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Killerangel -> RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? (2/16/2013 4:10:58 AM)

How does anyone know that you aren't the male "Dom" in question looking for a woman this way because your search for one hasn't been fruitful? As the man in question, you're involved, and can't get a single woman to give you a free personal cam session, so you think posing as a young woman as bait looking for couples will get you what you seek.

If you are a young woman, this is just silly, why are you wasting your time on someone far away from you who is taken? For God's sake get out into your own milieu and have some real time fun- we're only ever in college once for the most part, and sitting in your room stripping for someone who will never be anything to you pales in comparison to getting out and meeting people in real life. You've got a couple thousand of them right around you. You say you're not even sure why he wants this, you say you presume it is for you to learn...that's a crock hon. It's for him. Dump this BS and go out with some real live men and have fun.




TAFKAA -> RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? (2/16/2013 4:35:15 AM)

She's 18. I doubt she's going to think on such things with the perspective of an adult.




KatyLied -> RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? (2/16/2013 5:14:27 AM)

Thanks for the laughs, cyber sub swapping, one of the funnier things I've seen here!




sexyred1 -> RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? (2/16/2013 8:21:34 AM)

OP, if you are indeed ambitious as your screen name says, drop this guy abd move on.
He has a girlfriend, you never met, you are a student and have a whole life ahead of you to make better choices.





littlewonder -> RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? (2/16/2013 8:56:28 AM)

I couldn't imagine being 18, in college and not going to parties and having tons of men around my age to fuck or get to know for something more but instead sitting on my computer all night and day just waiting for him to show up online or whatever.

Dear, you're 18. Enjoy life! Experiment in real life. Have fun! That's what being 18 years old is for. But sitting in front of your computer instead of getting out in the real world will stunt your mental and emotional and socialization skills. You will end up being the one who lives at home in the basement and mommy waits on you hand and foot and has a blow-up doll to keep you busy.




OsideGirl -> RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? (2/16/2013 9:17:07 AM)


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ORIGINAL: AmbitiousLauren

I am getting a strong sense that no one hear is serious and is just critical.


We are serious. We engage in real life D/s BDSM relationships. We don't care what you're doing online, but don't try to paint it as something it's not. You're engaging in sex games via webcam, which is cyber. It's ether, power cords and fantasy. It will not teach you anything. As for "broadening your horizons", what will that involve? Finding a new place to stick a clothespin? Putting a dildo in a different hole? Finding a new position to show your pussy?

I'm also going to second what Athena said. While your Dom is sending you out to look for new masturbation fodder, he's putting you at risk. The person that you get on webcam with could record the whole thing unbeknownst to you. You could end up on a porn site.

You're 18 and female. You could have your pick of Dominants if you looked locally. Instead, you've chosen someone that is available only for cyber.....and tried to convince us that it's D/s BDSM.




theRose4U -> RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? (2/16/2013 10:23:06 AM)


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ORIGINAL: AmbitiousLauren

This is honestly exhausting.

Chasing ones tail generally is!
What you seem to be missing is someone you've never met in person isn't an owner, they are a computer generated time waster...we take our time being wasted badly.
Go to a local munch, meet others everyone else can see & realize this "swap" is play 117 in the cyber dom dump the sub play book.




graceadieu -> RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? (2/16/2013 11:01:08 AM)


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ORIGINAL: AmbitiousLauren

It's not. We live on separate sides of the us all is online. And he only has time for online. We are both real and serious. If these site members don't take us as so, then I don't mi d taking this elsewhere. None of my Doms time should be wasted, this is for his pleasure not stress


We're just baffled by how you could swap submissives online, and what purpose it would serve. In real life, you might learn a new skill like how to cook better or give a massage. Or at least you all could have a sexy time swinging.

What is chatting with another guy online going to teach you in terms of how to chat with your online Dom better? Is he going to teach you how to do accounting or something?




LoveSlider -> RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? (2/16/2013 11:15:10 AM)


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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl

It's ether, power cords and fantasy.



There's nothing wrong with fantasies about ether and power cords. Now THAT would broaden her horizons a bit.

Suppose there's nothing wrong with chatting to people online at 18, but when I was 18 it was FAR more entertaining to spend my days riding the bike like an absolute twat then get out on the ale with my mates and try and pull birds. Would definitely recommend it. Online relationship... all the downsides of a real relationship, none of the up-side... fuck that.




absolutchocolat -> RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? (2/16/2013 2:38:21 PM)

Honey bunches, venture out to your local munch, find a nice female submissive with a few notches on her belt, and have her mentor you. Also, check out The Acid Test for Doms, specifically #2. I'll post it here because I am feeling nice today:

HNG’s (horny net geeks) are usually the most harmless (and yet often the most annoying) of the enemy types. Most are teenagers and young men looking for some quick cyber-sex or even phone-sex. They are usually pretty sophisticated about their BDSM jargon and the ‘scenes’ they describe to you can be pretty elaborate. Geeks do their homework. They scour the porno sites for ideas, and hang out in BDSM chats for hours on end learning the lingo. The are most easily spotted because they want to move on to cyber-sex and phone sex very quickly. They like to offer online collars, and spend hours on end in chat rooms ‘playing’ with their ‘subbies.’ Don’t waste your time with them.

Seriously, you're a college student. My first two years at my school were spent shacked up with a loser, but once I broke free of that mess, I was able to explore my sexuality and get to know myself a bit better. No worries, a lot of us have been where you are. The thing that will set you apart from other young naive submissives is how you use this lesson -- you can choose to ignore the decent advice you're getting here, or you can learn from it and move on. The choice is yours. Good luck to you.




Spiritedsub2 -> RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? (2/16/2013 2:42:27 PM)

-fast reply-

An 18 year old girl should get the hell off of collarme. Just my strong opinion.




OsideGirl -> RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? (2/16/2013 2:46:30 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2

-fast reply-

An 18 year old girl should get the hell off of collarme. Just my strong opinion.


Especially if her only exposure to D/s BDSM is virtual.

The mentor suggestion was very good AbsoluteChocolate.




monotalie -> RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? (2/16/2013 3:50:03 PM)

Why ever engage in a long distance relationship? BDSM or not it is a masochist move to willingly fall for someone who is unreachable, unless you don't really care and it's just a game. Loneliness until you meet him/her and then no one can guarantee there will be no disappointing.

BTW, you can't prove anything to the 18 year old, they know everything! duh...internet has all the truth!




MAINEiacMISTRESS -> RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? (2/16/2013 4:00:52 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2

-fast reply-

An 18 year old girl should get the hell off of collarme. Just my strong opinion.


YEaaah...I agree...real or virtual, I have a problem with BDSM being someone's first/early sexual or romantic experience...work your way up to it, enjoy the journey along the way.




absolutchocolat -> RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? (2/16/2013 4:58:12 PM)


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ORIGINAL: OsideGirl


quote:

ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2

-fast reply-

An 18 year old girl should get the hell off of collarme. Just my strong opinion.


Especially if her only exposure to D/s BDSM is virtual.

The mentor suggestion was very good AbsoluteChocolate.



Thanks. Having been lead on by an older creep at that age, I think it's best to have offline relationships at eighteen. It sucks that folks prey on the naivete of the youth.




Arturas -> RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? (2/16/2013 8:56:02 PM)

quote:

Hello Doms,
Thank you for taking your time to read this. My Dom is looking to swap me with you sub as a learning experience. It will only be 3-7 days. Please message me if you are interested. I will give you my yahoo to chat.
Thank you Sir
lauren


Greetings.

About time a Dom answered, eh? I'm not interested in a swap but certainly not because something is wrong with the suggestion or with you making it. Indeed, temporary sub swapping is pretty common during sessions at the Mark lifestyle club on most Saturdays and I don't consider the Mark club an abberation so I can say it's not uncommon with BDSM lifestylers. IF it is cyber only and that floats your boat then I say it is good if you say it is good. You know, if we sat around and picked on each other for the way we practice our lifestyle we would have few friends in the BDSM community, eh?

Now I realize your Dom is not looking for me to critique his proposal and I would not do so without the real certainty of taking this thread away from the topic, which is "please message me if you are interested", so I wanted to simply assure you that what you are asking is not out of the ordinary in the real BDSM world, which I have done, and also wanted to say that while your age is low you are indeed an adult and are therefore deserving of my respect in how you are making your own way and setting and achieving your own goals and if one of your goals is to support your Dom in this venture then very good for you.

quote:

Thank you Sir

You are most welcome.
Arturas




Missokyst -> RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? (2/16/2013 9:24:09 PM)

lol on what universe?
quote:

ORIGINAL: AmbitiousLauren

Online bdsm is not cyber sex





MissSkyee -> RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? (2/16/2013 9:40:10 PM)

This thread seems really full of people who are very biased against online.

You can have very intense and satisfying online relationships.

Having done both on and offline I like both and they have their merits.

Each have their own risks. The risks of offline for anyone are obvious. For an 18 year old female online can be risky interms of being recorded on cam. But 18 year olds are having sex so why not bdsm and why not online?

The idea of swapping is fun if done right and serving someone else under the guise of 'education' sounds exciting to me if it does to you then why not????




NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? (2/16/2013 9:55:13 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: AmbitiousLauren

It's not. We live on separate sides of the us all is online. And he only has time for online. We are both real and serious. If these site members don't take us as so, then I don't mi d taking this elsewhere. None of my Doms time should be wasted, this is for his pleasure not stress

quote:

ORIGINAL: AmbitiousLauren

Yes. We don't do cyber bs. We don't have time. He wants me to learn and expand my options really I presume. It's something he is interested on trying

In the first quote, you say "all is online" and in the second you say "We don't do cyber bs." You just contradicted yourself there. You may say you aren't having cyberSEX and you may or may not be, but it IS cyber BS. If it's all online it IS cyber.

Anyone can be anything he or she wants to be online but, if you ever meet in real life, that IS when reality will come up and smack you between the eyes. Until such time, it's not real, unless you mean real cyber bs.

You're only 18 and there are lots and lots of cyber ass Doms out there who would love to take you for a ride and then dump you. As a matter of fact, his idea of cyber swapping cyber subs just might be his way of having you find your own replacement because the new car smell has worn off. I'm betting it is.

I can't imagine loaning out my sub to some cyber dom/me who I don't even know. My sub would be my most prized possession and I don't take that lightly. You've got lots of good advice here already from seasoned veterans of the forums but, I know, you're 18 and you know everything already. That's why you're asking us.

NBMG




Kana -> RE: Swapping submissives for a few days? (2/16/2013 11:22:38 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: AmbitiousLauren

Online bdsm is not cyber sex

Agreed.
Round my neck o'the woods we call it "wankfodder."




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