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Bearlee -> RE: sub got upset cutting clothes off (6/6/2006 9:52:52 PM)
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ORIGINAL: KnightofMists
This is the inherent risk of consent.... it can be revoked at any moment.
I suppose that is why in my primary relationships I restrict it to a M/s structure. In that revoking of consent means ending the relationship. I don't negotiate with my girls.
I did a similar scene with alandra a couple years ago. She was told to dress up in a very classy and elegant outfit. I think her expectation was that I was going to take her out for a nice supper etc. Instead, I took her a dungeon of someone I knew. I tied her arms up to the hooks above and then proceeded to rip her clothes off. Myself and the person I knew then proceed to use her in a variety of ways for many hours.
At any moment alandra could of revoked consent, or become very pissy afterwards and allowed alot of negative behaviors to project her feelings at me for what I had done with her. However, alandra has understood the authority with the relationship for a very long time an also understands the consequence of removing consent. She is able to walk the talk because it is an intrinsic part of who she is within our relationship. She doesn't need to seek to give consent... She gave it. She seeks to demonstrate her consent constantly by obeying my will. She hold on to one external fact. She holds On that I will do my will with her but I shall not harm her. She understands that she is a part of my existence like my arm or hearts is apart of me. She understands that I could no more cut off my arm or rip my heart out than I could desire to harm her. To harm her or my lovely kyra equates to self-abuse to me. It has been my focus to make my girls a part of who I am. In some ways they are the very part of who i am, alot of ways actually.
mmmmmmmmmm… I absolutely loved your post, Sir. I’m often amazed at the subs and slaves who say they would have stuck that cookie where the sun don’t shine. HOW can they even think that? Okay…I’m submissive, though some insist I’m slave material, I dunno…what I DO know is I wouldn’t play with a Dominant I didn’t trust not to injure me, so I don’t really use safewords. Past that…I cannot imagine having a Dom and EVER saying no! I WANT a relationship where IF I were to say ‘no’…it would be done. After all, HOW can one go on from there? Once you tell a Dominant ‘No’…haven’t you just topped him? And…oh lordy! The feelings ya wrestle with trying to do as told!
Okay, understand I’m NOT discussing “OMG, I think I broke a rib, we gotta quit!” I’m talking “No way am I gonna pee in a litter box!” Boy oh boy…I’d just plain ol’ KNOW if I said ‘No’…it’d be done. I suppose some men might not even know it, either…but I would. And I’d be gone.
I am encouraged by the likes of yourself and artglfr; that what I’m looking for exists out there…
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