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Winterapple -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/31/2012 10:51:51 AM)

I think blogs like that bring the goddess
quickly down from her pedestal and reveal
her to be a whiny and not very bright girl.

If she understood what she was doing
she would be using her blog to build her
persona not expose her private life.
The psos and cam girls who use blogs
to attract and keep customers don't
'break character', strippers and porn
actors don't either. They understand
like the old Hollywood movie stars
understood, their audience isn't
interested in listening to them kvetch
about their problems or seeing them
without their make up.

I think the fin dommes that get heckled
when they come storming onto the
boards get heckled because they're
either trying to use the board as ad
space or they're so cartoonish and
clueless they can't be taken remotely
serious. They're amateurs and it shows.

But a lot of the threads that pop up
are just hostile to the idea of financial
domination. It seems to push a lot
of buttons. I think this idea some
people seem to have of the males
who seek these women out as being
victimized is silly. I'm sure any number
of them have been disappointed in how
things played out but that doesn't
make them victims.
And every person doesn't come away
disappointed. The ones that are content
with their arrangements don't seem
to post about it very often.
And one reason they probably don't
is such a thread would produce a lot
of negative feedback even with the
poster saying he's happy as a clam.



TNDommeK -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/31/2012 11:05:06 AM)

I agree, it did take her down a few notches. I would assume like anything that involves a male paying a woman, to some extent they are seeking a fantasy. And when you cloud it all up talking about you're getting evicted or your clothes have all been destroyed, etc...you aren't the perfect fantasy anymore and you lost the customer, unless you get one of the "save a ho" types,lol.



PrincessLyr -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/31/2012 12:37:21 PM)

Findom is not hard to understand. A female's power is seen through Her sex, just as a man's power is seen through his money.

A man is brought up to believe that the key to hie success, his proof of accomplishment in life is how much money he has and makes. Is that right? Idk..but that's the way it is.

It IS a power exchange. That same man is so enticed by this woman that he has to sacrifice his pride, ego, power, hard earned dollar, etc. To HER. He is not a victim. He is a grown man with an adult mind who makes choices.

Not very diffetent from the poor woman gives her last dollar to the collection plate on Sunday.



MistressDemeter9 -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/31/2012 12:56:43 PM)


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ORIGINAL: PrincessJessieJ

Okay.
To put it bluntly- it's power exchange. The whole damn thing. I've said it before, I'll say it again- look at society. Look at it.
Everything you want or need can be bought with money- with the exception of love, of course. yes, im filing friends under love as well.
But food? roof over your head? clothes on your back? Money pays for those, money keeps you having those.
And look at politics. The more money you've got, the more influence. and influence=power.
To put it in simpler terms..

money=influence=power.
When a woman takes a mans money FROM him, re: Financial domination (not rinsers here, not talking about rinsers.) and uses it on herself, she's using her power to take his and add to hers.
It's all an exchange. he gives up power to her, she takes it from him. And most of the GOOD findommes I've come into contact with don't 'just' take their money- they keep contact with them, communications, cam, right up to even sending them letters, christmas cards, etc. and sometimes even presents.



That just about covers it! :-)

But yes, all true. And that is what most BDSM play is about, the use and affect of power between partners (Not always sexual) that know and trust each other. And if money is a part of that, who's business is it, other than the two engaged in the play?



MistressDemeter9 -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/31/2012 1:04:06 PM)

Thanks.

Like I say, I'm still relatively now to all this, but I know what I enjoy. I don't presume to tell anyone else they can't enjoy what they are doing!

I also feel that the 'size' of the tribute means less than the significance of the object given. I am a total geek and love comics and Lego and things like that. I would be happy for a sub who wanted to give to send small things like that if he were unable to stump up mega-bucks. Like I say, I don't want to bankrupt anyone, but I want to make the whole experience as enjoyable for them as it is for Me.



ChatteParfaitt -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/31/2012 1:15:25 PM)

I'm going to come at this from a very different pov.

Himself controls the money. Which means in our relationship, if you look at it in the right context, he is my financial dominant. Now, we have known each other for 15 years, lived together for 14 years, and had common money for 10 (not always in his control, not the point of this thread).

For him to be the one in control makes sense to us.

That is a far cry from the 19 year old "dommes" who think they can get a free ride b/c they have a gash. And YES, I *am* being vulgar for a reason.

Realize, I have nothing against prodomming or prostitution. As long as the client and pro are mutually happy, I don't see why it has to be anyone else's business.

I have a major problem with the scammer "dommes" who are just another one of the 50 shades of shitty gray that give BDSM a nasty rap.


So, to answer the question, is it a legitimate form of D/s? In theory, absolutely. In practice? 99% of the time NO.



littlewonder -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/31/2012 1:38:49 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Kana


quote:

ORIGINAL: littlewonder

There are men who want to give a woman all their money as their fetish.
There are women who take it as their fetish.

So yeah, it's legitimate.


Hey, have I mentioned this brand new fetish I found that I loooooooove?



Which one? [8D]



MistressDemeter9 -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/31/2012 1:43:12 PM)

Maybe it would be interesting if some of the fin-subs on this site were to comment. I find it interesting that they haven't.



littlewonder -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/31/2012 2:02:19 PM)

Most don't come to this side. And those who do respond are usually ranting about findommes being whores and sugar babies.



MistressDemeter9 -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/31/2012 2:23:15 PM)


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ORIGINAL: littlewonder

Most don't come to this side. And those who do respond are usually ranting about findommes being whores and sugar babies.


How sad...

I guess it would be morally dubious for a domme to ask her sub for a comment...? Obviously a good sub will praise his/her Master/Mistress to the high heavens.



PrincessJessieJ -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/31/2012 2:31:44 PM)


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ORIGINAL: MistressDemeter9

Maybe it would be interesting if some of the fin-subs on this site were to comment. I find it interesting that they haven't.


What am I, chopped liver? :<



PrincessJessieJ -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/31/2012 2:37:27 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressDemeter9

Thanks.

Like I say, I'm still relatively now to all this, but I know what I enjoy. I don't presume to tell anyone else they can't enjoy what they are doing!

I also feel that the 'size' of the tribute means less than the significance of the object given. I am a total geek and love comics and Lego and things like that. I would be happy for a sub who wanted to give to send small things like that if he were unable to stump up mega-bucks. Like I say, I don't want to bankrupt anyone, but I want to make the whole experience as enjoyable for them as it is for Me.


Bingo. Ladies and gents, we have a winner! ^^^^
To me it's not how much they give in one sitting- it's the sacrifice behind it. I don't demand so much that I deprive someones family of what they need or bankrupt anything- that's not what I want.
That's not to say I mind getting the expensive presents, I love them to pieces. but if a slave or sub can't send me a thou a week or buy me that pretty green harley I've been eyeing to go with my new boots, I'm ok with that. It honestly matters more to me what a sub or slave is willing to sacrifice for me in the way of luxuries. The s/s who sends me ten dollars a week when he makes twenty is just as precious- even more so in some cases- than any high rollers.



MistressDemeter9 -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/31/2012 2:43:29 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: PrincessJessieJ


quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressDemeter9

Maybe it would be interesting if some of the fin-subs on this site were to comment. I find it interesting that they haven't.


What am I, chopped liver? :<



I apologise. I didn't realise you were a fin sub. (My brain is in the process of switching off after a long week!)



TNDommeK -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/31/2012 5:26:41 PM)


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ORIGINAL: MistressDemeter9


quote:

ORIGINAL: PrincessJessieJ


quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressDemeter9

Maybe it would be interesting if some of the fin-subs on this site were to comment. I find it interesting that they haven't.


What am I, chopped liver? :<



I apologise. I didn't realise you were a fin sub. (My brain is in the process of switching off after a long week!)


I thought the same thing. I never checked your profile and only saw "princess" in your name. So I assumed.



Rochsub2009 -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/31/2012 6:35:06 PM)


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ORIGINAL: MistressDemeter9


quote:

ORIGINAL: PrincessJessieJ


quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressDemeter9

Maybe it would be interesting if some of the fin-subs on this site were to comment. I find it interesting that they haven't.


What am I, chopped liver? :<



I apologise. I didn't realise you were a fin sub. (My brain is in the process of switching off after a long week!)


I think there's been a miscommunication somewhere. I just checked her profile, and she's definitely a financial Domme, not a financial sub.



fetisheden -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/31/2012 7:08:15 PM)

this completely! makes me laugh when i hear all pros should be banned from collarme.if that were the case, there would only be 10 women left



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And of course there are the pro Dommes, who I believe provide a needed and valuable service to the BDSM community. There are far too many male subs, and far too few Dommes. Were it not for the pro Dommes, most male subs would never get to realize their submission dreams. While pro Dommes and financial Dommes are different, some insist upon lumping them into the same category.



pyschosubmission -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/31/2012 7:23:40 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: PrincessLyr

A female's power is seen through Her sex, just as a man's power is seen through his money.


Touch of both the misogynist and misandrist there, no?



PrincessJessieJ -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/31/2012 7:58:52 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Rochsub2009


quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressDemeter9


quote:

ORIGINAL: PrincessJessieJ


quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressDemeter9

Maybe it would be interesting if some of the fin-subs on this site were to comment. I find it interesting that they haven't.


What am I, chopped liver? :<



I apologise. I didn't realise you were a fin sub. (My brain is in the process of switching off after a long week!)


I think there's been a miscommunication somewhere. I just checked her profile, and she's definitely a financial Domme, not a financial sub.


No, no miscommunication in that she wrote what she meant to. For some reason when I came through and read it, I thought it said Domme instead. I.. do not know why. I don't. my apologies!



pyschosubmission -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/31/2012 8:01:11 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: PrincessJessieJ

No, no miscommunication in that she wrote what she meant to. For some reason when I came through and read it, I thought it said Domme instead. I.. do not know why. I don't. my apologies!


I blame society...



PrincessJessieJ -> RE: Is financial domination a legitimate form of D/s? (8/31/2012 8:01:55 PM)

I'm just.. gonna blame that one on lack of caffeine. Yeah. Right.

...
That's my story and I'm stickin' to it!



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