CynthiaWVirginia
Posts: 1915
Joined: 2/28/2010 From: West Virginia, USA Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: zwheels I'm disabled and having an extremely hard time finding a mistress. I was just wondering if there were any immediate reasons why a mistress would not want to be served by me. My slave has several disabilities from a mining cave in that almost crushed him to death. I chose him over all the younger, more healthy men available because...he has a beautiful heart...and...we are compatible. This week I spent a ten plus hour day waiting at the hospital for him while he had surgery, came out of recovery, and was made comfortable for the night. I took him home from the hospital when the time came and I've been at his home taking care of him. Tomorrow he gets a brief shower while sitting in a chair. His mother fell down several weeks ago and is still recovering from having steel plates and screws put into her hip...my slave's sister stopped helping as of this morning so...guess who is helping to take care of her? Me. Ownership is more than just kinky play for some of us. My boy stood by me when over a year ago I had dozens of blood clots hit my lungs. Spit happens, and sooner or later either we "die young and maybe leave a beautiful corpse" or else we live long enough to develop all kinds of limitations and disabilities. I plan to be tying my boy up, flogging him, etc., well into his seventies and eighties, even if my grip sucks by then and I have to duct tape my flogger to my hand. It's not your disability, entirely, that's causing you problems finding a Domme. (I'll admit that some people just don't want to deal with disabilities, or are completely unprepared to handle them.) In my opinion...it's how you present yourself and your...um...newbie expectations. It's okay to be excited by all of this and wanting the kink community to know that you've arrived. But...why not start learning some of the ropes by reading non-porn, non-fantasy BDSM books like SM 101 by Jay Wiseman? Amazon.com and Ebay have copies. Anything to help you to get what you want eventually. Btw, there are BDSM munch groups you'd might like to join. Ones called "TNG" are for kinksters under 30 or thereabouts. One of our munch groups has a member who hosts "game night", a meet and greet in his home where people snack on food and play board games and card games, etc. Since I have a minivan, sometimes I offer to pick up other members and take them to play parties, munches, or game nights. Maybe new friends will help you to attend some in your area by carpooling. Sometimes it takes years to find the right person to be in a kinky relationship with. If you just want to have fun, maybe someone will have a kink for taking all kinds of cherries...and will tie you up at some play party or whatever. I used to enjoy topping newbies.
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