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ClassAct2006 -> RE: Findom makes it hard for subs. (5/23/2013 8:00:13 AM)

It's probably because I'm submissive but I've never had a man offering to send me money... Ijust pay out to men... paid out to a man on a divorce etc. Men take. I give and that is not my fetish.... and I do not mean they are all like that but I suppose at the end of the day we all pay one way or another.

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ORIGINAL: lizi

It seems to me that it's usually the men who say that finsubs are not common. I think perhaps it's because they have a chip on their shoulder about the whole thing, it pisses them off, and they refuse to believe that there are silly men out there who would actually search this out. They don't seem to think financial Domination has any value, so they refuse to think that it could exist.

It's the women that say it's common. Why? Because I'd say about every woman on this site, no matter what sexual orientation box they check off, has had out of the blue offers from men asking to send them money. I also think that the hordes of finDommes out there proves that there is a market supporting them.

People can draw their own conclusions of course.





HaveWhipWillTrav -> RE: Findom makes it hard for subs. (5/23/2013 8:34:08 AM)

I am not into financial domination at all. However I do like to beat people and tied them up and all other manner of things that a lot of people find deplorable. As soon as someone states the intention of financial domination it removes the scam aspect. Online you are paying for a fantasy, in real life you are paying for a service pretty much. People enjoy it or they would not do it so to each thier own. As with any form of domination there has to be a certain level of trust or the risk of bad feelings is always there.




HeatherHellfire -> RE: Findom makes it hard for subs. (5/23/2013 2:02:06 PM)

The one thing that gets Me is that I receive about 50 requests per week most are utter trash. Where in the history of etiquette did it become acceptable to use the opener "hi I want to be your toilet" ? The grammer and punctuation is usually hideous but this first contact on content alone would incite contempt from most Women. The vulgar requests vastly outweigh the respectful ones by a ratio of approximately 10 to 1. I am Lifestyle and Pro and have found wonderful submissives on here from time to time. My profile cleary states that if you are looking for a session and not willing to put in the effort that any self respecting Woman would demand first then you will pay , period. I adore being served by and consensually abusing men and women but it will be on My terms always. Completely ignoring a profile that some effort was obviously put into and just plowing into My inbox with the finesse of some feral beast will guarantee My attention will require tribute. I have a custom cage coming in mid September that will have a final cost in the neighborhood of $2000. My implement value easily exceeds $3000. This is not even taking into account the cross and dungeon furniture. I adore My shoe collection and it is quite extensive and expensive so asking Me to send you a 400$ pair of Christian Louboutin's so that you can slobber on them will have a very high price tag on it. If I like you and you show proper submissivness and respect then maybe I will entertain you as a toy. Sending a wishlist almost demanding to be beaten on thousands of dollars of My equipement without even so much as an inquiry in what I about will get you the stock answer or in the extreme case blocked because I don't feel like explaining this crap for the 500th time to your lame ass ! As far as the real submissives are concerned that aren't just a bunch of pigs disguised as humans, I adore you all.

Goddess Hellfire




ThundersCry54 -> RE: Findom makes it hard for subs. (5/23/2013 6:13:12 PM)

I don`t pay attention to the other side, howeve 8/ 10 seems rather high.

*subs* don`t have it any harder than anyone else...they make it hard by whinning way to much about ohhh this is sooo hard to find someone.

Maybe they are looking in all the wrong...places.




thishereboi -> RE: Findom makes it hard for subs. (5/23/2013 10:28:05 PM)


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ORIGINAL: HeatherHellfire

The one thing that gets Me is that I receive about 50 requests per week most are utter trash. Where in the history of etiquette did it become acceptable to use the opener "hi I want to be your toilet" ? The grammer and punctuation is usually hideous but this first contact on content alone would incite contempt from most Women. The vulgar requests vastly outweigh the respectful ones by a ratio of approximately 10 to 1. I am Lifestyle and Pro and have found wonderful submissives on here from time to time. My profile cleary states that if you are looking for a session and not willing to put in the effort that any self respecting Woman would demand first then you will pay , period. I adore being served by and consensually abusing men and women but it will be on My terms always. Completely ignoring a profile that some effort was obviously put into and just plowing into My inbox with the finesse of some feral beast will guarantee My attention will require tribute. I have a custom cage coming in mid September that will have a final cost in the neighborhood of $2000. My implement value easily exceeds $3000. This is not even taking into account the cross and dungeon furniture. I adore My shoe collection and it is quite extensive and expensive so asking Me to send you a 400$ pair of Christian Louboutin's so that you can slobber on them will have a very high price tag on it. If I like you and you show proper submissivness and respect then maybe I will entertain you as a toy. Sending a wishlist almost demanding to be beaten on thousands of dollars of My equipement without even so much as an inquiry in what I about will get you the stock answer or in the extreme case blocked because I don't feel like explaining this crap for the 500th time to your lame ass ! As far as the real submissives are concerned that aren't just a bunch of pigs disguised as humans, I adore you all.

Goddess Hellfire


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MistressDarkArt -> RE: Findom makes it hard for subs. (5/23/2013 10:48:00 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Steadygoing

I don't even think there is an "interest" option to add to your profile for it


Very good point, Steady. I suppose the site can't possibly list EVERY fetish/kink as options when filling out profile interest lists. That said, as much as this proclivity gets hashed and bashed every damn day here, I wonder why they didn't include it.




ClassAct2006 -> RE: Findom makes it hard for subs. (5/24/2013 11:19:49 AM)


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ORIGINAL: HeatherHellfire
The grammer and punctuation is usually hideous....


Was that joke?
(Grammar - write it 100 times.... Thou must learn to spell grammar with an "a"...




TNDommeK -> RE: Findom makes it hard for subs. (5/24/2013 2:59:04 PM)


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ORIGINAL: thishereboi


quote:

ORIGINAL: HeatherHellfire

The one thing that gets Me is that I receive about 50 requests per week most are utter trash. Where in the history of etiquette did it become acceptable to use the opener "hi I want to be your toilet" ? The grammer and punctuation is usually hideous but this first contact on content alone would incite contempt from most Women. The vulgar requests vastly outweigh the respectful ones by a ratio of approximately 10 to 1. I am Lifestyle and Pro and have found wonderful submissives on here from time to time. My profile cleary states that if you are looking for a session and not willing to put in the effort that any self respecting Woman would demand first then you will pay , period. I adore being served by and consensually abusing men and women but it will be on My terms always. Completely ignoring a profile that some effort was obviously put into and just plowing into My inbox with the finesse of some feral beast will guarantee My attention will require tribute. I have a custom cage coming in mid September that will have a final cost in the neighborhood of $2000. My implement value easily exceeds $3000. This is not even taking into account the cross and dungeon furniture. I adore My shoe collection and it is quite extensive and expensive so asking Me to send you a 400$ pair of Christian Louboutin's so that you can slobber on them will have a very high price tag on it. If I like you and you show proper submissivness and respect then maybe I will entertain you as a toy. Sending a wishlist almost demanding to be beaten on thousands of dollars of My equipement without even so much as an inquiry in what I about will get you the stock answer or in the extreme case blocked because I don't feel like explaining this crap for the 500th time to your lame ass ! As far as the real submissives are concerned that aren't just a bunch of pigs disguised as humans, I adore you all.

Goddess Hellfire


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The truth! Especially the shoe part.




LookieNoNookie -> RE: Findom makes it hard for subs. (5/24/2013 6:09:16 PM)


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ORIGINAL: LoyalBlackSub

It seems that 8/10 dommes here are all about money. There's nothing wrong with serving your Mistress with your wallet amongst other things, as a true sub seeks to please his domme any way possible. I feel,however, that Findom takes away the integrity of our lifestyle and attracts the wrong women/scammers. If I message 30 dommes right now, 25 will say something along the lines of: tribute me, send me amazon giftcards, etc. They don't care who you are, or if you're even submissive, as long as you tribute. It's like prostitution without having sex which attracts any attractive girl to make a profile and demand money as if they're dominant. Femdom is turning more into a business venture than a lifestyle and that's not good for young subs just entering the lifestlye. I'm not bashing Collerme, or even Findom. Findom used correctly, gives the Mistress ultimate control which I believe in. But the effect its had: fakes, scammers, picture stealing, and women looking for a quick payday is not good for us true subs and dommes.


Any (online) Domme that needs cash....should be flushed.

Down the poop schute.




evesgrden -> RE: Findom makes it hard for subs. (5/24/2013 6:32:50 PM)

If only the ad could give the appearance of being thinly veiled.




TNDommeK -> RE: Findom makes it hard for subs. (5/24/2013 6:33:27 PM)

I don't "need" cash, but I will get compensated for my time.




LookieNoNookie -> RE: Findom makes it hard for subs. (5/24/2013 7:04:46 PM)


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ORIGINAL: TNDommeK

I don't "need" cash, but I will get compensated for my time.



Me too.




MrBukani -> RE: Findom makes it hard for subs. (5/24/2013 7:39:46 PM)

LOL
80% of dommes are findommes
true dommes get 80% of all the shitty emails from wannabe subs
femalesubs get 300% of wanko doms
in general just like any other datingsite wimmin get mailbombed.
And still the bitches complain there arent enough good men around. From hundreds of pickings.
I see an e-traffic jam in my mirror.[:D]




LookieNoNookie -> RE: Findom makes it hard for subs. (5/24/2013 8:26:58 PM)


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ORIGINAL: MrBukani

LOL
80% of dommes are findommes
true dommes get 80% of all the shitty emails from wannabe subs
femalesubs get 300% of wanko doms
in general just like any other datingsite wimmin get mailbombed.
And still the bitches complain there arent enough good men around. From hundreds of pickings.
I see an e-traffic jam in my mirror.[:D]


You so wrong.




HeatherHellfire -> RE: Findom makes it hard for subs. (5/24/2013 9:15:59 PM)


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ORIGINAL: ClassAct2006


quote:

ORIGINAL: HeatherHellfire
The grammer and punctuation is usually hideous....


Was that joke?
(Grammar - write it 100 times.... Thou must learn to spell grammar with an "a"...



No it wasn't, it was a typo on an iPad but the message had the desired effect and I received two very respectful messages back to back yesterday. I do have to thank you for pointing out the single mindedness of the bulk of the CM community. I've been Skyping with a very interesting submissive due to My message and am so glad that you benefited from it too ;)

Goddess Hellfire




BossMarkSir -> RE: Findom makes it hard for subs. (5/25/2013 3:32:36 AM)

I'm new here. I'm not a woman. and am not here looking for a woman, but jeez, even I've been approached already if I would take tributes.
Thats not me ! Thasts something I COULD be interested in if I really was with the sub IRL, but otherwise as a kink it just doesnt make sense to me.




evesgrden -> RE: Findom makes it hard for subs. (5/25/2013 3:53:25 AM)

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but the message had the desired effect and I received two very respectful messages back to back yesterday.



I knew it was an personal ad.





TNDommeK -> RE: Findom makes it hard for subs. (5/25/2013 5:38:00 AM)


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ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie


quote:

ORIGINAL: TNDommeK

I don't "need" cash, but I will get compensated for my time.



Me too.



As you should! :)




HeatherHellfire -> RE: Findom makes it hard for subs. (5/25/2013 6:28:57 AM)


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ORIGINAL: evesgrden

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but the message had the desired effect and I received two very respectful messages back to back yesterday.



I knew it was an personal ad.




Ad? I am here to meet subs like most other Dom(me) on CM. The guy has no money but is humorous, intelligent and good looking and he's built like a fireman, if that is an ad then so be it !

Cheers

Goddess Hellfire




KYsissy -> RE: Findom makes it hard for subs. (5/25/2013 7:00:16 AM)

Just my $0.02. There is no magic buffet where you can order up he Domme of your dreams. Well yeah i guess there is but they will want to be paid. I have been looking for many many years. I recently met someone in a venue totally unrelated to kink. She had no experience and little knowledge but the concept intrigued her. After about 2 months of talking and emails she decided she wanted to give it a go. She is taking to it well and learning more every day.
I had pretty much given up, was not looking, and it just kinda happened. But I had to be totally honest about some uncomfortable subjects with someone i barely knew. I had to work to form the relationship first before any of the fun stuff could happen. Slow down. Treat the lovely ladies as you would a date you you would like to see again.




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