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RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? - 2/15/2013 9:51:36 PM   
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It's not. We live on separate sides of the us all is online. And he only has time for online. We are both real and serious. If these site members don't take us as so, then I don't mi d taking this elsewhere. None of my Doms time should be wasted, this is for his pleasure not stress


Have you ever met your current master face to face?

How do you think this is going to work...you'll each swap partners for online D/s and just do a complete stranger's bidding for 3 or 4 days?

Will he review what the stranger is ordering you to do? What if it's something potentially risky, or something that could get you fired at work?

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RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? - 2/15/2013 9:52:32 PM   
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Yes. We don't do cyber bs. We don't have time. He wants me to learn and expand my options really I presume. It's something he is interested on trying


You presume? So you don't know then. I would have thought seeing as you don't do cyber bs, despite it being a completely cyber relationship, that you would have had plenty of time to discuss this and other things. You seem very sketchy on the details.
Then again details are always sketchy in the land of make believe.

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RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? - 2/15/2013 9:57:29 PM   
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Online bdsm is not cyber sex


You keep thinking that.

Now don't tell me, let me guess, one or both of you is married, and cheating, and that's the REAL reason why you're serious but can never meet.

My dom moved 3000 miles just to *date* me, so your distance issue is all in your head.

Normal adults have time for a relationship, unless they already have a relationship, so the don't have time is ridiculous. People make time for what it important. Men always make time for what they think is important.

You're lying to yourself -- don't expect this board to pretend that you're not.

As for swapping you out, since it's not real, it's all bullshit.

Just so you know, members here don't take bullshit well. Most of us do this for real, like in real life, not cyber life.

There is a world of difference.




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RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? - 2/15/2013 9:58:03 PM   
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ORIGINAL: DomMeinCT

quote:

ORIGINAL: AmbitiousLauren

It's not. We live on separate sides of the us all is online. And he only has time for online. We are both real and serious. If these site members don't take us as so, then I don't mi d taking this elsewhere. None of my Doms time should be wasted, this is for his pleasure not stress


Have you ever met your current master face to face?

How do you think this is going to work...you'll each swap partners for online D/s and just do a complete stranger's bidding for 3 or 4 days?

Will he review what the stranger is ordering you to do? What if it's something potentially risky, or something that could get you fired at work?

He will review the Dom after I have talk with him. So no time will be wasted. However. I am getting a strong sense that no one hear is serious and is just critical.

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RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? - 2/15/2013 9:59:06 PM   
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ORIGINAL: TenderTorment


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ORIGINAL: AmbitiousLauren

Yes. We don't do cyber bs. We don't have time. He wants me to learn and expand my options really I presume. It's something he is interested on trying


You presume? So you don't know then. I would have thought seeing as you don't do cyber bs, despite it being a completely cyber relationship, that you would have had plenty of time to discuss this and other things. You seem very sketchy on the details.
Then again details are always sketchy in the land of make believe.

I can put effort into talking to you one and one right now instead of mindlessly here

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RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? - 2/15/2013 10:00:45 PM   
ChatteParfaitt


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You started this, if you think the replies you received are mindless, perhaps you need to rethink the entire concept of your cyber only relationship.

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RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? - 2/15/2013 10:01:14 PM   
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oh lord, the Dom review board!! quick folks....look busy
***straightening my tie***

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RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? - 2/15/2013 10:02:04 PM   
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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt


quote:

ORIGINAL: AmbitiousLauren

Online bdsm is not cyber sex


You keep thinking that.

Now don't tell me, let me guess, one or both of you is married, and cheating, and that's the REAL reason why you're serious but can never meet.

My dom moved 3000 miles just to *date* me, so your distance issue is all in your head.

Normal adults have time for a relationship, unless they already have a relationship, so the don't have time is ridiculous. People make time for what it important. Men always make time for what they think is important.

You're lying to yourself -- don't expect this board to pretend that you're not.

As for swapping you out, since it's not real, it's all bullshit.

Just so you know, members here don't take bullshit well. Most of us do this for real, like in real life, not cyber life.

There is a world of difference.




He has a girlfriend who knows of this and myself. I don't have a significant other because I feel it's wrong.
You need to consider many facts on why we have not met
1. My school schedule
2. Finances
3. Himself working
4. We live about an 8 hour flight from each other

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RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? - 2/15/2013 10:04:21 PM   
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ORIGINAL: AmbitiousLauren


quote:

ORIGINAL: TenderTorment


quote:

ORIGINAL: AmbitiousLauren

Yes. We don't do cyber bs. We don't have time. He wants me to learn and expand my options really I presume. It's something he is interested on trying


You presume? So you don't know then. I would have thought seeing as you don't do cyber bs, despite it being a completely cyber relationship, that you would have had plenty of time to discuss this and other things. You seem very sketchy on the details.
Then again details are always sketchy in the land of make believe.

I can put effort into talking to you one and one right now instead of mindlessly here


Thank you but I have no desire to speak one to one with you, I merely asked some clarification questions for my own curiosity.

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RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? - 2/15/2013 10:16:54 PM   
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ORIGINAL: AmbitiousLauren

He has a girlfriend who knows of this and myself. I don't have a significant other because I feel it's wrong.
You need to consider many facts on why we have not met
1. My school schedule
2. Finances
3. Himself working
4. We live about an 8 hour flight from each other



Really? Seriously? Master and I lived a few hours apart from each other when we first met. We both had full time jobs, I had a child to raise, both of our finances were extremely tight, but yet we managed to see each other quite often because we made the time because to us, our relationship is important.

My guess is that he wants you to find another sub because he's bored with just you and needs fresh blood or should I say batteries.



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RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? - 2/15/2013 10:21:01 PM   
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Congrats for you and I admire people who can. But is it a sin that we can't?

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RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? - 2/15/2013 10:23:59 PM   
ChatteParfaitt


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Hun, all that is bullshit. If you both really wanted to meet and have a real time relationship, you would.

And no, it's not a sin. It's just not real, it's a fantasy.

If your Master was *really* going to swap you out with a stranger, can you not see how different that could be?

Because if you can't, it's time to step away from the computer.

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RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? - 2/15/2013 10:26:16 PM   
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Switch with us---I can tell your Dom what a dumb fuck he is and my man can make you shove a V05 bottle up your ass on web cam so we can circulate it on the internet (face shots required). Just make it on one of those nights when we have had a lot of Saki.

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RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? - 2/15/2013 10:27:03 PM   
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This is honestly exhausting.

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RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? - 2/15/2013 10:30:11 PM   
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Yes, it is exhausting.

I'm going to go, beat My boy, fuck around for a while so others can save Me the keystrokes about this stuff, and then I'll come back.


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RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? - 2/15/2013 10:47:57 PM   
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Congrats for you and I admire people who can. But is it a sin that we can't?


Depends. Are you cheating on your spouse or partner? And yes, even cyber is cheating. Other than that, I can't see a reason for it. College-you have breaks between semesters and you can usually skip a class or two without any issues....depends on the class.

Money? There's always a way to do that too. If you have a car then drive. If you don't then hop on a train or bus or plane. Save up all your money for trips. Ya know, cut out a few lattes and new shoes and clothing. And if you look around for sales, you can usually find these trips for not too much money.

Kids? Let your family watch them for awhile or someone else you trust. Believe me, your kid won't miss you. If they're teenagers 16 and older, you can leave them alone usually without any big issues, despite what you see in teenage comedies.

So which excuse is yours?




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RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? - 2/15/2013 10:55:02 PM   
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I'm going to take a different approach.

I'm sure you will have no problem finding an online dom to boss you about for a few days. It is much, much less likely that you will find someone to do an online 'swap', since there are fewer women out there willing to do online only, and most doms will have the same concerns raised here - as in, I don't know this guy, I'm not going to trust him with my most precious possession.

There's no tactful way of saying this, but most women out there that would be interested in doing this with you guys are going to be men pretending to be women. It tends to be guys who want the online thing and quite a few are happy to pretend to be a woman for sexy chat. Now it might be that this doesn't matter to you, in which case, it's all good fun.

Exactly what skill-set are you hoping to learn from this Master? I assume there must be something more than putting clothespins on your nipples over skype, right? In most cases, all another dom would be able to teach you is what turns HIM on and what HE likes - which won't help your relationship at all, will it? Now there are people who could teach you specific protocols, or safety, or bondage techniques but most of those would require you being present in person - and your dom would need to verify they know what they are talking about. There are also nice people out there with a lot of experience who might be willing to take a guiding role in helping you find local groups, make sense of your experiences, and get hold of useful resources. But that wouldn't require a swap to take place.

If I were cynical, I'd assume he's struggling to find another woman to cam with and hopes he can send you out to find one for him.

Either way, I hope you both have great fun . Please remember - ANYTHING you do on cam can very easily be recorded and put up online, and there is no way to know if this is happening. For the sake of your future (you're in college, so I assume you're hoping for a professional career) don't do anything on cam that you wouldn't want grandma to see.

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RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? - 2/15/2013 11:02:33 PM   
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ORIGINAL: AmbitiousLauren

Yes. We don't do cyber bs. We don't have time. He wants me to learn and expand my options really I presume. It's something he is interested on trying


Yet he is unable to teach you?

quote:

ORIGINAL: AmbitiousLauren

Online bdsm is not cyber sex


Really? Then what is it? Do your or he have orgasms? Does he make you web cam for him? That's cyber sex sweetie.

And as for not doing "cyber bs," your whole "relationship" with him is cyber bs.

quote:

ORIGINAL: AmbitiousLauren

He has a girlfriend who knows of this and myself. I don't have a significant other because I feel it's wrong.
You need to consider many facts on why we have not met
1. My school schedule
2. Finances
3. Himself working
4. We live about an 8 hour flight from each other



How do you know the girlfriend knows? Have you spoken with her via skype or on the phone?

You are 18 years old, with a full schedule at school and obviously as a student, limited finances. He works and when he has finished making you do things to get him hot and hard, he goes and screws his girlfriend, while you sit alone in your room. If you think otherwise, you are kidding yourself.

Why would you even get involved with someone an 8 hour flight away from you that you would never meet? And incidentally, what makes you believe this is "real?"

quote:

ORIGINAL: AmbitiousLauren

This is honestly exhausting.


Of course it is. You have some fantasy online dominant who uses you to get him hard to fuck his girlfriend, and he is so lazy, he has told you to find some guy willing to take you on (in cyber world) so you can "learn" and "expand your options," while he has someone new to cam with so he can get hard for his girlfriend.

I realize you are quite young, but really, do you not see something wrong with this? You admit that you think it would be wrong for you to have a real face to face relationship with someone, but he has a girlfriend, who likely doesn't know a damn thing about you (unless you have skyped with her or spoke to her on the phone).

Honestly, I know teenagers make mistakes, but surely you have some common sense?

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RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? - 2/16/2013 1:14:24 AM   
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However. I am getting a strong sense that no one hear is serious and is just critical.


Are you sure? I had not noticed. LOL.

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RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? - 2/16/2013 2:42:02 AM   
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swap??? online???

i can't even find slave/sub who would want to have a casual conversation with another sub/slave (a.k.a me) in my real life or to just befriend without any sexual activity involved.

so, good luck for you on the swapping things.

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