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wildernessbitch -> RE: Help (7/4/2012 11:26:42 AM)
Well perhaps if you (as in every woman) didn't play with people before you did some kind of investigative work, there would be less horror stories. Women need to keep themselves safe and as far as I know that never happens by blindly trusting strangers.

kalikshama -> RE: Help (7/4/2012 11:40:54 AM)
quote: http://www.collarchat.com/m_4095843/mpage_1/key_New%252CMistress/tm.htm#4095843 Did you notice that the one person who bothered to read the profile was snarky? Additionally, there is the danger of being mod-spanked if one is less than welcoming in Introductions.

GreedyTop -> RE: Help (7/4/2012 11:42:15 AM)
mantra loves the mods not gonna say it, loves the mods not gonna say it...* WILL say this: lizi is in a committed relationship.. can YOU say that, you friggin sock?

CRYPTICLXVI -> RE: Help (7/4/2012 11:43:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rule To build one's confidence, it is best to start with one's toes, I suspect. Watch them. If they wiggle, exercize your will that they stop wiggling. If they do not wiggle, exercize your will that they wiggle. If they obey you, you will have made significant progress. If not, then keep at it until you either succeed or realize that being a master is not your vocation. Rule, it is good to see you still here, I remember you when I was here a long time ago, under another profile... Greetings again. C (I am too an asshole, I have references).

Lockit -> RE: Help (7/4/2012 11:44:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: wildernessbitch Well perhaps if you (as in every woman) didn't play with people before you did some kind of investigative work, there would be less horror stories. Women need to keep themselves safe and as far as I know that never happens by blindly trusting strangers. ROFLMAO! Coming from the person that says what she says on her profile... I find this ironically funny! Your links to other threads in your previous post had three threads from introductions where we are required to be nice or not post. You cannot use them to signify how men and women are treated differently. You can do it, but it won't go far. The fourth... well, that was a number of years ago and didn't get a whole lot of attention. However please note who the posters were. A number of them are professional web site owners or those trying to draw attention to their web sites and they often... I mean really often, cater to things lifestylers wouldn't. I do recall one person that wasn't so encouraging. I have seen women coming in claiming to be dominant getting eaten. Sometimes it depends on who is around and actually sees the post or thread and sometimes, it all depends on what is said. Someone asking a simple question or a question that is seen as pretty elementary in dominance is going to hear a lot of things when they make claims to being someone they clearly aren't. Whether we define things differently or not, they haven't a clue even in vanilla-land on the inner workings of a relationship or finding someone. Anyway... some get eaten or don't get eaten, no matter what they title themselves and are asking or saying. People tend to interact the way they do... but I don't see a huge discrepancy between gender and how people are treated. I didn't say there is none as there can be. I said, a huge discrepancy... which seems to be what you were implying on a previous post and trying to prove with the links you posted.

wildernessbitch -> RE: Help (7/4/2012 11:46:03 AM)
Yes I did notice that one poster objected to the family situation or the fact she was a findomme but no one had issues with her calling herself Mistress. Do you think then that bottoms everywhere should automatically submit to someone because they are Masters?

kalikshama -> RE: Help (7/4/2012 11:50:01 AM)
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Lockit -> RE: Help (7/4/2012 11:52:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: wildernessbitch Yes I did notice that one poster objected to the family situation or the fact she was a findomme but no one had issues with her calling herself Mistress. Do you think then that bottoms everywhere should automatically submit to someone because they are Masters? LOL... It's a holiday... you really don't need to keep digging!

wildernessbitch -> RE: Help (7/4/2012 11:55:17 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lockit quote: ORIGINAL: wildernessbitch Well perhaps if you (as in every woman) didn't play with people before you did some kind of investigative work, there would be less horror stories. Women need to keep themselves safe and as far as I know that never happens by blindly trusting strangers. ROFLMAO! Coming from the person that says what she says on her profile... I find this ironically funny! Why because I engage is Risk Aware Consensual Kink? Or because my kink isn't your kink?

GreedyTop -> RE: Help (7/4/2012 11:56:04 AM)
because you're an idiot, perhaps?

Lockit -> RE: Help (7/4/2012 11:57:43 AM)
[:D][:D][:D][:D] Soooooooo not worth a gold letter!

GreedyTop -> RE: Help (7/4/2012 12:02:19 PM)
hey, I'm overdue. it's been a while.. ;) I collect them, yanno!!

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Help (7/4/2012 12:03:27 PM)
Lizi, for lots of folks, Mistress is just the female of Master, and I do shrug when I see new people using it. But I come from one of those quasi-hoary traditions, too. If someone with zero experience wants to call themselves a master OR a slave, well good luck to them. Reality will bite them in the snoot or it won't. Same with those masochists who have never felt a cane strike, or the ones who want to be raped with a giant dildo. OP, your dog avi is gorgeous! Get out and meet ALL kinds of pervy people. There is much to be said for social networking. Keep your ears and eyes open, and your mouth shut unless it's to ask a respectful question. Don't judge what you see until you develop some discernment. Have fun. It's why we're here.

wildernessbitch -> RE: Help (7/4/2012 12:09:25 PM)
Lady Hibiscus I could not have said what you said better. It isn't like I think that everyone should run around calling themselves either. In fact when I see it I tend to think ... okay. But I just get my feathers ruffled when people jump on them and say shit like "You are not a Master. This is a sacred title"

lilcracker -> RE: Help (7/4/2012 12:13:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lilcracker quote: ORIGINAL: DarkSteven Hi there! Welcome to the collarme forums! 1. You are not a Master. A Master is someone who has considerable experience and recognition in the community. I've been with MANY who were not active in the community (because I am not active myself and abhor it) but they are still MASTERS. Sorry DS there is no hard fast rule in what defines a Master. There have probably been two zillion and one discussions on what defines a Master. Didn't mean to derail the whole thread but I did italize the part I had a problem with now I will bold it as well....what the heck does having recongnition in your community mean? Slave Master (aka the goof ball who put his slaves in vats of acid) was HIGHLY respected in his ONLINE community!!!! Until he was outted and arrested. And just because someone has considerable experience does mean a whole lot if he's a jerk. LOTS of people claim to be Masters---and yep it sucks they they take a title that is suppose to mean something and attach it to their name but why attack one guy who IS new and probably really did not know.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Help (7/4/2012 12:14:29 PM)
For ME, it is not a sacred title, it's an EARNED title. When I was starting out, no one argued that I was a top. A TOP. I BECAME a master, after years of learning and service to the community. Still, if one person wants to call another "master" that's between them. They only need to please one another. I dearly wish the chest thumpers would suit the fuck up and quit making empty claims, but that's the way things are now.

GreedyTop -> RE: Help (7/4/2012 12:16:57 PM)
Steven did NOT attack the noob. he pointed out that quote: LOTS of people claim to be Masters .

GreedyTop -> RE: Help (7/4/2012 12:18:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus For ME, it is not a sacred title, it's an EARNED title. When I was starting out, no one argued that I was a top. A TOP. I BECAME a master, after years of learning and service to the community. Still, if one person wants to call another "master" that's between them. They only need to please one another. I dearly wish the chest thumpers would suit the fuck up and quit making empty claims, but that's the way things are now. QFT

wildernessbitch -> RE: Help (7/4/2012 12:24:15 PM)
The point is that it is a free world and people can almost call themselves anything they want to. It is up to the individual following to decide if they are worthy of that title or not. Even if someone has a cap does not, IMO, mean that i owe them my obedience. Most likely if he or she has earned a cap then they are likely someone who will get that respect by being who they are not because they got a cap gifted to them by the community.

GreedyTop -> RE: Help (7/4/2012 12:28:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: wildernessbitch The point is that it is a free world and people can almost call themselves anything they want to. It is up to the individual following to decide if they are worthy of that title or not. Even if someone has a cap does not, IMO, mean that i owe them my obedience. Most likely if he or she has earned a cap then they are likely someone who will get that respect by being who they are not because they got a cap gifted to them by the community. I now call myself Queen of the Universe. I expect my coffee at 6am.

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