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RE: A serious discussion about cuckolding - 3/16/2012 7:00:32 AM

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I happen to have this great little toy that I call the ugly stick. For as long as I've owned it, clip has hated it. There is no enjoying the sensation that is received. When he sees it come out of the toy bag, he knows he is going to dread it being used on him. It brings him no physical pleasure.

However, I happen to LOVE using the ugly stick. I do it for My own sadistic pleasure. Part of My loving it is exactly BECAUSE he hates it. The only joy he gets out of that ugly stick is My happiness. It is completely about obedience. There's fulfillment in that, but if you asked him the one toy that he would hope I would never take out of My bag, it would be that stick.

If people can understand that about a stick, I think it should help them understand about cuckolding.

I totally understand that. The whole idea of "I don't like it, but I like that she likes it" is a big part of what I like.
I don't like pain. But if she's enjoying it, I'll live through it.
I'm probably the same way with other things too.
But I'm to new to all this to really say for sure.

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RE: A serious discussion about cuckolding - 3/16/2012 7:42:49 AM

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ok... my first relationship at the age of 17... I was housesitting my bfs parents place (he still lived at home) when they went on a summer vacation.. i had sex with a guy, it just sort of happened.. lol When my bf called i confessed all to him.. I expected that was the end of the relationship with him and that i would be kicked to the curb as soon as he/they got back.. Oddly enough,.. they came home a day early and my bf rushed thru the door and gave me the most passionate kiss ever.. and we never discussed it further..

I kept occassionally having sex with other guys, not doing anything to really keep it secret.. but not telling my bf about it.. One time when i was 18, i was renting a room in a house from a school teacher.. he seduced me and got into the habit of having sex with me when he knew i was waiting for my bf to come pick me up.. One time i was up in his room having sex and i heard a noise downstairs.. i was waiting for my bf and thought it was him.. By the time i got downstairs there was no one there, whoever had been had left again.. i waited for my bf and finally he came in, he grabbed me and dragged me down to my room.. i didnt want to have sex with him cuz it was pretty obvious that i already had sex... he was so turned on and fucked me, he was passionate, sexualy aggressive, but we never discussed if it was him i heard and that he knew i had sex with my landlord..

That was all before i knew anything about bdsm and cucks.. I think my landlord was trying to have me caught so my bf would break up with me and he could have me to himself.. It didnt work.. That was how my relationship with my bf went for the time we were together.. i would have sex with other guys once in a while.. until one day i asked my bf what would happen if i was in love with two people.. he said he would leave me.. His response was like the world breaking apart.. and it ended right there for me.. For him casual sex was ok but loving someone else besides him was a deal breaker.. that shocked me, i guess it threw me for a loop..

Knowing what i know now about bdsm and cuckolding.. I would have done things a little differently in that relationship.. I am sure he thought i had sex with more men than i actually did.. That was my first and only cuckold relationship.. not sure if i would want another or not..

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RE: A serious discussion about cuckolding - 3/16/2012 2:39:15 PM

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Knowing what i know now about bdsm and cuckolding.. I would have done things a little differently in that relationship.. I am sure he thought i had sex with more men than i actually did.. That was my first and only cuckold relationship..

Sounds like your BF definitely enjoyed the idea of you having sex with other men. And obviously, there was something about having sex with other men that you enjoyed (or else you wouldn't have continued to do it).

Looking back, do you think that you could have been happy knowing that you could keep your bf, and yet have sex with other guys on occasion if you wanted to? Based on what you described, that sounds like it would have been an ideal relationship for you. But apparently there was something about it that didn't work for you. What went wrong?

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RE: A serious discussion about cuckolding - 3/17/2012 2:09:31 AM

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I have been a bull to seven couples over the last ten years or so , there are many positives and negatives , the best i can say is take your time and foot jump into it too fast

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RE: A serious discussion about cuckolding - 3/17/2012 7:26:38 AM

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I have been a bull to seven couples over the last ten years or so , there are many positives and negatives , the best i can say is take your time and foot jump into it too fast

huh?

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RE: A serious discussion about cuckolding - 3/17/2012 8:42:43 AM

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Knowing what i know now about bdsm and cuckolding.. I would have done things a little differently in that relationship.. I am sure he thought i had sex with more men than i actually did.. That was my first and only cuckold relationship..

Sounds like your BF definitely enjoyed the idea of you having sex with other men. And obviously, there was something about having sex with other men that you enjoyed (or else you wouldn't have continued to do it).

Looking back, do you think that you could have been happy knowing that you could keep your bf, and yet have sex with other guys on occasion if you wanted to? Based on what you described, that sounds like it would have been an ideal relationship for you. But apparently there was something about it that didn't work for you. What went wrong?

We met when we were both in grade 12, both 17 so very young. He was the first guy I ever dated so I didnt have any experience with men and being in a relationship.. I was young and trying to find myself, what i wanted to do for work, I was a free spirit and fearless.. one guy i met at a bus stop and ended up going to a big all day party on a farm somewhere.. I never had sex with him (he did try but I wasnt interested in sex with him).. another (much older) guy was the owner of a company that made sleeping bags, we got talking and I went to his home with him, we had tea and talked more, him i would have had sex with but he might have realized how young i was and didnt try.. it was a time i was learning about living on my own (right after my 17th birthday), finding out about myself, trying different things, trying to find a direction.. like work, i went from a govt job as a lettercarrier to taking the Securities Course that stockbrokers take (the glass ceiling stopped me from being a stockbroker), to selling fairly expensive new homes to moving to the coast and going to college taking business.. and my bf and I bought a house when we were 21.. So a lot of change in my life in my early 20s.. sexually i was trying to find myself with that too..

I think my bf and i would have had a lot more fun if i had known about bdsm & cockolding but I dont know if it would have lasted any longer with him or not.. We grew up together, we were best friends,.. we loved each other i guess, i dont know if it was real love or puppy love,.. but i was the dominant one and maybe i needed a dominant man?.. I dunno.. maybe we just grew apart.. Its really hard to say how that would have changed our relationship as far as it lasting goes..

the first Dom I was in a relationship with a few years ago, we talked about me doing sexual things with other guys but I dont know if that would be the same thing since he would have directed what i did and with who.. I also dont know if he was actually a Dominant or a switch, and he might have secretly been bi.. we never got that far to find out..

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RE: A serious discussion about cuckolding - 3/27/2012 10:15:56 AM

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I've never considered my husband to be a cuck, as he knows exactly what I'm doing and with whom. He just enjoys watching and isn't jealous at all. He attends all first and early meets, and once he's comfortable with who I am playing with, is ok with me going for one on one sessions, although he still really enjoys the watching and so wants to be included in some. I always sort of cringed when Doms would call him a cuck, because I didn't think of him that way, he's my husband, my partner.

Thank you so much for sharing. That is exactly the type of arrangement that I was hoping that someone would share. I have many friends who are in cuckolding relationships where the female is completely in charge. I knew that there had to be others here on CM that were doing the same thing.

BTW, please stop in again after you start serving your new Dom. I'd love to hear an update on how that goes, both for you and the Dom, and also for your husband.

Just thought I'd drop by to say that things haven't worked out as I had hoped they would. Lots of wonderful emails and chats, and even some preparations for a meet, but it never occurred. Ah well, I'm patient, and know that one of these days, (weeks, months or God forbid, years) things will click into place....

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RE: A serious discussion about cuckolding - 3/27/2012 10:29:00 AM

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Darn! Sorry to hear that.

Hang in there. With patience, I'm sure that things will work out eventually.

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RE: A serious discussion about cuckolding - 3/27/2012 6:10:26 PM

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I keep trying to get JJ to do more than rhapsodize, but no luck. Even Kal never really said much about his adventures with MsMlicious, other than it was exciting.

The exciting part I understand. What I want to hear is how does this work as more than a novelty act? Who's playing this cuck game five years into the relationship? Or does the relationship last that long?

And why y'all keep yapping about Simon's tummy when his ass is so supremely bitable is beyond me.

Hey....I'm all for the true experience/lifestyle.....I'm ready.....even marriage!

I want it all.....hot tub filled with jello, vaseline on the entry floor....I'm all good.

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RE: A serious discussion about cuckolding - 3/27/2012 7:15:29 PM

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Forgive me if someone's already brought this up and I missed it but I recently read a cuck/siss blog where the couple broke up after a few years. It seems that after a rich time of much cuck/siss play the woman lost all respect for the man (who had now become a very serious sissy) and much preferred to start a new life with her lover. I forget the url but the story which I assume to be true has a highly cautionary aspect. The danger of losing respect from one's partner seems like a very real prospect. I'd be terrified of giving my wife any excuse to leave me but I applaud anyone who's strong enough to indulge in such a life. Dangerous or not, it's hot.

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RE: A serious discussion about cuckolding - 3/27/2012 7:45:40 PM

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I must say, that aspect of a woman losing her respect for me is not one that I've ever given much thought. But, obviously, it deserves it. Hmmm.

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RE: A serious discussion about cuckolding - 3/27/2012 8:39:33 PM

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I am endlessly fascinated at the opinions of some, when it applies to the male sex drive, and it is only about pleasure. Yet when it is about females, suddenly we are reduced to "broodmares" as if we can not, of our own volition desire sex just for the sake of pleasure. :)

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RE: A serious discussion about cuckolding - 3/27/2012 8:56:18 PM

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I have been a bull to seven couples over the last ten years or so , there are many positives and negatives , the best i can say is take your time and foot jump into it too fast

huh?

to foot-jump, is to jump with your... foot.. just one of them, note the lack of plural 'feet'.....
So, jump too fast with one foot into the situation. That is how you become a 7 times bullsh-.. err just bull.

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RE: A serious discussion about cuckolding - 3/28/2012 9:33:19 PM

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Forgive me if someone's already brought this up and I missed it but I recently read a cuck/siss blog where the couple broke up after a few years. It seems that after a rich time of much cuck/siss play the woman lost all respect for the man (who had now become a very serious sissy) and much preferred to start a new life with her lover. I forget the url but the story which I assume to be true has a highly cautionary aspect. The danger of losing respect from one's partner seems like a very real prospect. I'd be terrified of giving my wife any excuse to leave me but I applaud anyone who's strong enough to indulge in such a life. Dangerous or not, it's hot.

This is SO SO TRUE. I'm so afriad to bring up the cuckolding thing with my girlfriend because of this very point. I wouldn't want her to totally lose respect for me and then leave. Its even like that when trying to get your vanilla relationship to turn bdsm, or your girlfriend to turn to a part time Mistress for you. She may like taking control here and there, but i'm always afraid it will get to the point where she loses respect just because she has so much control and I would do whatever she wants. i.e if she's always telling me I suck in bed, im small, she'd rather someone else, etc etc after saying it so many times she may actually start to believe it and want to leave you for that someone else.

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RE: A serious discussion about cuckolding - 3/29/2012 7:56:22 AM

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Forgive me if someone's already brought this up and I missed it but I recently read a cuck/siss blog where the couple broke up after a few years. It seems that after a rich time of much cuck/siss play the woman lost all respect for the man (who had now become a very serious sissy) and much preferred to start a new life with her lover. I forget the url but the story which I assume to be true has a highly cautionary aspect. The danger of losing respect from one's partner seems like a very real prospect. I'd be terrified of giving my wife any excuse to leave me but I applaud anyone who's strong enough to indulge in such a life. Dangerous or not, it's hot.

This is SO SO TRUE. I'm so afriad to bring up the cuckolding thing with my girlfriend because of this very point. I wouldn't want her to totally lose respect for me and then leave. Its even like that when trying to get your vanilla relationship to turn bdsm, or your girlfriend to turn to a part time Mistress for you. She may like taking control here and there, but i'm always afraid it will get to the point where she loses respect just because she has so much control and I would do whatever she wants. i.e if she's always telling me I suck in bed, im small, she'd rather someone else, etc etc after saying it so many times she may actually start to believe it and want to leave you for that someone else.

I think that what the two of you have brought up is a possibility. But you both seem to operating under that premise that humiliation through sissification, small cock humiliation, etc., is a part of the cuckolding dynamic. And that may be the case in some instances. But there are times when cuckolding is not about small cock humiliation or sissification. It can simply be a matter of female sexual freedom. She can continue to respect you, yet still desire outside lovers from time to time simply for her own sexual pleasure.

But the reality is that there is risk involved anytime you bring a third (or fourth) party into a relationship. That's true regardless of whether you're talking about polyamory, swinging, cuckolding, or vanilla cheating. There is always the potential for hurt feelings, jealousy, and worse when you bring outsiders into a relationship that had previously been monogamous.

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RE: A serious discussion about cuckolding - 3/30/2012 6:21:17 PM

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ok... my first relationship at the age of 17... I was housesitting my bfs parents place (he still lived at home) when they went on a summer vacation.. i had sex with a guy, it just sort of happened.. lol When my bf called i confessed all to him.. I expected that was the end of the relationship with him and that i would be kicked to the curb as soon as he/they got back.. Oddly enough,.. they came home a day early and my bf rushed thru the door and gave me the most passionate kiss ever.. and we never discussed it further..

I kept occassionally having sex with other guys, not doing anything to really keep it secret.. but not telling my bf about it.. One time when i was 18, i was renting a room in a house from a school teacher.. he seduced me and got into the habit of having sex with me when he knew i was waiting for my bf to come pick me up.. One time i was up in his room having sex and i heard a noise downstairs.. i was waiting for my bf and thought it was him.. By the time i got downstairs there was no one there, whoever had been had left again.. i waited for my bf and finally he came in, he grabbed me and dragged me down to my room.. i didnt want to have sex with him cuz it was pretty obvious that i already had sex... he was so turned on and fucked me, he was passionate, sexualy aggressive, but we never discussed if it was him i heard and that he knew i had sex with my landlord..

That was all before i knew anything about bdsm and cucks.. I think my landlord was trying to have me caught so my bf would break up with me and he could have me to himself.. It didnt work.. That was how my relationship with my bf went for the time we were together.. i would have sex with other guys once in a while.. until one day i asked my bf what would happen if i was in love with two people.. he said he would leave me.. His response was like the world breaking apart.. and it ended right there for me.. For him casual sex was ok but loving someone else besides him was a deal breaker.. that shocked me, i guess it threw me for a loop..

Knowing what i know now about bdsm and cuckolding.. I would have done things a little differently in that relationship.. I am sure he thought i had sex with more men than i actually did.. That was my first and only cuckold relationship.. not sure if i would want another or not..

It's entirely possible I may be in love with you.

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RE: A serious discussion about cuckolding - 10/18/2013 9:11:46 AM

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My first cuckolding experience didn't go well. The fear of it ended our relationship. We were young still living with our parents and I knew we couldn't let this out even though it made our relationship so much better. We were in constant communication with each other about everything that went on. That's the best thing is talking about it.

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RE: A serious discussion about cuckolding - 10/18/2013 9:27:18 AM

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Per the guidelines of the forums: Please do not resurrect a thread that is more than three months old. If you wish to continue a conversation, please start a new thread with a link to the old one.

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