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what is up with all the mama's boys Doms? - 6/30/2006 4:19:34 PM   
mysecret40


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Status: offline 		Please, any Dom, Masters, enlighten me of this......
Many Doms here, this site and others, live with their parents or mothers. I don't get this~!! I have had a couple try to be my Master,.....giving me financial advice, what to do with my life, and so on. Here is the kicker,.....since they live "home", and don't pay rent or utilities, how can I respect that? Sure some have had rough divorces, but they happened years ago and they still live home. One even told me he was afraid of what his ex wife might do to him if she found out he were to inherit any money, and he would put it in hiding. Um,,........what is up with this>? Are these self titled Dom/ Masters? Here I am struggling , a single parent, ......any input would be greatly appreciated.
 
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RE: what is up with all the mama's boys Doms? - 6/30/2006 4:24:55 PM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		I feel that part of being a good Master is learning to master yourself. Sometimes, though, we suck at different aspects (I could stand to be in better shape, for instance). If their living situation or financial situation doesn't inspire you, they're not a match for you. Wish them the best and continue on.

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RE: what is up with all the mama's boys Doms? - 6/30/2006 4:25:21 PM   
mnottertail


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RE: what is up with all the mama's boys Doms? - 6/30/2006 4:29:31 PM   
Wulfchyld


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Status: offline 		I'll have to ask Mom if I can answer this one.

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RE: what is up with all the mama's boys Doms? - 6/30/2006 4:31:58 PM   
midniterider7


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Status: offline 		Mama's boy ?I'll have you know I raised 4 children of my own myself and I assure you I did'nt need mamas help.By the way Secret your looking rather lovely today.

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RE: what is up with all the mama's boys Doms? - 6/30/2006 4:32:00 PM   
gooddogbenji


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ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

I feel that part of being a good Master is learning to master yourself.



I feel that part of being a good sub is learning to master yourself.

But seriously, I will say that we all have different pasts.  Some people struggle to make it on their own, some live with their parents, some live comfortably, some are born rich and just live the high life. 

I, personally, can't respect people who don't struggle to better themselves and thier situation.  If someone had a nasty divorce and moved home again, I can respect them if they are trying to move on.  If someone was born rich, and just sits all day, spending money, they can live in a mansion for all I care, I don't respect them.

So at the end of the day, it's not the situation they're in now, but what is this person doing for themselves for the future.

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RE: what is up with all the mama's boys Doms? - 6/30/2006 4:33:03 PM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		As we age it is not always because it is advantageous financially to live with a parent, sometimes they NEED us to. Up until recently I was helping my mother with her husband who was very ill until he passed away. I have communicated with a couple of dominants in this position. Unless they communicated to you that they lived with their parents to save money, I would not assume this is the case. Some are taking care of their elderly parents. When this is the case I believe they deserve your respect for their ability to show such commitment to their family of origin. Personally I find this very sexy in a dominant.

I think in this society we isolate ourselves from our family, usually ending up far distances away from them, that is just not the way I prefer things. I love the connectedness of extended family. I do not find it shameful that people need each other to survive, the shameful thing in my opinion is to judge someone based upon their living situation as somehow a "mama's boy dom" when you have zero clue what their true situation is. I do not take financial advice from anyone until I research it myself.. and looks can be deceiving hun, someone that has champagne taste on a beer budget can fool you into thinking they are something they are not.. because their "lifestyle" is all on credit and they are in debt up to their eyeballs.

As a single mom I am not looking for someone to do it for me, my son is 16 and no one ever gave me anything, I did it for me and mine. I know how hard it is out there, but I do not expect more from others economically than I can do for myself. Domination is not about the cash for me.

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RE: what is up with all the mama's boys Doms? - 6/30/2006 4:33:08 PM   
skaterboy


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Status: offline 		Easy answer Secret. If they live with mom and you are a mom raising a child, why don't you tell baby Dom to move in with you, but you want child support.
Or, just hit delete?
Good luck single mommie.....single Pop here!

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RE: what is up with all the mama's boys Doms? - 6/30/2006 4:40:04 PM   
Caretakr


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Status: offline 		Having been out the door, and on my own since I was 18, I don't get it either.

Maybe they can't find a nice woman to change Thier diapers?


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RE: what is up with all the mama's boys Doms? - 6/30/2006 4:41:31 PM   
LokisBrat


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Status: offline 		*Shudders at the thought of living with mom*

There are different circumstances as to why one might feel the need to live at home.  It would be hard to judge unless I wore their shoes and lived their life.

*Still shuddering*

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RE: what is up with all the mama's boys Doms? - 6/30/2006 5:01:13 PM   
Invictus754


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quote:

ORIGINAL: mysecret40
Please, any Dom, Masters, enlighten me of this......
Many Doms here, this site and others, live with their parents or mothers. I don't get this~!! I have had a couple try to be my Master,.....giving me financial advice, what to do with my life, and so on. Here is the kicker,.....since they live "home", and don't pay rent or utilities, how can I respect that? Sure some have had rough divorces, but they happened years ago and they still live home. One even told me he was afraid of what his ex wife might do to him if she found out he were to inherit any money, and he would put it in hiding. Um,,........what is up with this>? Are these self titled Dom/ Masters? Here I am struggling , a single parent, ......any input would be greatly appreciated.
Secret


Secret,
 
I don't know how many "Doms" live with their parents, but if it happens that somone I find looks extremely promising - but then I find out that she is a smoker (a deal breaker trait), I just scratch her off the list and look at the next one.  If you are seriously looking, you will find your Master.

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RE: what is up with all the mama's boys Doms? - 6/30/2006 5:39:09 PM   
desertdancer


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Status: offline 		Gosh, it wouldn't bother me if he lived at home.  More and more people are living longer with their parents it seems.  It's not something I'd even blink an eye at.  It would make things difficult if he wanted to walk me around on my leash naked in front of his parents! The Dom could always get a hotel room or move out once he fins a sub he wants to live with. Men are men and living at home with mom or dad doesn't make ya less of one to me.

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RE: what is up with all the mama's boys Doms? - 6/30/2006 5:47:30 PM   
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ORIGINAL: skaterboy

Easy answer Secret. If they live with mom and you are a mom raising a child, why don't you tell baby Dom to move in with you, but you want child support.
Or, just hit delete?
Good luck single mommie.....single Pop here!


"Delete" is always a good option to keep handy. Some grow up slow.... some fast....... some never. Hard to surmise which is which sometimes, isn't it?

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RE: what is up with all the mama's boys Doms? - 6/30/2006 6:06:00 PM   
LadyHugs


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Status: offline 		Dear mysecret40, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
Being an adult and having parents that are senior citizens--the "Greatest Generation," I do understand the sons and daughters taking care of their parents at home. 
 
With every personal situation, it will not always sit well with others.  However, anybody who gives up their lives to the degree that is necessary to take care of blood relatives has my respect.
 
I also realize that financial ups and downs of this current time, it is extremely hard to have financial independence.  Gas, taxes, etc.  It is even more attractive to enter into a poly relationship.  People are hard press to build up savings.  In addition, some have been dealt with disasters, victim of crimes (corporate corruption, robbing pensions, etc.)--
 
Divorce is a nasty business.  And, some ex-wives are ruthless and put a lien on any future assets.  So, I have seen some unfortunate men in the scene get ripped off by their ex- who is also in the scene.  So, the poor chap gets poorer and the female gets richer and has her paw out grabbing more money through mooching, and going to the court asking for more money from an impoverished ex. 
 
In my mind's eye, I rather take each case and judge separately.  Women aren't the only ones who struggle.  Everybody struggles when life gives them a bad hand at the table of cards.  I just make sure I keep my money separate and independent of the drama of the past.
 
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs

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RE: what is up with all the mama's boys Doms? - 6/30/2006 6:11:26 PM   
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Status: offline 		Nicely said, Lady Hugs.

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RE: what is up with all the mama's boys Doms? - 6/30/2006 7:03:14 PM   
Estring


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Status: offline 		It seems to be something that is becoming more common, but as I was more than eager to move out at 18, I don't get it.
Even more puzzling is that any woman would want to be with a guy still living at home, but some don't seem to mind. 

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RE: what is up with all the mama's boys Doms? - 6/30/2006 7:12:55 PM   
diamonddreamlove


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Status: offline 		Lived with my mom for 6 weeks pending a divorce once upon a time.  Was the hardest time of my life and i was delighted to move out with my then 5 month old son to start life alone again.  I also have known times that i had to decide between milk and bread not there now don't want to go back.  I was still a good person and of course the only other time since 18 i lived at home was to help care for my dying father.  Neither were great times but i also know many that enjoy living with parents, helping each other make their lives better and i am not going to criticise them.  Might not want them for a Dom but then i choose a Dom on a different level than where they live.  Every one of us here chooses for a different reason or has a different deal breaker.  Not putting you down secret or anyone else just figure out what is right for you and don't waste anyones time with those you will not consider desireable.

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RE: what is up with all the mama's boys Doms? - 6/30/2006 7:17:25 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		without putting to fine a pint on er, it may be what you have to offer is the thing.

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RE: what is up with all the mama's boys Doms? - 6/30/2006 7:19:47 PM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		My input?  OK.  Stop copying popular song lyrics into your profile and journal entries--especially without crediting the artists.

Maybe then I'll have some sympathy for whatever it is you're complaining about.

quote:

ORIGINAL: mysecret40

......any input would be greatly appreciated.

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RE: what is up with all the mama's boys Doms? - 6/30/2006 7:21:34 PM   
Caretakr


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ORIGINAL: LadyHugs

Dear mysecret40, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
Being an adult and having parents that are senior citizens--the "Greatest Generation," I do understand the sons and daughters taking care of their parents at home. 
 
With every personal situation, it will not always sit well with others.  However, anybody who gives up their lives to the degree that is necessary to take care of blood relatives has my respect.
 
I also realize that financial ups and downs of this current time, it is extremely hard to have financial independence.  Gas, taxes, etc.  It is even more attractive to enter into a poly relationship.  People are hard press to build up savings.  In addition, some have been dealt with disasters, victim of crimes (corporate corruption, robbing pensions, etc.)--
 
Divorce is a nasty business.  And, some ex-wives are ruthless and put a lien on any future assets.  So, I have seen some unfortunate men in the scene get ripped off by their ex- who is also in the scene.  So, the poor chap gets poorer and the female gets richer and has her paw out grabbing more money through mooching, and going to the court asking for more money from an impoverished ex. 
 
In my mind's eye, I rather take each case and judge separately.  Women aren't the only ones who struggle.  Everybody struggles when life gives them a bad hand at the table of cards.  I just make sure I keep my money separate and independent of the drama of the past.
 
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs


Staying home to take care of infirm parents is a bit different than staying home to be a perpetual teenager.

< Message edited by Caretakr -- 6/30/2006 7:25:58 PM >

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