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LafayetteLady -> RE: Got Prayers? (Or Good Wishes?) (2/3/2013 2:44:36 PM)
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Thinking positve doesn't mean running around with a happy face all the time. Of course it includes saying, "this sucks."
Thinking positive means that you don't spend the majority of your time wallowing in self pity.
While I can appreciate what the counselor told you, the reality is that it has been scientifically proven that people's attitude towards their cancer has a great deal to do with them "beating" it. I'm not talking about foolishness like "The Secret" professes. I'm talking about the positive attitude of saying (thinking), "I'm going to fight this as hard as I possibly can," and "I'm going to take joy where I can find it," and "I'm glad I have supportive friends and family who support me and let me lean on them when I'm at the end of my rope."
It isn't because people can't think of anything else to say. It's not even because people don't want to listen to you whine about your illness (which I believe people should be entitled to do...to a point).
My father died of cancer, and from the moment he got his diagnosis, he was anything BUT positive in his thought process. They said, "you have cancer," he heard, "you are going to die." He tried to put a brave front on in front of most people, but it wasn't difficult to see what a facade it was. He died within 7 months of his diagnosis. Would he have lived longer if he had mentally made the decision to fight? I believe he would have.
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