RavenMuse
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There are two things that have sparked this post: The first, given I am still keeping my eyes open for a second girl at some point, I'm still occassionaly glancing through the profiles on the other side. Maybe identify/self-lable as brats who are looking to be 'taken in hand' or even more blatently seek a Master who "Will force them to submit" Such profiles 'red flag' for me. I won't say they are 'wrong' because it is two adults in a consentual situation, but it isn't D/s from MY perspective. If a girl submits to me she WANTS to give herself to me, she WANTS me to take the control, she WANTS to submit.... where then does the need to force that enter the equasion unless it is some childish game. If it takes the spector of a 'cane of damoclse' hanging over their head to get them to obay then it is coersion, not submission. When a girl submits she obays willingly, she is driven by her wish to make her Master happy, not through fear of punishment. The second thing sparking this post happened just a few days ago, a post where many where advising a seemingly inexperienced Dom to spank his girl into submission. Before that I was simply thinking it to be something newbies where mistaking and/or playing with, yet several of those giving the advice where apparently very experienced. How is that attitude any diffrent? Isn't it playing the same 'game'? Where is the submission? Where is the want to serve, the want to please her Master? The way to a girls submission and thus obedience is through her heart and mind, not through her arse and a cane! (Though there are several fun things you can do with that too ) Canes, floggers, paddles, spankings... they are fun, but surely to solve a problem you need communication and understanding! Well there is one opinion, mine and I'm sure there will be several more to come on this thread some will in part agree, others vehemently disagree.... discussions tend to be boring otherwise.
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This above all: to thine own self be true, And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man. Owner of metalmiss
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