JeffBC
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Joined: 2/12/2012 From: Canada Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders I'm pretty sure that we know each other's passwords for everything, but it's always come up in the context of 'hey, would you just log into my emails and check the address of this place for me?' rather than 'I have the right to look through your stuff'. This would be true of Carol and I also. I'm the geek in the house so of course i know all her passwords. I created a lot of them. But I can't recall ever feeling the need to use them for any particular reason other than pragmatic ones. While I acknowledge that I have the right to them and to do with them as I will (as Carol's owner), that right is a distant theoretical thing with no real impact on our lives. quote:
Even though there is nothing on my phone, emails, cm account or anything else that I wouldn't willingly share with me, I'd still be horrified if I thought he was reading my messages just for the sake of it or to check up on me. Carol and I had an interesting discussion with another TPE couple over beers a few months back. The question was, "How does the slave feel if the master puts video cameras all over the house to spy on her? What if he does it covertly? I was intrigued at how both slaves (and both very, very different) parsed it exactly the same way. If he's doing it because he doesn't trust me then the relationship is over. If he's doing it for any other reason then that's his right and I'm totally cool with it. Given how vastly different the relationships and people involved were I was fascinated at how both made the same fine distinction about rights & motives.
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