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how can someone be a swiych i dont understand - 11/18/2004 1:51:07 PM

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how can someone be a switch i dont understand please explain.

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RE: how can someone be a swiych i dont understand - 11/18/2004 2:22:54 PM

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How can you be a slave?

Switches, from my experience, simply feel drawn to, and enjoy both the dominant position and the submissive one.

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RE: how can someone be a swiych i dont understand - 11/18/2004 2:54:19 PM

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It's not a simple answer. It like asking how come you're dominant, submissive,straight, gay or bi.

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RE: how can someone be a swiych i dont understand - 11/18/2004 3:24:04 PM

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You have to take a test first.

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RE: how can someone be a swiych i dont understand - 11/18/2004 4:43:59 PM

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LOL karma!

In all seriousness though, perverseangelic and subtara hit it on the dot.

Ask yourself why you are submissive and how you know that you are submissive and that is the same way that we know we are switches. *smile*

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RE: how can someone be a swiych i dont understand - 11/19/2004 6:13:22 AM

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i'm sorry if i afended anyone but i just asked i thought about it and i guess it can happen

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RE: how can someone be a swiych i dont understand - 11/19/2004 8:28:46 AM

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I don't know that you offended anyone. I think it's safe to say that it more than "can happen." It happens, as far as I know, with a decent amount of regularity. In my search for play partners, I've found those that I assoicate with to be divided into almost even thirds, dominant/submissive/switch, and that the switch group is the most balanced in terms of gender.

It says it on some other parts of this board, but "switch" doesn't always mean"I switch roles with one person." In some cases, an individual submits to one person, and tops others. For example, slaves that themselves have beta slaves. I think it's all in how you look at it.

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RE: how can someone be a swiych i dont understand - 11/19/2004 9:59:45 AM

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Don't worry about it -- Just know that it's possible.

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RE: how can someone be a swiych i dont understand - 11/19/2004 10:52:54 AM

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Thats like asking "how can you be hungry". Some switches evolved that way some were that way to begin with .Its truly the best of both worlds and any switch out there who truly is one knows exactly what im talikng about. There is a lot of misconceptions on switches floating around out there .

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RE: how can someone be a swiych i dont understand - 11/19/2004 11:38:18 AM

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I didn't find that offensive either. I think when one doesn't understand something, it's healthy to ask.
I would tend to agree with perverse. I've found many more who tend to be switches than not. And, as stated it doesn't necessarily mean that you 'take turns' with the same person. I spent 6 yrs as a dominant, had subs of my own etc. And, I enjoyed it. Presently, I am exploring the sub side of me. It's something that I've wanted to do for a long time. I still Top now and then, but have no wish to have a sub of my own. I don't rule it out for the future, it's just not where I'm at now. I'm enjoying this too much...lol I also find that I can't go from one mode to another quickly. (I know one woman who can be topped one moment, and then go on to top someone else.) But, that's just me and my headspace. We all have our things. That's what makes this lifestyle so great....*g*

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I don't know that you offended anyone. I think it's safe to say that it more than "can happen." It happens, as far as I know, with a decent amount of regularity. In my search for play partners, I've found those that I assoicate with to be divided into almost even thirds, dominant/submissive/switch, and that the switch group is the most balanced in terms of gender.

It says it on some other parts of this board, but "switch" doesn't always mean"I switch roles with one person." In some cases, an individual submits to one person, and tops others. For example, slaves that themselves have beta slaves. I think it's all in how you look at it.

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RE: how can someone be a swiych i dont understand - 11/19/2004 3:36:43 PM

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You haven't offended anyone.

Here's a quick example of why some people, like me, preferring being switches:

I want to be tied up, spanked, beaten, raped, and after its all over, you better make me a goddamn sammich, 'cuz I'm hungry, and being a slut takes a lot of work!

See? All the fascinating decandence of BDSM with a free meal at the end (because you slide on the Big Man Boots and kick her ass into the kitchen afterwards).

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RE: how can someone be a swiych i dont understand - 11/19/2004 3:45:48 PM

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ORIGINAL: karmaslave

I want to be tied up, spanked, beaten, raped, and after its all over, you better make me a goddamn sammich, 'cuz I'm hungry, and being a slut takes a lot of work!

Hehehhehehehehehe.

Hella.

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RE: how can someone be a swiych i dont understand - 11/20/2004 10:34:19 AM

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Hey moderators, any chance we can do something about this guy/girl?

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RE: how can someone be a swiych i dont understand - 11/20/2004 5:19:08 PM

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quote:

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how can someone be a switch i dont understand please explain.

usually a switch is someone just starting out in the lifestye that has not as of yet decided which way they want to go in the lifestyle. However there are some (Me for one) that have remained switches our whole lives. I have been in the BDSM lifestyle for over 30 years and to this day still love both being a Dominant (my norm) and at times bottoming to Dommes, but not just any Domme. The energy connection must be there. The experience as well. To be a switch you must be able to completely change your mindset. Stay in that changed mindset throughout a scene, and able to deal with which ever kind of drop you may or may not get afterwards. Some can, some can`t. Many fool themselves. Some destroy the whole concept by trying to take control or Top from the bottom. Which in my opinion defeats the whole purpose.

Hope this helps some
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RE: how can someone be a swiych i dont understand - 11/20/2004 8:33:55 PM

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the moderator isnt going to help you

It appears the mods already have helped, as mimd's profile and previous posts are gone.

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RE: how can someone be a swiych i dont understand - 11/23/2004 9:46:05 PM

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To quote (or more likely horribly misquote) the infamous bath scene from Spartacus:

"Tell me, do you eat oysters?"
"Yes master, when I was a boy I was quite fond of them"
"And what about snails? Do you like those, too?"
"No master, I do not care for snails."
"I see. Now, tell me: Do you think it moral to eat oysters, and immoral to eat snails?"
"No master."
"Of course not. It is simply a matter of preference, nothing more. It is a man's appetites which render him moral or immoral, don't you think so?"
"Yes, master"
"Yes, of course. It only stands to reason, dosen't it? The reason I'm bringing this up with you is because I like both oysters, and snails..."

Some of us just like a smorgasbord. What can I say?

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RE: how can someone be a swiych i dont understand - 11/24/2004 1:39:07 PM

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This is just another example of the Baskin Robbins theory, with all the flavors, there has to be one for everyone.

Except, I don't like ice cream!

< Message edited by INSIDEYOURMIND -- 11/24/2004 1:47:22 PM >

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RE: how can someone be a swiych i dont understand - 11/25/2004 1:07:34 PM

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allow me to pipe in for a minute, I have been doing this for a bit of time now, and had a couple partners. I have found that my personality just happens to be incredibly flexible. I automatically switch when I meet people. For some reason, depending on my relationship with people, how I readthem, or even my personal whim of the day I can just switch. Does that make sense?

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RE: how can someone be a swiych i dont understand - 11/27/2004 11:06:08 AM

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Actually, I wonder how anyone can NOT be a Switch. Anything less seems so monotone to me.

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RE: how can someone be a swiych i dont understand - 11/29/2004 10:37:22 AM

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