OsideGirl -> RE: "Protected "submissive (6/15/2006 3:03:21 PM)
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I had a protector when I was a novice, in the form of a mentor. This is the person that kept me from getting conned by the guys that just wanted to take advantage of me. He guided me through the scene, gave me advice and gave me someone to hide behind when it became overwhelming. And it was overwhelming, it was like being fresh meat in the lion's cage. As novice submissives, many of us are/were so eager for approval and trusting that we'd allow ourselves to get talked into stupid situations. In that context, I think the protector/mentor is a valid thing. That said, I see a lot of guys that offer protectorship when the reality is that they'd like to have a sexual relationship with the protectee. Hoping to be the guy there when she decides to lose her BDSM D/s cherry. I also see it from women that would rather hide behind someone than tell someone "No, I'm not interested." In these contexts, I think it's a joke.
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