LadiesBladewing
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I think I have a "Life" philosophy, and not a "BDSM" or "D/s" or "M/s" philosophy. The first thing I'll say on my own behalf is that I don't consider BDSM, and D/s-M/s the same thing. I think that some aspects of D/s-M/s are incorporated into BDSM, but to me, BDSM isn't a "lifestyle"... it's a series of activities. D/s and M/s may or may not incorporate aspects of BDSM, but, to me, these -are- a lifestyle... a long-term yielding up, and the depth to which that yielding happens and is accepted makes the difference, to me, between the two. It is also important to note when reading my work that D/s means Dominant/servant, and M/s means Master/servant... when I choose to bring a servant into our home to train, and it is not yet a long-term committment, we are D/s... when we decide that we are going to work towards having that servant become a permanent, fully-contributing member of our household, that relationship, for us, becomes M/s. That being said, as I said earlier, I don't have a philosophy about BDSM/Ds/Ms specifically. I think that people should use their lives to become more completely themselves. If that means living in service to another, I find that to be a completely worthy way to choose to live one's life. If one says that he or she wishes to live in service to our household, I will expect that he or she is telling the truth, and will do everything in -my- power to make sure that he or she fully expresses that desired existence. If an individual discovers that this -wasn't- what he or she thought it was, that's ok -- that person is welcome to move on, and as long as nobody within our family was hurt in the process, there is no ill will.... Havens forfend that anyone, top, bottom, servant, dominant, etc., harms a member of our household, though -- Justice may be blind, but she's also not stupid and her hammer is swift and falls true. The few who have mostly escaped her touch after screwing over a member of our home have made sure to stay -far- away for a LONG time... not because of anything we said, but because they knew they got off easy, and didn't want to provoke Lady Justice any more than they already had. I enjoy doing the things that evoke a person's essence. I like flogging, if it brings out the true nature of a servant... I like lecturing, if I see the light of that essence in his or her eyes. SR adores humiliation and castigation, nitpicking and being demanding. I cherish her nature, and enjoy seeing her work a servant through his or her paces in a way that makes them both flourish. THAT is my BDSM philosophy -- my life-philosophy of "If it doesn't move me forward or the person I'm working with forward, and feel good to my spirit (even if it is difficult, boring, or a pain in the butt), I won't do it." If I feel that something is dangerous, or diminishes another being with whom I share this plane of existence, it doesn't get put on the books. (Even SR humiliating someone is a shared fetish with the people she uses it with). Everything else is subject to discussion. ZWD
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