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TNDommeK -> RE: Young "Financial Dommes" (5/30/2012 11:31:10 AM)
Dammit, I hate when they do that. Don't be a chicken sh*t, come back and play with us. You can't just take your ball and go home! Ugg, you know I think I forgot what this thread was even started for. Grrr. Now I have to go back and read. Edited to re-add: I went back and read, oh yea...this guy. I invited him back to play with us.

TxSeekers -> RE: Young "Financial Dommes" (5/30/2012 12:03:43 PM)
Let it not be said I would hide what I have to say. I prefer not to contribute to the uselessness of board ranting. I said I was done and I am. But since others wish what I said made public. Here are my responses to those bashing me. Judge or don't I don't care. I have a life off of here to lead. No I will not respond further except in private because I do not wish to add to the inanity that message boards have become. If you wish to bitch then seek me out and Try Talking to me, instead of making wild accusations and insinuations. My first email to nicebutmeangirl SO how long does one have to be in the lifestyle before you consider them Worthy of being called Experienced and knowledgeable? If you want to question My experience and knowledge level wouldn't it be best to see exactly what My qualifications are? Generally finding out the facts before you make assumptions about something keeps you from looking like an idiot when it is shown that you spoke out of turn and without having Enough Knowledge yourself to be able to give an Informed opinion. And in regards to my post. I have only looked at the boards 4-5 times in the couple years I have had a profile on here. If I had realized that the subject had been brought up before I never would have posted on it. It was not my intent to rehash something that has already been ranted about by others. And as tempting as it is to comment on the many things being said about me....I stated I would not be posting again so as to avoid putting more bullshit on the boards and to avoid encouraging more of the feeding frenzy that occurs whenver someone posts an opinion on message boards. So you can continue to harp and bray about who and what you Assume I am or you could have tried talking to me as others did to find out the facts. Just because you are older than me does not mean you are better than everyone else. Age does not always equate to wisdom. And everyone makes mistakes. Mine was forgetting how much trash talk happens on a message board instead of people discussing things like adults and perhaps working to find ways to fix things. Second email to nicebutmeangirl As I said it was not my intent to start thread of innuendo and name calling. You questioned my experience level based on my age. I was responding to that in a mature and rational manner in private rather than starting a useless war on the boards. And no I am not going to post again I will not contribute further to a pointless debate full of people more interested in bashing each other than having an actual discussion on the merits or lack of merits of the topic. I have better things to do with my time than wasting it on boards in which mature discussion is impossible. I have a real life offline that is more important than the ranting on the boards of people with nothing better to do with their lives. And my response by email to TNDommeK I prefer not to be involved in the descent of discussion into pointless ranting and heckling that accomplishes nothing but the false sense of accomplishment by those with nothing better to do with their time but post on the boards in order to make themselves feel superior to everyone else. My post was a mistake and will not lead to anything constructive being done. So I will not compound the problem by adding more fuel to the flames. I had forgotten all anyone wants to do on message boards is bash each other. Aside from a few individuals that are truly interested in having actual discussions. I said I was done and I meant it. I have better things to do with my time. I have a life offline. Contrary to what others may choose to do with their lives, I believe my life is more fulfilling offline living the lifestyle than bitching about it in a place that it does no good. Now As I said before I am done with this. Have fun

TNDommeK -> RE: Young "Financial Dommes" (5/30/2012 12:10:32 PM)
sighs It could have very well been bad timing on his part with this topic, but I felt there were things he said that weren't correct, and some that were. But, as I wrote to him: "the boards should come with warnings." Meaning we aren't very tolerable to assumptions ourselves. Thicker skin is really needed here. Oh well, that thread was fun while it lasted.

PrincessLily91 -> RE: Young "Financial Dommes" (5/30/2012 1:36:29 PM)
I know I am exactly the type you all are ranting about and discussing, but being as such...I kinda want to step in and stand up against what is being said in this orginal post. Yes...I am young. I may not be as experienced as you or other dommes, but guess what? I have a very strong interest in this lifestyle and we all start somewhere. Just because I am inexperienced and learning the ropes does not make me "fake", and "insta-domme", or "parasite" among many other names I've been called in my inbox. Even more annoying are the people who write me to say I'm fake, I try and offer some kind of proof, and then they simply report me and block me. It's very discouraging to say the least. Young financial dommes have thier place. As one sub explained to me in a conversation, he prefers young dommes for three reasons. First, because we are young, we don't recognize the consequence we are imposing on the other person by taking advantage or going too far...which makes it more exciting and almost more dominating. Secondly, if he ever wants to leave or make me go away all he has to do is close his wallet and we lose interest. And three, part of financial domination is seeing/knowing the enjoyment you bring the domme. And he feels as though the gadgets, concert tickets, and clothes he gets a young girl is far easier to get that satisfaction from...over an older woman who might need/want more serious or expensive things. But that isn't all I am. I also am starting a clips store which I will use to explore fetishes with my sub and others. I talk to many subs on here with no financial exchange at all. I seek to learn from other dommes. I do have a real life slave, who is older than me and was the one who opened my eyes to this world. He is teaching me what he knows, I enjoy what he does for me and has shown me. What I am saying is...sure, there might be some guys pretending to be girls on here. But I am not one of them. Neither is my friend Jade. And neither are many others. We are REAL and have mutual relationships with other guys that enjoy what we enjoy. So why should you have any say on whether we can be here? Why should I be blocked from this site for being young and/or inexperienced? I am not allowed to have a community in which I can learn and grow into an experienced domme someday? That is seriously unfair and completely unwarranted stance to take. And I do get tired of being harassed and reported simply because at my point in life I can't do everything the older dommes can. Maybe instead of harassing us, pre-determining our worth, or telling others we are fake and to report us....you could try talking to us and educating us. If you decide you don't like me or are wary afterwards...fine. You don't have to deal with me. But go beyond that...just makes no sense. You shouldn't care that much about what I or others do/enjoy. (NOTE: This says is is reply to TNDommeK, but it is intended toward the OP and anyone who wishes to discuss it. So please don't take this as being directed at you TNDommeK, hah)

TNDommeK -> RE: Young "Financial Dommes" (5/30/2012 2:17:21 PM)
I didn't, I usually post a fast reply and it posts to whomever was last in posting. I knew who it was directed to. And might I say a very nice post.

kalikshama -> RE: Young "Financial Dommes" (5/30/2012 2:22:44 PM)
Actually, you're NOT the type of Fin Dom we're dissing as you seem reasonably intelligent, articulate, and self-aware. For a contrast see http://www.collarchat.com/m_4123046/tm.htm [sm=welcomewave.gif] ps - if you use the text box on the bottom or Fast Reply, you'll be replying to whatever post is currently last in the thread. If you want to reply to a particular post, click on the Reply button within that post.

PeonForHer -> RE: Young "Financial Dommes" (5/30/2012 2:31:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: kalikshama For a contrast see http://www.collarchat.com/m_4123046/tm.htm That was just priceless. Not just a Queen, but a resurrected Queen. Brilliant! [:D]

PrincessLily91 -> RE: Young "Financial Dommes" (5/30/2012 2:37:45 PM)
@TNDommeK - Haha, thank you. :) I just felt like there was nobody from my side/vantage point speaking up...and I get called fake all day long. So I wanted to speak up. I literally just had a guy two minutes ago chew me out for being a fake and ruining this site. I sent a proof pic immediately after and his tone changed, but that isn't always the case. :/ @kalikshama - hahahaha....ok. point taken. And thanks for the heads up! Also, the OP contacted me and seemed to agree with me and my post had valid points perhaps he hadn't considered. I do understand the source of his frustrations, I just wanted to remind him that to ban the fakes means banning girls like me who aren't fake. It's a lot like our legal system in the USA: To prevent condemning the innocent, sometimes you have to let the guilty walk free.

kalikshama -> RE: Young "Financial Dommes" (5/30/2012 2:37:47 PM)
quote: That was just priceless. Not just a Queen, but a resurrected Queen. Brilliant! Who needs Gold so she can get on with her former duties [:D]

Delilya -> RE: Young "Financial Dommes" (5/30/2012 2:43:41 PM)
The biggest problem I see with how the OP wishes to change things is this: when you take away the rights of any one group, you are risking your own. Who gets to be the elite who decides who belongs and who doesn't? Last I looked CM was big enough for all of us, regardless of our persuasions.

TNDommeK -> RE: Young "Financial Dommes" (5/30/2012 2:46:53 PM)
That is My absolute favorite post since I have been here...the resurrected queen one. She should get some sort or reward. Lol. Lily, yes you seem to be one of the fin Dommes that I love to see on these forums. There are so many like the resurrected queen that make Me want to hide under a rock for having the word Fin Domme on My profile,lol. I try to rise above those others. I always respond to subs who email Me saying things like "I like this and that done to me, I will send tribute" by telling them I CAN'T BE BOUGHT. I tend to do things a bit different when it comes to what I will accept and what I won't. So, again, I love your approach to things.

PeonForHer -> RE: Young "Financial Dommes" (5/30/2012 2:53:57 PM)
quote: I literally just had a guy two minutes ago chew me out for being a fake and ruining this site. I sent a proof pic immediately after and his tone changed, but that isn't always the case. :/ Odd. Well, for what it's worth, The first big clue for me that you're not one the zillions of fakers is that you're not using a porn pic in your avatar. None in your profile either. Further clues: your profile doesn't read in that stilted, uber-Dommely 'Goddess-ese', the grammar and spelling are OK and you're upfront about what you want.

Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: Young "Financial Dommes" (5/30/2012 2:59:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze Thanks for the big copy and paste, you will be disappointed to learn that I actually read his replies, if you would have comprehended my replies you might have figured it out yourself. So you feel fit to defend him, fine, whatever. What this has to do with 50 Shades of Grey - no idea. A book people buy and some guy who feels fit to be the spokesperson of everything BDSM - 2 different things. You rather have him than a book you haven't read - well, good for you, have him, the rest of us rather not have him, but hey, to each their own, I'd hate to stand in the way of a great bromance. You have my blessing. I still think he's a pretentious little twat with a missionary complex. Oh come on LadyConstanze, I never wrote that I'd rather have him than I book I haven't read. I actually said, I'd rather have him compared to somebody talking about having their tits, clits and body parts cut off and used as Door stop. Which was in direct reference to something the OP wrote. I thought you'd at least "Get it" (get the reference) since you've read his replies. People representing the Lifestyle, BDSM or all this madness, do effect things for the rest of us. Some, such as popular book like "50 Shades of Grey" have a wider and deep impact compared to somebody like the OP. Which was the point I was making. I get it, you think he's a pretentious little twat with a missionary complex. However, you don't know him. I don't know him. Other people don't know him.

BitaTruble -> RE: Young "Financial Dommes" (5/30/2012 3:05:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TxSeekers Honestly how much experience do they have and what kind of fool gives his/her hard earnings to some kid to be spent on useless junk? You just described the American public and Congress. [;)]

PrincessLily91 -> RE: Young "Financial Dommes" (5/30/2012 3:12:39 PM)
Thank you TNDommeK, I like your style too. :) PeonForHer - haha, thanks. I'm not sure what else I can do to reduce my "fake" vibe aside form post a proof pic in my profile...but then I feel like someone will steal it and use it ona new profile and that makes it better for the fakes...so I don't know. There is only so much I can do...I am in BDSM clips for crying out loud, what more do they want from me??? BitaTrouble - hahaha. That's the truth.

Ilayda -> RE: Young "Financial Dommes" (5/30/2012 3:13:06 PM)
It is discouraging. I recently had someone somewhat local decide I was a man and block me because I said I was sexually aroused by the idea of financial domination... I did have a terribly pretentious profile at one point in which I called myself Goddess-like (before I had anything about money on my profile) as a bit of an experiment, and I think I had more people ask to tribute me then than I do now. I think that says a lot about the "finslave" demographic, much of which is negative, but also which probably explains the reason behind the so-called "fake" financial dommes. On a related note, now that I'm upfront about it, it's usually submissive males who call me "fake" or "a scam" or the like. With the pretentious profile, it was usually dominant women. Probably just coincidences, but interesting nonetheless.

TNDommeK -> RE: Young "Financial Dommes" (5/30/2012 3:28:50 PM)
Lily, a lot of the times male subs will call you fake and say that you are being talked about here on the forums just to get you to "prove yourself" on cam or get you to send pics etc. I fell for that one a long time ago. Just be you and do you, don't worry what others say. Ilayda, that is interesting, I get no hate mail for women, still from males. And it is usually the same one who was turned down by Me because I wasn't interested in what he wanted. And when he offered money and was still turned down, he had to throw a tantrum. So, aside from him, I really don't get idiotic mail that much. I have rewritten and revised My profile a million times since I started coming over here, and getting good advice about how to do so.

Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: Young "Financial Dommes" (5/30/2012 3:53:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TNDommeK Lily, a lot of the times male subs will call you fake and say that you are being talked about here on the forums just to get you to "prove yourself" on cam or get you to send pics etc. I fell for that one a long time ago. Just be you and do you, don't worry what others say. Ilayda, that is interesting, I get no hate mail for women, still from males. And it is usually the same one who was turned down by Me because I wasn't interested in what he wanted. And when he offered money and was still turned down, he had to throw a tantrum. So, aside from him, I really don't get idiotic mail that much. I have rewritten and revised My profile a million times since I started coming over here, and getting good advice about how to do so. People seem to think money can buy them everything they want, when the encounter the NO not for sale deal... they throw a fit. Like a little kid in the candy store. Hahahaha When it comes to pictures, going on Cam for a few to prove one is real... this really should not be a big deal. If anything it should be considered a reasonable and understandable necessity (Considering the number of fakes/Posers there are online). Really should not be some twisted up Dramatic Mental Ninja bullshit going on over this. It's a two way street, both people need to prove to each other what they actually look like. The truth be told, there are too many people which have been broken in by fakes using pictures of somebody else.

PeonForHer -> RE: Young "Financial Dommes" (5/30/2012 3:57:01 PM)
quote: hahaha Indeed.

Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: Young "Financial Dommes" (5/30/2012 4:03:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PrincessLily91 Thank you TNDommeK, I like your style too. :) PeonForHer - haha, thanks. I'm not sure what else I can do to reduce my "fake" vibe aside form post a proof pic in my profile...but then I feel like someone will steal it and use it ona new profile and that makes it better for the fakes...so I don't know. There is only so much I can do...I am in BDSM clips for crying out loud, what more do they want from me??? BitaTrouble - hahaha. That's the truth. Damn, you're doing everything within reason. One of the things I look for are day-to-day pictures snapped off using a cell phone or basic camera. Which it appears you have plenty of. I don't get a "fake" vibe off from your profile either.

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