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LadyHibiscus -> RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? (10/3/2012 6:03:47 PM)
I understand the being-desired-on-a-primal-level. Does someone not want that?

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? (10/3/2012 6:06:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact It amazes Me some days how much Kana and I think alike. I am never surprised when Kana thinks like us. Maybe he'll get to be a chick in his next life.

LaTigresse -> RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? (10/3/2012 6:08:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact It amazes Me some days how much Kana and I think alike. I think that so often it should scare him.

LadyPact -> RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? (10/3/2012 6:09:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus I understand the being-desired-on-a-primal-level. Does someone not want that? There's a difference. You're a chick. That means you've experienced it repeatedly through your years of sexual activity. Men, on the other hand, might not. What they fail to see is that, for some of us, that's MORE likely to be something we WANT to do when there is an attachment. Women are far more likely to treat somebody like fuckmeat that they actually love or have control over.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? (10/3/2012 6:11:43 PM)
Actually...I have had ONE person want me like that. Most people don't inspire it in me, either. Though I did used to treat men like fuckmeat. It was good for a long time.

Alecta -> RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? (10/3/2012 6:11:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ARIES83 I would rather be able to love. As arrogant as this will sound, I have no problem getting people to love me, the problem is I don't love them back. I doubt many of you would know what it's truly like to look at someone as nothing more than an object, saying someone is a sexy hunk of beef doesn't come close. I tell myself I'm a monster for the pain I cause and mourn the feelings I see as being lost. It should be lonley not being able to connect to someone... but I'm not. I wonder if a lone wolf gets lonely... Every lamb it gets close to, it kills. I wonder if it feels like a monster... It doesn't. It doesn't feel anything. -Aries I identify but I don't feel the same about it. To me, it just that whoever it is just isn't good enough.

Kana -> RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? (10/3/2012 6:14:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact It amazes Me some days how much Kana and I think alike. I think that so often it should scare him. Or you. After all, ASAIK, I'm the only one at this here shindig who was once diagnosed as both socio and psycho-pathic :-) That should put the fear of Gaaaawd into ya's!

hausboy -> RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? (10/3/2012 6:17:36 PM)
FR: For the last few years of my marriage, apparently....without my knowledge...I was just that: free labor and sex for my ex. I felt remarkably used. After the divorce, I played with both men and women...and fucked some (women)....no strings attached, one nighters. It just didn't feel right. One woman was great fun...but we had no emotional attachment at all--she would just call me non-stop for sex--and it felt really cheap and hollow. I don't like men or women's profiles that only talk about the fetish or have no interest in sharing a part of themselves other than their kink.

OsideGirl -> RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? (10/3/2012 6:21:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kana As long as she's hot (Or he's had enough beers) men don't care about being objectified one damn bit, They just want some pooty And from my side: I own the pooty. I pretty much can get laid anytime I want....even at age 46 and average appearance. So, the reality is that when it comes to casual sex, it happens on my terms. Maybe that's the difference. Women generally don't allow themselves to be objectified simply to satisfy horniness. It's because they want to feel desired or have something else they want. Most men don't care if they're objectified because they want an orgasm.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? (10/3/2012 6:26:22 PM)
Perhaps that's why compliments on my appearance arent that appealing. Looks are commonplace.

Kana -> RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? (10/3/2012 6:32:23 PM)
quote: Women generally don't allow themselves to be objectified simply to satisfy horniness. It's because they want to feel desired or have something else they want. Most men don't care if they're objectified because they want an orgasm. Truer words were ne`er said

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? (10/3/2012 6:33:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kana quote: Women generally don't allow themselves to be objectified simply to satisfy horniness. It's because they want to feel desired or have something else they want. Most men don't care if they're objectified because they want an orgasm. Truer words were ne`er said So...men ARE hors d'oeuvres?

LaTigresse -> RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? (10/3/2012 6:37:41 PM)
At least the 'hors' part. [:D]

LaTigresse -> RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? (10/3/2012 6:39:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kana quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact It amazes Me some days how much Kana and I think alike. I think that so often it should scare him. Or you. After all, ASAIK, I'm the only one at this here shindig who was once diagnosed as both socio and psycho-pathic :-) That should put the fear of Gaaaawd into ya's! It should scare other people that it doesn't.

NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? (10/3/2012 7:04:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus a six foot tall redhead with green eyes This could be me....except I have no useful dangly bits. lol quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus The wallet is SACRED! It's like an external prostate or something. [sm=rofl.gif] NBMG

LadyPact -> RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? (10/3/2012 7:32:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus quote: ORIGINAL: Kana quote: Women generally don't allow themselves to be objectified simply to satisfy horniness. It's because they want to feel desired or have something else they want. Most men don't care if they're objectified because they want an orgasm. Truer words were ne`er said So...men ARE hors d'oeuvres? I don't know if I would have used that term specifically. However, when is the last time that you heard a male complain about being treated like a fetish delivery system? When was the last time a male sub came here because his "mistress" chatted with him, hit it on their first time eye to eye, and then dropped contact?

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? (10/3/2012 7:42:40 PM)
Pretty much what I figured. Remember in the mid 90's when suddenly sexual harassment awareness was all the rage, and we weren't supposed to compliment anyone on their appearance? We went out of our way to say Heyyyy nice tie! To the men, and they were very chuffed to be "sexually harassed". Attention whores. [8D]

sexyred1 -> RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? (10/3/2012 7:53:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact Going against the tide on the thread. Let Me start with saying that nothing is absolute and this isn't an "all men are the same" type of area. Why do men advertise themselves the way that they do? It's because they think the same things that turn them on turn women on. That's why they post cock shots, even though anybody who has ever been on the net knows that women aren't usually interested in seeing them. Men are generally less invested emotionally with their fantasies. If the "connection" between the two people isn't present, that doesn't mean the acting out of the fantasy is necessarily bad. Run a poll and ask guys if they could have their wildest dream for one night, but they didn't have an emotional feelings for the woman, if they would go for that wild, hot, fiery, kink sex. How many wouldn't care a rat's ass about lack of emotional attachment? This is very much why books like "Men are From Mars/Women are From Venus" and "The Five Love Languages" become best sellers. <Uses the Lewis Black voice, "Yes, there really were books before "Fifty Shades of Crap." Oh, sorry.> Those interested in objectification would be THRILLED to be in that situation in life. Like Otters said, a lot of men don't get to experience that. Being taken, used, wanted on a primal level is something some men dream about, but never get. It's the stuff they fantasize about. Most men react to it VERY WELL when their dream of it comes true. I totally agree with this. I really believe that men would love to feel like an hors d'oeuvres; if only for a short time. What I actually find more believable is that men want their cake and eat it too; so men want to be with someone who loves them, but also would love to be a piece of ass to other women.

littlewonder -> RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? (10/3/2012 8:29:07 PM)
Yeah, I'm gonna agree with Master. They don't care as long as you fuck em. They will be anything at all you want them to be...just fuck em. At least, that's been my experience with men. I used to joke about this with my male friends and they all reassured me, they didn't care either. According to them, all they hear from women is "blah blah blah....blaaaaa blaaahhh blaahh....wanna fuck?...blah blah blah".

littlewonder -> RE: Men: people or hors d'oeuvres? (10/3/2012 8:34:34 PM)
There's a reason men fix themselves up, dress nice, make sure everything is tidy and clean, etc....to get fucked. They know the hotter they look to us, the more willing we'll be to fuck em. That's why we have men's magazine like GQ. If it wasn't for wanting to get fucked, they'd all be more than happy with their uncombed hair, not shaving and living in their beat up old tshirts and jeans. lol There are times when even Master has said "I have someone to fuck....why do I need to be worried about what I look like now?" lol <but sshhh....he still likes to dress up sometimes to impress me. [:)]>

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