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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/13/2012 6:04:27 PM   
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What, pray tell, is there for him to enjoy in a blank profile?


Suits his imagination

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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/13/2012 6:05:22 PM   
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A profile is ADVERTISING - and if you put an ad up that attracts the wrong crowd for your interest, then your ad is to blame, not the people who respond to it in good faith.


Go take a look at my profile. Please tell me what kind of crowd it should be attracting and how my "ad" is to blame.

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You try to advertise your web site through Google, or some other pay-per-click traffic provider, and you will quickly learn to change your ad to ONLY attract those you are interested in, because there is a price to pay for attracting those who are not going to be your customers anyway. And it isn't Google paying it, I can promise you...


see my above response and tell me how this bit applies to me, or anyone else who is not here to get laid/beaten/whatever.

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Whether we call CM a dating site or not - the fact remains that we are all here for a reason, and that reason almost always includes some desire to CONNECT with other people, for one purpose or the other. If we advertise that purpose in a crappy way, then the blame is on the advertiser, not on the people who respond in good faith.



Yes, and for many of us, the reason we are here has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO DO with dating/hooking up/etc. When it is clearly stated on our profile (and in my case, stated several times), and some twatnozzle decides that he/she is somehow exempt from the CLEARLY STATED parameters ... if the receiver of the email doesn't respond, who is the rude one?

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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/13/2012 6:25:37 PM   
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This is the first actual reason to have a non-dating profile. It took 16 pages to reach. And it's kind of similar to what I was saying at the beginning: financial reasons.


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ORIGINAL: searching4mysir
Except, LP is not a pro.
Not to mention, I just went through that fact in this past week with the same poster.

Descrite, I've been saying the same things over and over for years. I even linked a thread where I've said the same thing. I can't tell you how many threads I've said it on. It's on My profile, too.

A lot of us aren't here to date. Please do keep that in mind.




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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/13/2012 6:28:27 PM   
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BoundSlave4Life - I checked your profile, just for the hell of it - and I must admit that you could yourself be a main cause of many such mails. It is a nice profile with a lot of information about you, and I intend no disrespect with what I am saying, but it takes quite a bit of reading to find out what you are looking for, and it is not at all clear what you want and what you are allowed to do. I cannot blame a seriously interested person in being uncertain about this and finding that a simple e-mail could be a faster way of finding out than guessing. Some of the e-mail you refer to COULD reflect this.

Looking at your profile as a piece of advertising, it fails all tests I have learned about in marketing. You have obviously not learned any marketing - and that's a clear reason why you solicit a lot of responses you are not interested in. The headline should be an attention grabber for the audience you seek. Next should come a specification of what it is you seek. And then you can elaborate about it to clarify your intention, including possibly also using some important parts of your own life history to illustrate your point. If you, after this, feel like telling more about yourself (and your story is certainly interesting), then feel free to do it, but when you do not explain your objective at the very top of your ad, you are indeed inviting responses from a whole bunch of confused people, who (like me) really did not bother reading through the whole thing, because there was no guide to where the important information could be found: what you want!

Again, I intend no disrespect for you, possibly just an explanation and a helping hand getting your profile tuned into something that supports your intention instead of filling your mailbox with crap.

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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/13/2012 6:36:56 PM   
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Answering your question, GreedyTop: I would never send you a mail after reading that profile. I find it extremely offensive and unattractive. And if I, for some strange reason, really should think I had a legitimate reason to contact you, then I would expect a very rude reply, at best, if any.

If someone wants to take that profile as an invitation to dating, then they deserve whatever shit you will dish out, including complete ignorance.

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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/13/2012 6:38:30 PM   
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BoundSlave4Life - I checked your profile, just for the hell of it - and I must admit that you could yourself be a main cause of many such mails. It is a nice profile with a lot of information about you, and I intend no disrespect with what I am saying, but it takes quite a bit of reading to find out what you are looking for, and it is not at all clear what you want and what you are allowed to do. I cannot blame a seriously interested person in being uncertain about this and finding that a simple e-mail could be a faster way of finding out than guessing. Some of the e-mail you refer to COULD reflect this.

Looking at your profile as a piece of advertising, it fails all tests I have learned about in marketing. You have obviously not learned any marketing - and that's a clear reason why you solicit a lot of responses you are not interested in. The headline should be an attention grabber for the audience you seek. Next should come a specification of what it is you seek. And then you can elaborate about it to clarify your intention, including possibly also using some important parts of your own life history to illustrate your point. If you, after this, feel like telling more about yourself (and your story is certainly interesting), then feel free to do it, but when you do not explain your objective at the very top of your ad, you are indeed inviting responses from a whole bunch of confused people, who (like me) really did not bother reading through the whole thing, because there was no guide to where the important information could be found: what you want!

Again, I intend no disrespect for you, possibly just an explanation and a helping hand getting your profile tuned into something that supports your intention instead of filling your mailbox with crap.



And that's everyone's point on here.

THIS SITE IS NOT AN ADVERTISING SITE! I'm not marketing ANYTHING, and there's no reason for someone to message a slave with the intention of owning them without READING said profile!
I'm not really sure how "Owned" and "Collared" is confusing, and if that's something that's confusing you, you may want to not worry about marketing and worry about basic English.
If they aren't willing/able to read my profile, what makes you think that they would read anyone else's profiles? I'm not really sure how or where my profile is unclear about being owned, and if people find it to be unclear, they need to get their head checked.

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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/13/2012 6:49:20 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ToyOfRhamnusia

Answering your question, GreedyTop: I would never send you a mail after reading that profile. I find it extremely offensive and unattractive. And if I, for some strange reason, really should think I had a legitimate reason to contact you, then I would expect a very rude reply, at best, if any.

If someone wants to take that profile as an invitation to dating, then they deserve whatever shit you will dish out, including complete ignorance.


And yet I STILL get emails from random dudes ranging from "yer hawt" to "So, what are you looking for", and then the oh so typical "on ur nees, bich" (yes, I did get one spelled like that), to even more offensive crap.


So.. in what universe am I considered rude for not responding?


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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/13/2012 6:56:34 PM   
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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

"on ur nees, bich" (yes, I did get one spelled like that), to even more offensive crap.




As a side note "on ur nees, bich" is an anagram of

Bees run on chi

whatever "chi" is...

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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/13/2012 8:28:31 PM   
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LMAO -----> but he was giving you directions on HOW TO BE MORE PLEASING TO ATTRACT DOUCHEBAGS !!! I can not believe how many people here dont get that whatever is in our profile or mail - that its none of their business!!!

Why do I smell a sock somewhere in this thread ????


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ORIGINAL: BoundSlave4Life

quote:

ORIGINAL: ToyOfRhamnusia

BoundSlave4Life - I checked your profile, just for the hell of it - and I must admit that you could yourself be a main cause of many such mails. It is a nice profile with a lot of information about you, and I intend no disrespect with what I am saying, but it takes quite a bit of reading to find out what you are looking for, and it is not at all clear what you want and what you are allowed to do. I cannot blame a seriously interested person in being uncertain about this and finding that a simple e-mail could be a faster way of finding out than guessing. Some of the e-mail you refer to COULD reflect this.

Looking at your profile as a piece of advertising, it fails all tests I have learned about in marketing. You have obviously not learned any marketing - and that's a clear reason why you solicit a lot of responses you are not interested in. The headline should be an attention grabber for the audience you seek. Next should come a specification of what it is you seek. And then you can elaborate about it to clarify your intention, including possibly also using some important parts of your own life history to illustrate your point. If you, after this, feel like telling more about yourself (and your story is certainly interesting), then feel free to do it, but when you do not explain your objective at the very top of your ad, you are indeed inviting responses from a whole bunch of confused people, who (like me) really did not bother reading through the whole thing, because there was no guide to where the important information could be found: what you want!

Again, I intend no disrespect for you, possibly just an explanation and a helping hand getting your profile tuned into something that supports your intention instead of filling your mailbox with crap.



And that's everyone's point on here.

THIS SITE IS NOT AN ADVERTISING SITE! I'm not marketing ANYTHING, and there's no reason for someone to message a slave with the intention of owning them without READING said profile!
I'm not really sure how "Owned" and "Collared" is confusing, and if that's something that's confusing you, you may want to not worry about marketing and worry about basic English.
If they aren't willing/able to read my profile, what makes you think that they would read anyone else's profiles? I'm not really sure how or where my profile is unclear about being owned, and if people find it to be unclear, they need to get their head checked.



< Message edited by JanahX -- 10/13/2012 8:30:41 PM >


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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/13/2012 9:15:32 PM   
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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/13/2012 10:31:36 PM   
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ORIGINAL: searching4mysir

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quote: LadyPact

For the same reasons I told you before. If I hide the profile, I won't come up on the geography search, and frankly, there's nobody else here for a hundred miles.

As a presenter, it's better for Me to have it up. It's easier for people to find Me and verify dates from My journal. Helps Me, too, since I'm not always the best with dates.


This is the first actual reason to have a non-dating profile. It took 16 pages to reach. And it's kind of similar to what I was saying at the beginning: financial reasons.


Except, LP is not a pro.

Which she already made completely clear to him in previous posts (I think in another thread). Clearly he does not read/retain/comprehend.

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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/14/2012 3:22:14 AM   
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Do you want to know what happens when we respond to POLITE messages?? This!


on 10/14/12 at 5:34 AM:
how are you, pretty little girl (Calling someone you don't know "Pretty little girl" is already rude but I'll let it slide since he may be new and not realize how rude that actually is)



boundslave4life on 10/14/12 at 5:45 AM:
I'm well thank you and yourself?

on 10/14/12 at 5:51 AM:
Doing well also, looking at the slaves pictures here on collarme, and i wonder, all of them are crazy wicked and sadistic in one way. Now with girls I understand, because of their weak nature, chose to be a slave, abused and have sex with in many strange and un natural ways. It's all chemical. But what about men, what do you think makes men feel, that in this short life, their clay like body and mind deserve, or have the power, to be dominant ? is it just the fact that girls are submissive and by nature it makes them dominant ? I think there's something more.

care to share your opinion ?
appreciate your time


boundslave4life on 10/14/12 at 6:00 AM:
I completely disagree with you. Being a slave isn't what I "Chose" to be. I grew up in a world that's completely different than most. I grew up on Long Island where the women more or less HOLD the power. Are confident and more or less rule. Being a slave is who I am. It's what I was destined to be at birth. I've known what I was meant to be since I was 6 years old.

I also believe that it takes more strength to be a slave than be a Dominant/Master. For someone to give up all control to another person? To not have limits or safe words? Can you really believe that it makes someone weak?
Personally, I don't feel that one gender is superior to the other.

I think that a slave... no matter the gender... is the clay to be molded by whomever they chose to own them. The slave chooses the Master. The Master chooses everything else.

on 10/14/12 at 6:08 AM:
To don't have control over your own life is a complete weakness. your forefathers, and mine, fought and died for you to have right to be the master of your life and not a slave to the rule of others, and you give it up willingly.. you are choosing a nice set of words, but , by God, you disgust me.

You know who I respect, my dentists, two pretty girls, younger than I am, doctors. Fixing my teeth and doing a great job. Why should I respect you ?

thanks


boundslave4life on 10/14/12 at 6:17 AM:
If you think it's a weakness then that's your personal opinion. I think it's a huge strength to give everything over to another, without hesitation. If you're a Dominant and you can't understand that, then you're not on the right site.

I do not work. I do not go to school. I spend my day at home cooking, cleaning, serving and making my Master happy and that's what both Master and I want.

You don't have to respect it. Hell, you don't even have to like it. I didn't ask for you to do either, nor did I ask you to message as rudely as you have. I thought you were attempting to make polite conversation. Clearly that's not what you were looking for.

You will NOT find a submissive or slave on this site that doesn't want to give control to another. That's what D/s and M/s is. There's varying degrees on the amount of control people want to give up, but they all want to give up control in some form.

As I said before, I never asked for your respect, but on the same note, I never asked for you to be so rude. You can live your life how you wish. I will live mine how I wish.

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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/14/2012 7:53:41 AM   
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It makes mad - not to say: It pisses me off - that people just ignore mails. I am here on this site because I am looking for a (female) slave. I am not a fake, I am for real and I write quite some mails to get to know sub or slave women. i add a picture and I am not offensive - I am polite and well mannered.
I absolutly understand that my liking are not for everybody, but to ignore a mail is (to me) the poorest and cheapest way to say "Thank you, but - no!"
Am I the only one who gets mad about that?



I will always answer a well written thought out mail that I receive, it may take me a day or two sometimes but I always respond, I feel it is common curtesy to respond even with a "im sorry your not my type"

< Message edited by Munchkin1 -- 10/14/2012 7:55:08 AM >


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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/14/2012 7:56:56 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Munchkin1
I will always answer a well written thought out mail that I receive, it may take me a day or two sometimes but I always respond, I feel it is common curtesy to respond even with a "im sorry your not my type"


How can you not love someone that sees common courtesy as being important?

Oh and for the record: ^^^^^^ THIS (should have been the first thing I typed).



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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/14/2012 8:31:28 AM   
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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop
Yes, and for many of us, the reason we are here has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING TO DO with dating/hooking up/etc. When it is clearly stated on our profile (and in my case, stated several times), and some twatnozzle decides that he/she is somehow exempt from the CLEARLY STATED parameters ... if the receiver of the email doesn't respond, who is the rude one?


It's like dropping in someones mail box advertising leaflets despite that it is clearly stated on it "do not drop your advertising leaflets into my mailbox"....so to speak....

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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/14/2012 8:38:46 AM   
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A profile is ADVERTISING - and if you put an ad up that attracts the wrong crowd for your interest, then your ad is to blame, not the people who respond to it in good faith.


Yes and no. I more often than not get morons responding to the picture without ever actually reading the profile (with this account).

I have a sock account on the other side. It is completely empty. No picture, no text, no interests. Completely blank except for a fake age, race, and orientation. I created it as an experiment. I got an email telling me he enjoyed my profile and how we had so much in common. Really? We have a lot in common? What, pray tell, is there for him to enjoy in a blank profile?


maybe he enjoys people who shut up....so he considered your blank profile as being from a person who does a lot of work but rather in an invisible way....sort of...when during night time gnomes tidy up for you and you never see them, or so....

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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/14/2012 8:52:59 AM   
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ORIGINAL: DaddySatyr

quote:

ORIGINAL: Munchkin1
I will always answer a well written thought out mail that I receive, it may take me a day or two sometimes but I always respond, I feel it is common curtesy to respond even with a "im sorry your not my type"


How can you not love someone that sees common courtesy as being important?

Oh and for the record: ^^^^^^ THIS (should have been the first thing I typed).



Peace and comfort,



Michael



Yes, Michael, however, for 18 pages women have been patiently explaining why their profiles are here for varying reasons, why, even when we are polite and courteous we get screamed at by rejected men, so we have had to start ignoring said men.

I find some of the men who have been attempting to debate our replies to be rather dense and lack reading comprehension. I suspect it is because those men are very angry that they have been rejected so many times, thus are in the mood to stir some crap.

Because if they are really that stupid, I fear for them.

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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/14/2012 9:09:50 AM   
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*fast reply*
The reason women don't respond??? Because when we do to say that we're not interested the insults fly in return.
Last guy I politely said I wasn't interested in proceeded to write back saying that upon further viewing of my profile
he was glad that I wasn't because he now thought I looked as if a Peterbilt had hit me at full speed in the face.
I responded that he forgot to also call me fat.

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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/14/2012 10:26:46 AM   
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ORIGINAL: JanahX

LMAO -----> but he was giving you directions on HOW TO BE MORE PLEASING TO ATTRACT DOUCHEBAGS !!! I can not believe how many people here dont get that whatever is in our profile or mail - that its none of their business!!!

Why do I smell a sock somewhere in this thread ????




It's so stinky, I think it's a pair.....karma's like that.

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RE: Why do people ignore mails - 10/14/2012 10:27:23 AM   
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Which sounds like two responses too many, Aileen.

There's no more reason to feed trolls who message you than there is to encourage them on the boards, after all...

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