fucktoyprincess
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I'm so glad this article is out there. I really hate that stereotype that those who are in the lifestyle are psychologically damaged, and that it is that damage that brought us to this world, and explains our enjoyment of it. While I've encountered people on my BDSM journey who do fit that profile, the vast majority I've met, do not. I haven't read these books in their entirety, but everything I've read about them (descriptions, reviews, excerpts) makes me dislike them intensely. I realize it's just fiction, and I realize that people are entitled to their own tastes, and yada, yada, yada. But that these poorly written books (universally acknowledged as so), that are little more than BDSM meets Harlequin romance, should be so very popular just bothers me a bit. Maybe my issue, but just sharing my perspective. And I'm sick of my male Dominant friends asking me if women who've read and enjoyed these books would actually be interested in BDSM. My honest answer is "no". I think the reality of what we do would actually scare them immensely. If you gave these same readers The Story of O, or Rice's Beauty Trilogy, I think they wouldn't enjoy nearly as much. It's not the BDSM they are responding to. It is the classic fairy tale romance of the naive woman and the seemingly "perfect" man (handsome, rich, powerful, yada, yada, yada), who turns out to have a (gasp) tragic flaw, which of course the woman can help him "cure" and then they can live "happily ever after". This is no different than the obsession that most girls/women have with fairy tales. And I'm not saying a man cannot come and sweep a woman off her feet. Not at all. I've experienced that enough times to know. It's just these books are really just a form of fairy tale. I don't think the appeal is the BDSM, so much as the "I can change him", "I can win him over" and "we will live happily ever after". You know what the best fairy tale is - The Little Mermaid. I really like the fact that in that story there is no happy ending. The prince is revealed for who he really is. And the mermaid has given away something valuable for nothing. As a story, it is much more compelling and gives much more food for thought than this Shades of Grey nonsense. Sorry, I've strayed off topic a bit. Just hate hearing about these books.
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