UllrsIshtar -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/30/2012 1:04:51 PM)
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ORIGINAL: TNDommeK I would say in my case with my subs, it would be denial that they enjoy. Each sub is different of course,as is every relationship I have with each of them. But for the most part it is the denial. I have had a few tell me it is the humiliation as well as knowing he has totally given his hard earned money to me because he understands and likes the mind control I have over him. See, and I totally get that. I've had an interest in a long-distance/online relationship with a sub for a while now, and one of the thing I'd definitely would like to do is findomme. But not at all from a "pay me monthly dues" kind of perspective, because there wouldn't be anything in that for me. Instead, I want it from a control perspective. I imagine, as time goes by, getting more an more insight in his financial situation, and getting more and more control over it. Having him submit receipts for everything he buys/spends, and exactly knowing how much money he makes, and then slowly, over time, squeeze down to the point where he'll stand at checkout in a grocery store, and not dare to do so much as buy a pack of gum that wasn't authorized beforehand, because he'd be unable to account for the missing money. It's not so much a "give me the money" kind of thing for me, though getting spoiled is obviously nice. But more of a "I want him to think of me, and get a hard cock, with ever single cent he ever spends" kinda thing. Because of that, I also don't really care about how much money the guy would make... in fact, I'd prefer he makes enough to live off comfortable, but not so much he's got tons of spare cash, cause it would make it easier to get him to a place of denying himself for my pleasure, if he doesn't have loads of spare money already. I really don't care about the money per say... my husband makes well over 6 figures... If I was interested in "gold digging", I'm set there already and I really don't anticipate the petty cash and gifts and online findomme relationship would create would have much of an impact on my monthly budget. It's just that getting a guy to the point where he's willing to suffer for me seriously gets me off... and I consider squeezing his wallet one of *the* easiest ways to actually get a person to "suffer" for you in an online relationship. I've never tried to peruse this kind of thing before, because of the stigma it has, and the amount of work associated with finding this type of guy (who actually wants his finances controlled, versus just paying a monthly due). But it's something I fantasize about a lot.
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