunt begging like the broken soul that she is to, "Please, please, no more orgasms. I can't take any more" as she lays in a puddle the size of Lake Ontario.

Yeah-I'm pretty sure my weight loss program wouldn't work.

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ORIGINAL: SpiritedRadiance

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ORIGINAL: Kana

Let's go further grace and point out that this weight loss thing need not be negative if handled correctly.
I'm gonna skip the tattoo thing because that's a straight up talk-you had a limit expressed at the beginning, he wants otherwise.

But the diet, hell, make a game out of it. Give rewards for each pound, small things, bigger rewards for each 5 pound block. Take her shopping. Do something she likes to do (Maybe even, gag, see a girlie type movie), give the slut orgasms!
Lay out lots of positive affirmations, encourage her in every way.

And not just that, but I think we are missing out a key fact here-it's hot as fuck when a slave/sub/slut denies herself pleasure as an act of service. In fact, it's kinda the root of all of what we do. that giving of self over and beyond ones personal expectations or rewards because the giving itself is the reward.
And self denial can be a smoking hot and sexy part of it.

Chain her hungry ass spread-eagled on the bed.
Kiss her all over. Start at the face, Cradle her head. Stroke her cheek. Nibble her nape. Blow in her ear while you stroke her all over. Tell her how proud of her you are, how hot her suffering and self denial is, how horny it makes you to watching her give of self to please...even, especially when its something like food.
Lick her nipples slow, slide your hand up, down, all around her thighs, vulva, hips, cunt mound...but never actually touch the cunt.
Move lower, mouth everywhere-light kisses that flutter and burst, hands busy, coming so close but never making cuntular (Hows that for a coined word!) contact.
Drive her to a point of passion that she is arcing her body, begging to be fucking, penetrated, hell just touch my cunt already sorta stuff.

Then go to town with every Doms best friend, Mr. Rabbit.
Slam that fucker home. No foreplay now,. No fooling around.

Just top end vibrating, balls churning on high, slam that puppy in as high, fast and furious, pushing it as far in as humanly as possible...
All the while grinding those lovely rabbit ears against her greedy little clit, hard press, soft press, hard press, soft...
Wait till she is on the edge of her first orgasm (Which should occur in about .1 seconds), then finish off just as she's letting go by driving a big fat plug up her ass.

Make her world explode. I'm talking stars, rockets, fireworks, the whole nine yards. I'm talking break the bed, wake the neighbors, set off car alarms type screaming and bucking.

Then continue for about 2, maybe 3 hours like that, smashing her through orgasm after orgasm till she is a sopping spent mess with a big fat well used puffy cunt begging like the broken soul that she is to, "Please, please, no more orgasms. I can't take any more" as she lays in a puddle the size of Lake Ontario.

Yeah-I'm pretty sure my weight loss program wouldn't work.

For me personally it wouldnt work, but then i dont think sacrificing myself or denial just to make someone happy is worthwhile to me... I already have enough suffering in my life... I dont need it when with a dominant partner..

that and... rabbits dont make me cum.

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ORIGINAL: SpiritedRadiance


that and... rabbits dont make me cum.

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ORIGINAL: myotherself

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ORIGINAL: SpiritedRadiance


that and... rabbits dont make me cum.

...*sobs*

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ORIGINAL: myotherself

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ORIGINAL: SpiritedRadiance


that and... rabbits dont make me cum.

...*sobs*

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ORIGINAL: SpiritedRadiance

Nope... nothing thats built for clit and insertion works because if my anatomy... its either too long or too short or just not right or the clit part fits snugly but you cant actually use the insertion...

give me a simple small "finger" massager and a tilted gspot insert... and im golden....

Im not even a hitachi girl... thing melts piercings...

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ORIGINAL: SpiritedRadiance

Eh, Most men arent worth the trouble to get laid.....

Besides ill trade the vibes and the down the merry lain for a few sharp and shiny things any day ....

Sex, orgasms are nice...

High that lasts a month? So much more inciting