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Hollyucinogen -> What do subs think of FinDommes? (5/18/2013 4:15:07 PM)
I'm curious. I've seen a lot of Dommes who don't agree with FinDommes, but I've never seen or heard a subs' opinion on it. What do you think? Note: If you're just going to come in and be like OMG UR GOING 2 BURN IN HELL, leave your condescending comments at the door, please. I'm only interested in intellectual discourse and serious opinions.

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searching4mysir -> RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? (5/18/2013 4:28:31 PM)
FR Not my kink. We are all supposed to be adults here, so if someone wants to waste his money on giftcards for a stranger, he is free to do so. This being said, you could say my Master is a fin-Dom as he manages my money/spending. We are in a full-blown owned relationship and engaged to be married.

DarkSteven -> RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? (5/18/2013 4:42:27 PM)
Hijack: I love your screen name!

lostnlooking9 -> RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? (5/18/2013 5:39:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Hollyucinogen I'm curious. I've seen a lot of Dommes who don't agree with FinDommes, but I've never seen or heard a subs' opinion on it. What do you think? Note: If you're just going to come in and be like OMG UR GOING 2 BURN IN HELL, leave your condescending comments at the door, please. I'm only interested in intellectual discourse and serious opinions. Me? to each their own. Not my thing but I understand the kink, the use, the need and the purpose of such. Some people only want a part time thing, or to sub on occasion. Some are married, or want something their partner cannot provide, and etc etc etc. I feel that many FinDomme profiles on here are fake or abusive with such, and make a mockery of the real true and good FinDommes that exist. To me FinDommes provide a needed service. It's WORK, and a JOB in some respects. It's not sitting at the computer demanding money and getting rich. But I won't get into the abusiveness of it here. I also question the validity of FinDommes as being "Dommes" Though that is more nitpicky. I say this because in most cases the sub asks for what they want. They say their limits and desires. The Domme may do what they wish, but with the unstated understanding that if they leave unhappy they will not return(aka no more money) So as such I would imagine they would cater to the wishes of the sub. So in the end who is the real one in control? The one giving the money? shrugs Anyways like I said, not my thing. I seek to serve one who enjoys my service because of who I am, not because I'm paying her to.

theshytype -> RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? (5/18/2013 6:25:49 PM)
Honestly, I'm surprised they cause such a huge uproar. They're not hurting me any. Even if I were searching for a Domme, not financial, their existence on this site still wouldn't bother me and I'd treat it no differently than someone who didn't fit into my physical preferences.

sexyred1 -> RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? (5/18/2013 6:53:48 PM)
As a female sub, I have no opinion or feelings about Fin Dommes, since it is not my interest. However, I am BORED TO DEATH of the myriad threads about Fin Dommes. Yawn.

LafayetteLady -> RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? (5/18/2013 8:52:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Hollyucinogen I'm curious. I've seen a lot of Dommes who don't agree with FinDommes, but I've never seen or heard a subs' opinion on it. What do you think? Note: If you're just going to come in and be like OMG UR GOING 2 BURN IN HELL, leave your condescending comments at the door, please. I'm only interested in intellectual discourse and serious opinions. Really? Have you even READ the findomme threads here? They are almost ALL from the perspective of the subs.

Charles6682 -> RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? (5/18/2013 9:04:20 PM)
I don't personally care about it.Doesn't effect me.Live and let live.

littlewonder -> RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? (5/18/2013 9:32:58 PM)
I don't think anything at all about them. They never even cross my mind.

NiceButMeanGirl -> RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? (5/18/2013 9:40:30 PM)
I'm not a sub, or even a switch for that matter, but FinDommes don't bother me in the least. They want the subs I'm not interested in so it doesn't affect me at all. I'm not interested anyway in someone who'd give his hard-earned cash to a complete stranger. But, if that's someone's kink, I say more power to him. NBMG

SoulAlloy -> RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? (5/19/2013 12:39:01 AM)
Doesn't really bother me, it's prevalent on the other side when searching which can be frustrating if it's not what your looking for, but that's hardly their fault for being in the majority. I've seen one form of financial control in action, it was used more as a humiliation exercise in making him beg for the money rather than her splurging it away. It worked for them. Regarding the thought on them being dommes - consider who gives the submission in a relationship, submissives limits, wants and needs. A domme who ignores those may lose the submissive. Substitute (or combine) submission with money and suddenly it's no longer a domme? Or just not a submissive? Just a thought, I feel it's more to do with the individual people than the activity they engage in.

myotherself -> RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? (5/19/2013 12:48:04 AM)
I only ever think about them when we get yet another thread about them. Which is about 3 or 4 times a week, or so it seems lately. Otherwise, I couldn't care less.

crazyml -> RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? (5/19/2013 5:06:30 AM)
OP: oh I'd say the majority of complaints come from sub males. MODS: the topic of fin dommes seems to be such an important one to the community, I think it merits its own section.

MistressEsmeUK -> RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? (5/19/2013 5:31:31 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lostnlooking9 quote: ORIGINAL: Hollyucinogen I'm curious. I've seen a lot of Dommes who don't agree with FinDommes, but I've never seen or heard a subs' opinion on it. What do you think? Note: If you're just going to come in and be like OMG UR GOING 2 BURN IN HELL, leave your condescending comments at the door, please. I'm only interested in intellectual discourse and serious opinions. Me? to each their own. Not my thing but I understand the kink, the use, the need and the purpose of such. Some people only want a part time thing, or to sub on occasion. Some are married, or want something their partner cannot provide, and etc etc etc. I feel that many FinDomme profiles on here are fake or abusive with such, and make a mockery of the real true and good FinDommes that exist. To me FinDommes provide a needed service. It's WORK, and a JOB in some respects. It's not sitting at the computer demanding money and getting rich. But I won't get into the abusiveness of it here. I also question the validity of FinDommes as being "Dommes" Though that is more nitpicky. I say this because in most cases the sub asks for what they want. They say their limits and desires. The Domme may do what they wish, but with the unstated understanding that if they leave unhappy they will not return(aka no more money) So as such I would imagine they would cater to the wishes of the sub. So in the end who is the real one in control? The one giving the money? shrugs Anyways like I said, not my thing. I seek to serve one who enjoys my service because of who I am, not because I'm paying her to. Findom is findom and its not for everyone but clearly there is a market for people who enjoy that kind of thing. Now you were referring to a pro Dom being a findom and they are not the same. Also I can honestly say no pro Dom I know works off a shopping list. I pro and I don't cater to the sub. I do what I want to do. So do many others I know. Maybe the ones you know work of a subs list but don't categorise us all in the same boat.

myotherself -> RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? (5/19/2013 5:45:10 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: crazyml OP: oh I'd say the majority of complaints come from sub males. MODS: the topic of fin dommes seems to be such an important one to the community, I think it merits its own section. Oh HELL yes!

evesgrden -> RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? (5/19/2013 5:50:23 AM)
Women don't go to kink sites to get lucky. They're here for social reasons, or a relationship with a kink and/or power dynamic, or they're here to make money. Men (whether dominant or submissive) who are looking for nothing but some NSA kink get disappointed to say the least.

mymymouth -> RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? (5/19/2013 6:50:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressEsmeUK Findom is findom and its not for everyone but clearly there is a market for people who enjoy that kind of thing. Now you were referring to a pro Dom being a findom and they are not the same. Also I can honestly say no pro Dom I know works off a shopping list. I pro and I don't cater to the sub. I do what I want to do. So do many others I know. Maybe the ones you know work of a subs list but don't categorise us all in the same boat. This is untrue, the proliferation of "Financial domination" is just due to nobody on this site doing anything about it. There are lots of weak, poor and financially pathetic people that don't want to get a job and so they come on collarme spend an hour creating a profile and hoping that people just start sending them stuff. I highly doubt anyone actually does. If you read their profiles they're all about "no time wasters" "send tribute first" "doesn't anyone want to spoil this beautiful woman". It's spam. You guys act like it's a legitimate kink. When is the last time anyone who actually enjoyed sending money and gifts to "Findoms" ever showed themselves and stood up for the kink? It seems to me it's just outsiders standing up for it displaying that they are characterless and have no actual opinion. Or, it's women still trying to either keep the dream alive, or convince other men that oh yeah it's totally something that men do. So it's not so weird sending them money. Why don't you instead of creating a separate forum to hide posts about this very apparently common topic, you address it. I don't really have any problem with them being there either, live and let live, except that in the short time that I've been on this site I've hidden hundreds of profiles. Most people don't care how much time they waste of others.

RedMagic1 -> RE: What do subs think of FinDommes? (5/19/2013 7:28:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mymymouth It's spam. You guys act like it's a legitimate kink. When is the last time anyone who actually enjoyed sending money and gifts to "Findoms" ever showed themselves and stood up for the kink? You are so remarkably clueless it's hard to know where to begin. I've dated a findomme. She once asked me, "RM1, would it be ok if we got a cuckold? Someone who would pay for all our dates, and then jack off when I told him about them?" A platonic friend of mine tried findomme for a while and didn't like it. A big part of why she stopped was an experience she called me one night about, almost panicked, because she wasn't sure what to do. A guy had told her he was being evicted because he sent her his rent money. She blocked him. He made a new email address and sent her money again. She refused the payment and blocked him again. He did this a few more times, and she ended up calling me. You really need to gain some experience in the world of kink. Your ignorance shows. Paired with your arrogance, you're not very attractive right now.

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