juliaoceania
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Joined: 4/19/2006 From: Somewhere Over the Rainbow Status: offline
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The funny thing is this, when I first started posting here there was a lady whom the whole board wanted to lynch for being a married sub... I stood up for her... Why? She wasnt asking people what they thought of her situation, she was asking those that had a similar situation to tell her their experiences. You, on the other hand sskitten sought to justify your choices. You do what you need to do, and your right, perhaps I am judging, but only because your posts challenged us all to judge you. The other lady asked for experiences, you asked for validation... big diff. No one with any sort of values concerning the truth is going to think you know how to be truthful, least of all to yourself, you have already deceived yourself into thinking your lies are better than the truth of who you are. I say it like I see it, and I am not backing down.. those who live in denial live a life without growth. One of my best friends in the whole world lived what you are. I love her anyways, I stayed up at night with her, listened to her. I think the world of this person. I trust her implicitly, but I never backed down on what my opinion was of what she was doing and how it was harming her. It didnt mean I didnt love her and respect her for the wonderful person she is (and believe me, she is a wonderful giving person thru and thru). She was evolved enough to know that growth comes the hard way, and that in order to grow more she had to be honest. I cannot tell you the amount of courage THAT takes... many people responding to you have pointed this out to you, yet you chose my post because they are actually harder on you than I am... I am guessing that because I have never commited the same sin as you that makes me an easier target. I have been cheated on.. I can tell you how much it sucks to have a brand new baby in your arms and some strange woman calling your house for your husband. It hurts like hell, especially the lies.. trying to make you feel like you are crazy when you question them. I am older and wiser now, I know the world isnt back and white... there is redemption in the world. I hope you find it.. it is a lot easier to start a thread in order to get the responses you knew this one would engender than it is to face your own self in the mirrror and take inventory of that person... I would rather be judgmental than live with what you live with on a daily basis.. flame me if you must, it is a lot easier I guess than dealing with your own issues... Good luck to you and your whole family.. I really wish you the best, and hope all ends well.
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