RE: Who really holds the power in a D/s relationship?

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TNDommeK -> RE: Who really holds the power in a D/s relationship? (3/19/2013 12:05:55 AM)
Is that the koolaid camp guy and his followers?

Dyfrynt -> RE: Who really holds the power in a D/s relationship? (3/19/2013 7:37:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Level Take away the checks and balaces, what's left to make sure someone doesn't go too far? Safe, sane, and consensual have taken the last bus out of town; what's left? Just pondering out loud... What indeed. It all boils down to two things. 1. Do you completely, totally, truly trust your partner? Are you a wise judge of character. 2. BDSM has an element, a real element of danger in some of the things we do. Accidents can happen even when everyone is being as safe as can be. Are you prepared for those potentials?

JeffBC -> RE: Who really holds the power in a D/s relationship? (3/19/2013 7:43:50 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TNDommeK Is that the koolaid camp guy and his followers? Yes. And that is what happens when you have a personality like mine and a bunch like Carol's when it doesn't go so well. That image pretty much sums up why I say that nothing we are doing is particularly safe, sane, or consentual. Unless, of course, anyone thought jonestown was SSC.

Treasure29 -> RE: Who really holds the power in a D/s relationship? (5/30/2013 5:20:55 AM)
Its the sub who holds the power because if the sub holds a reason as to not wanting to do something that the master has just told them to do then it's up to the Master to either form a plan of being able to change the subs mind or b) deciding not to do that anyway or c) forcing her to do it which can lead to her the next day calling the gards and telling them how she was treated landing the Master in Jail.

Greta75 -> RE: Who really holds the power in a D/s relationship? (5/30/2013 6:01:31 AM)
I feel like D/S is often simple. For the dom, do what I say, or just leave. For the sub, when I don't want to obey you anymore, I can leave. It's that simple, both have power. If the sub can't bear to live the dom, she'll give in. If the dom can't bear to lose the sub, he will give in.

ARIES83 -> RE: Who really holds the power in a D/s relationship? (5/30/2013 6:33:12 AM)
I didn't hear about that koolaid thing... Whatever the case, unfortunately I have very little faith in peoples abilities... I wouldn't trust the majority of I know with sharp objects let alone any kind of power over someone. That may be arrogant, but it's an opinion that’s been reinforced (to my chagrin...) regularly...

evesgrden -> RE: Who really holds the power in a D/s relationship? (5/30/2013 7:19:31 AM)
fr~ The one who wants it most holds the power, whoever is more vested in the relationship. Sometimes that's one-sided, but I'd wager that in most healthy relationships that's fairly fluid.

ARIES83 -> RE: Who really holds the power in a D/s relationship? (5/30/2013 7:47:39 AM)
Seems to me like the one most vested in a relationship has the most to loes. And because of that is at the mercy of the other to a certain extent.

DaddySatyr -> RE: Who really holds the power in a D/s relationship? (5/30/2013 7:50:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Treasure29 Its the sub who holds the power because if the sub holds a reason as to not wanting to do something that the master has just told them to do then it's up to the Master to either form a plan of being able to change the subs mind or b) deciding not to do that anyway or c) forcing her to do it which can lead to her the next day calling the gards and telling them how she was treated landing the Master in Jail. Welcome to collarchat and good luck!

Greta75 -> RE: Who really holds the power in a D/s relationship? (5/30/2013 9:19:12 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ARIES83 Seems to me like the one most vested in a relationship has the most to loes. And because of that is at the mercy of the other to a certain extent. Yup, pretty much. That's why you got some doms who like to say, love ruins everything.

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