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Youth versus experience - 3/31/2013 10:28:19 AM

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I am young, very.
I'm very unexperienced, and the probably I'm facing is masters
who prefer a slave or sub that already knows the ropes.
I've seen this lifestyle upclose ( My parents)
And no how it works, but haven't had the opportunity to please a master.

One good thing is you won't have to teach and old dog new tricks
Just a new dog, new tricks.

So, youth or experience?

RE: Youth versus experience - 3/31/2013 10:34:09 AM

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It's been my experience (hah!) that most male Doms don't care about experience, especially when the woman in question is young and cute. (which you are)

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RE: Youth versus experience - 3/31/2013 10:36:00 AM

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^^ this

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RE: Youth versus experience - 3/31/2013 10:37:06 AM

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Yes some Masters will want experience over a newbie, but Not all of them will either. Alto I am not a Dom. I can answer this from experience. I only kneel to my Master but to others I am a Mistress in my own full right. And What really will attract a good Dominate is intelligence and the willingness to expand and learn. I have a newbie that i am working with as well as i work with more experienced ones as well. For me as well as My Master its all about what each person brings into the relationship and thats the magic spark that we enjoy the most.

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RE: Youth versus experience - 3/31/2013 10:37:37 AM

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Well thank you very much.

I guess I'm just running into the ones who want that experience.

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RE: Youth versus experience - 3/31/2013 10:39:49 AM

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For me neither youth nor experience is the criteria - rather, the desire to learn and serve. Attitude is a major determining factor over all. If your personality is appealing, why not give you consideration?

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RE: Youth versus experience - 3/31/2013 10:41:06 AM

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The best point of view to work from is, if they're hung up on that, then they're not the right person for you. Then move onto the next guy, because there will always be someone behind the guy who isn't for you.

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RE: Youth versus experience - 3/31/2013 10:46:33 AM

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@sexyblackman2 thank you for shining the light on a different angle.

@osidegirl you're right it's a tadbit naive for a dominant not wanting to train, i guess I assumed that's what they preferred

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RE: Youth versus experience - 3/31/2013 10:49:14 AM

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I have never found lack of experience to be a determining factor for any potential Dom or Master I have spoken to. I am sure there are some, but OsideGirl is right....Next!

Anyway- each Dom or Master is unique in what they want. So the most experienced sub or slave still has to learn their wishes and desires. And equally important, they have to learn about you. So really, it's new for everyone if you think about it that way. :)

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RE: Youth versus experience - 3/31/2013 10:50:29 AM

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Honestly, the only possible advantage to being with someone experienced on our side of kneel, would be having realistic expectations. But, even that's not a given with an experienced Submissive.

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RE: Youth versus experience - 3/31/2013 11:15:50 AM

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there are a lot more people seeking unexperienced bottoms/subs/slaves than those of us who have been at it a while. Why? Probably because those of us who know stuff also know when things are BS. You are young, cute and inexperienced, they will find you.

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RE: Youth versus experience - 3/31/2013 11:25:09 AM

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Well isn't it awesome then that they're letting you know right away that the two of you aren't a match? Great...saves you time and energy.

I've found that most Dominants don't really care all that much about experience or the lack of it. They tend to figure that they'll let you know how they want things done.

Be careful, labeling yourself a newb is targeting yourself for the guys out there that might not know what they're doing and are trying it on for size. Nothing wrong with that, but it can be problematic if they claim experience doing something and don't have it. People get hurt that way. Also, the guys who target newbs exclusively may be doing so because they feel inadequate and that a newb won't find fault with them. Or that they can get away with talking shit about what you should or should not do- like wanting you to get naked on cam and saying you're not a "real" submissive if you do not.

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RE: Youth versus experience - 3/31/2013 11:31:29 AM

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~FRing it~

It isn't the experience level of the submissive for me. What it IS about for me is the desire to experience BDSM, the appropriate mindset (not a do-me sub looking to me to be a fetish delivery system), and the personality and connection I feel with the submissive.

And I totally agree with why Lizi says as well about being new. There are idiots out there who prey on "fresh meat" because they are counting on you not knowing any better. Be new, but be smart.

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RE: Youth versus experience - 3/31/2013 11:34:15 AM

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Well thank you very much.

I guess I'm just running into the ones who want that experience.

Not sure what you mean by "that experience".

At age 18, you cannot have much experience in any aspect of life, let alone being submissive.

You don't really need experience to be submissive, just desire and self awareness, self respect and being smart enough to do only what you want to do and run from red flags.

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RE: Youth versus experience - 3/31/2013 12:29:40 PM

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By that experience I mean a submissive or slave who've already had a master.

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RE: Youth versus experience - 3/31/2013 12:31:54 PM

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each Dom or Master has their own preference. experienced or not does not matter to me. it is about the power that i would have over that person. it would be her willing to submit to me and my desires. it is all about what I want and not what she wants (if agreed upon). i do say since your a newbie.....be careful of the fakes and abusers out there. they will take full advantage of you and you will be back here looking for advice on how to deal with that. make a list of what you are looking for, what you are into, what your limits are. being just a little educated does help....you say you know it all so well with your parents....explain more. did mom call dad master, what did mom do for dad, serve him?

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RE: Youth versus experience - 3/31/2013 12:32:29 PM

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You could try a TNG group and meet inexperienced dominants to explore with.

But at your age, if you're seeking someone above 21 this means you folks can't go out a lot together. Because you aren't old enough to go into a bar. And most people also like to go out to dinner occasionally and unwind as well as the beat and fuck. If at 18 you're also living at home still, that's an additional problem.

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RE: Youth versus experience - 3/31/2013 12:49:10 PM

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I don't see why my age would limit me.
I can go into a bar but can't drink. Thats fine, I don't need to be focusing on drinking
And "partying" just that desire to plesse my master.
My parents are M/S . They fully understand and relocations is not a concern.
I prefer experience because I am not experienced why im hoping for an older dom

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RE: Youth versus experience - 3/31/2013 1:50:22 PM

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So, youth or experience?

I'll take door #3... "maturity".

I can't honestly imagine selecting a partner for life based upon her being an "experienced slave" or "a young hottie". I wouldn't pick you because I didn't like hanging with women under 30 even when I was under 30. Now that I'm almost 50 we'd be a very poor match and that has nothing to do with kink.

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RE: Youth versus experience - 3/31/2013 2:31:57 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Uniquesweets

I am young, very.
I'm very unexperienced, and the probably I'm facing is masters
who prefer a slave or sub that already knows the ropes.
I've seen this lifestyle upclose ( My parents)
And no how it works, but haven't had the opportunity to please a master.

One good thing is you won't have to teach and old dog new tricks
Just a new dog, new tricks.

So, youth or experience?

As my assorted profiles over several sites and many years have always said, a sub's previous experience (including lack of) is irrelevant to me. Point being we're always brand new to each other whether she's a first day newbie or served a dozen others over several decades.

Protocols, appearance, presentation, quirks & kinks etc that are vital to one dom are not necessarily important to me - or vice versa. And all any prospective sub property of mine needs to know is what *I* want and expect of her - making me the only one who can teach her that.

That said, if I happened to find myself in the (somewhat bizarre) position of selecting options at a vending machine dispensing fem/subs, I'd select "no previous experience" over "experienced" everytime. Thing is, I like teaching/training that which my girl needs to know. To that end, the newbie is usually nervous, stilted and unsure etc (makes for a GREAT Dom/sub atmosphere) whereas the experienced can often be presumptive and practised, even to a point of me having to "unteach" her certain things.

And having said all this, your actual question is "youth vs experience". Since actual D/s occupies a relatively small amount of time within a greater D/s relationship (think intimacy within a vanilla relationship) and that I'm pretty old, I'd much prefer over 40 and inexperienced to youth. Cos when she's not serving or generally doing as she's told, I also appreciate having an equally worldly adult female to just share my everday, too.

I mean, what am I gonna do with a teen sub for an evening of sharing - go night-clubbing till dawn? Nup, that'd be her torturing me.... lol

Focus.

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