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RE: Findom Problems - 6/5/2013 8:59:03 AM

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I can't speak for anyone but ME but I will say that I practice financial domination because it is that another form of domination

Why the label?

I don't see pussydommes or houseworkdommes or cddommes or chastitydommes cbtdommes paintmyhousedommmes etc etc.
There are all kinds fetishes, all kinds of power dynamics. So how is it that you are a financial dominant as opposed to just being a dominant. How is this "another form", but it's not about money.

Explain this to me like I'm a six year old.

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RE: Findom Problems - 6/5/2013 9:10:28 AM

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I can't speak for anyone but ME but I will say that I practice financial domination because it is that another form of domination

Why the label?

I don't see pussydommes or houseworkdommes or cddommes or chastitydommes cbtdommes paintmyhousedommmes etc etc.
There are all kinds fetishes, all kinds of power dynamics. So how is it that you are a financial dominant as opposed to just being a dominant. How is this "another form", but it's not about money.

Explain this to me like I'm a six year old.

Why do people use labels?
To help identify themselves to others.

I practice financial domination (among many things). Which means I control my fin sub/slaves money.

So by definition I am a financial dominant.

Is that all I am?
Hell no.
Just like I am a mother, but that isn't all I am.

I see leather people.
I see Goreans.
I see cuckolds.
I see the label humiliatrix.
I see disciplinarians.
I see Daddy Doms.
I see baby girls.
I see poly.
I see mono.
I see service subs /slaves.
I see pay pigs.

The list goes on and on.

So financial dominants are NOT the only group that use labels to identify themselves, their dynamic, believes, activities, ect.

Btw.... IF I or anyone who practices financial domination did NOT label ourselves clearly as such then many would say were not being honest or being deceptive.

ETA: Financial dominant is NOT the only bdsm or lifestyle label I use to identify myself. If you would like that long list I can give to you. :)

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RE: Findom Problems - 6/5/2013 10:30:50 AM

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Hmmmm, at what point did I say it gets me off? I said it is fun, which it is, but I don't remember saying anything about the dynamic or that it gets me off.

I do not find them all pathetic though I do some and yes working with them is a job. That is why I get paid to do it.

When did I say I don't do it for the money? There have been cases when it was not just about the money and times when it was.

*by the way* I have no issue with calling myself a sex worker if it makes you feel better. As I pointed out to someone else I don't care if you call me a prostitute if it makes you feel better. I don't know you, you don't know me, and your opinion means very little in my world.

The man you speak of, the one I spoke about, if I were taking advantage of him I would be wealthy by now. And what makes you think he would not exist if not for me? He is older than I am, he has a life outside of his contact with me. I am sure he would keep breathing, fucking, enjoying his life if I dropped dead tomorrow. And did I actually call it a weakness? I called it pathetic that anyone could value themselves by the amount of money they have. That is a personal opinion of mine. I don't ask that anyone else agree with me. But if you really want to know I do find it pathetic that that he believes he can buy people and I will take advantage of that all I want. If you feel sorry for someone that believes he has enough money that he can buy and sell people I feel sorry for you as well (won't say what I really feel or a mod will slap me)

You seem to think the opinion of the person doing a job means a great deal as to if that job should be done or not. Do you really believe the guy at McDonalds thinks you will die without his burgers or that it is healthy for you to eat them? Do either mean that they should not be in business?

"And not to confuse with prodommes" (something else by the way that I do) blah, blah, blah, so if I beat the fuck out of some guy its okay and you won't call me a hooker but if I go over his books, tell him that it is stupid to buy lottery tickets (and that he should stop) then make him buy me dinner I'm a bad person? Wow, just wow, if I understand that correctly it would be why your opinion means little in my world.

Sincerely yours,
Wanna be vampire, sex worker, pro domme, mommydomme, and sadist (who just so you know only "gets off" on blood and tears)

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RE: Findom Problems - 6/5/2013 1:26:55 PM

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ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders

Just in addition to my earlier comments - one of your newer statements is 'having to let a good sub go for their own well-being' - now that sounds like a story which could be interesting, informative, thought-provoking and touching, if well told. You're missing an opportunity to make your blog compelling by showing the complicated human emotions. On it's own the statement doesn't have much impact, but it could. Why not write it up?

That was my feeling too. There wasn't any human face on the blog. If there was genuine and truthful story about letting someone go, even if that meant a financial sacrifice on the part of the domme, I would find that interesting to read. Or if the findomme found her paypal account was closed and she couldn't pay her rent, that would be an interesting revelation. As it is currently, the blog doesn't give me much to care about.

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RE: Findom Problems - 6/5/2013 1:32:09 PM

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I do not find them all pathetic though I do some and yes working with them is a job. That is why I get paid to do it.

Thank you.

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RE: Findom Problems - 6/5/2013 2:16:20 PM

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*raises hand* Um, I enjoy the money and gifts too. If the money stops, I stop. Never hid that.

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RE: Findom Problems - 6/5/2013 2:39:53 PM

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ORIGINAL: MissImmortalPain

Hmmmm, at what point did I say it gets me off? I said it is fun, which it is, but I don't remember saying anything about the dynamic or that it gets me off.

In regards to this statement, I have a question for all the findommes out there: How many of you actually do get sexually aroused by the act of requiring and accepting "tribute" in the form of money and/or gifts from submissives?

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RE: Findom Problems - 6/5/2013 3:03:42 PM

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Ooh, good question.

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RE: Findom Problems - 6/5/2013 3:48:03 PM

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ORIGINAL: TNDommeK

But I don't do that. And I'm nothing what lookie just said.

Honey, I gotta tell you, if I looked like you, or half of these other girls that do this kind of thing....I'd do it too.

I met a fellow on AOL some years back that absolutely believed in this sort of thing, felt that his purpose was to find a good woman and literally work his ass off, give her his check, live in the basement....I could go on....he was thrilled having nothing.

I think that's fab....for him.

And if you ain't poking an eye out and the other party thinks this is a wonderful thing....then....it's a wonderful thing.

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RE: Findom Problems - 6/5/2013 3:49:29 PM

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ORIGINAL: MissImmortalPain

Do you hate prodommes too, Nookie? Phone sex girls? People that sell adult toys? How about people that write romance novels? I ask because all of those things appeal to a sexual nature in people, and they all exchange that appeal for money. Admittedly the last two do hand you a object in exchange for your money, a toy you may use repeatedly or a book you may never read again, but the heart of each (and this issue) is always the same.....money and sex. Money and sex are both very odd things. People see them as forms of power and some people don't like their personal power being played with. So how many others in the adult industry would you call vampires?

Nope....I just think that most (not all....but....most) of these girls that are "findommes" are leaches.

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RE: Findom Problems - 6/5/2013 3:49:51 PM

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I think I made it clear that the money doesn't get me sexually excited. As for gifts....to be honest I believe the only time a gift has ever got me excited, in any way, was once when the live in was flat broke and I was sick. He went to the flower shop and dug through their bins. He picked out what he thought were the best of their throw aways and brought them home to me. He told me he was sorry that he couldn't afford to buy me flowers but he hoped the ones he had at least made me feel a little better. And they did. I think the form of "excitement" that I felt was love though not sexual. Money and gifts do little for me personally. It is the act of surrender and the knowledge that someone will do whatever they can, even if it is something very small, to make me happy that actually makes me happy.

And yes I do suggest that any submissive gentlemen that read this takes note of that event I just related to you. My livein was not the best person to walk the earth. He was not the best at taking orders. He wasn't the best at a lot of things. But when push came to shove he did what his heart commanded him to do to show me he truly cared. That is how he won his place in my life. How he won my respect. And how he won my love. If you want a lady to love you. To make you part of her world. That is what you need to give her.

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RE: Findom Problems - 6/5/2013 3:50:34 PM

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I'm a dancer, would I be a vampire too? Lol
I'm hoping so, but not in the sense I think Lookie is using it. I hope so, bc vampires (not the sparkly ones) are awesome, and I'm kinda into that lifestyle.

Dancing is not even remotely the same thing.

I don't know a single man that would argue that point :)

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RE: Findom Problems - 6/5/2013 3:52:00 PM

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Nookie

I produce fetish videos am I vampire?
Granted, I love the idea of sucking someone dry and leaving them limp and motionless.
So calling me a vampire isn't an insult.

Frankly, if I am great.
I would rather be a "vampire" because I practice financial domination and produce fetish videos than be an emotional vampire or energy vampire.

That is a product.

Ya'll need to quit getting your panties in a bunch....nothing I said was unclear.

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RE: Findom Problems - 6/5/2013 4:04:54 PM

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That is a product.

Ya'll need to quit getting your panties in a bunch....nothing I said was unclear.

Panties?
I only wear panties in movies and that isn't even always true! lol

You're right, fin subs/slaves don't get a tangible product. (typically)
That doesn't mean they don't get something out of it because they do.

ETA: You are correct there are some leeches who throw on the title findom to get cash. Just like there are some men who throw on the label dom to chase pussy.

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RE: Findom Problems - 6/5/2013 4:06:21 PM

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Thanks for clearing that up, Nookie, seeing as you didn't say "most not, all" in your former post. I actually think most...not all...findommes you see online are just little girls playing games with men to see what they can get out of them. And if you think it sucks on here, or any other adult site, you should see what they get away with on chat lines. Kik, chat roulette, omegle, etc. I have seen girls ranging from 13 to 20 just give out mailing addys and tell men to send them money, gifts, etc. And the really sad thing is there are men out there that do it thinking they will meet the girls. Add that to the danger of young girls giving out their addys to strangers and well you will understand why the ones here on collarme don't bother me so much.

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RE: Findom Problems - 6/5/2013 4:14:04 PM

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I call pot of crock on the tangible product thing. K already asked if she was a vampire because she is a dancer. Men don't get a tangible product out of strippers. Unless you want to call a hardon a tangible product.

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RE: Findom Problems - 6/5/2013 4:32:04 PM

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ORIGINAL: MissImmortalPain

I call pot of crock on the tangible product thing. K already asked if she was a vampire because she is a dancer. Men don't get a tangible product out of strippers. Unless you want to call a hardon a tangible product.

VERY TRUE!!!

And if a hard on is a tangible product then um yes, some of my finsubs /slaves get tangible products. hehehe

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RE: Findom Problems - 6/5/2013 4:46:16 PM

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There are many industries built around a intangible products.

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RE: Findom Problems - 6/5/2013 5:04:17 PM

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ORIGINAL: MissImmortalPain

Thanks for clearing that up, Nookie, seeing as you didn't say "most not, all" in your former post. I actually think most...not all...findommes you see online are just little girls playing games with men to see what they can get out of them. And if you think it sucks on here, or any other adult site, you should see what they get away with on chat lines. Kik, chat roulette, omegle, etc. I have seen girls ranging from 13 to 20 just give out mailing addys and tell men to send them money, gifts, etc. And the really sad thing is there are men out there that do it thinking they will meet the girls. Add that to the danger of young girls giving out their addys to strangers and well you will understand why the ones here on collarme don't bother me so much.

Hence (in all above described cases) my point.

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RE: Findom Problems - 6/5/2013 5:08:24 PM

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I call pot of crock on the tangible product thing. K already asked if she was a vampire because she is a dancer. Men don't get a tangible product out of strippers. Unless you want to call a hardon a tangible product.

A stripper at least puts her tits in your face.

Tangible.

(And of course...soft and cuddly :) )

(A product is generally presumed to be a salable item....the old joke about the chic having a pussy, gets the Cadillac....etc....whereas there's no similar joke about a guy with a hard dick being able to procure same, only validates the fact that, indeed....a hard dick is not....a salable {tangible} product).

Ergo....sum.

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