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Chesterfield91 -> Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? (11/28/2013 12:25:10 PM)

My submissive girlfriend has told me that she's curious about pegging me. I was just wondering whether there are any other Dominant men in here who enjoy this, and if so, how does it work for you?



smartsub10 -> RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? (11/28/2013 12:33:11 PM)

I don't know if there are other dominant men here on the forums who enjoy being pegged. Personally, I am friends with a Dom who loves having his sub peg him. He figures he's in charge of the scene so he's still the dominant one. I tend to agree.



LafayetteLady -> RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? (11/28/2013 12:51:39 PM)

I agree with smartsub10.

As for how it works, I imagine it works the same for everyone.



Kana -> RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? (11/28/2013 8:38:44 PM)

Not this cat. Not one whit.

I have zero opinion on what others think/do,but for me-yeah, it would be very undominant.



shiftyw -> RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? (11/29/2013 7:25:35 AM)

I dont care what others do, and i think more power to you. My opinion is as a bottom...I would hate to do it, and it would be hard for me to do because it would turn me off and I would view him as undomly. But that's exactly why he would make me do it, and why he would remain in charge of things.



DianeB269 -> RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? (11/29/2013 7:38:30 AM)

OP,
Just let her go for it...It will not make you any less dominant...



MsMJAY -> RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? (11/29/2013 7:41:31 AM)

Its sex. I can't speak for the dominant men but I fail to see how enjoying sex can make you less dominant.



AgentX99 -> RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? (11/29/2013 7:59:32 AM)

Remember please, ladies, that for us men, we can get TREMENDOUS extra pleasure from that little extra prostate stimulation.

When a sub has been instructed to "get me off," she can and should, do anything and everything, within my limits to do so, and being "pegged" or having her use a vibe or plug on me, is certainly within those limits.

Hell - After what I've done to her butt, her taking a well-lube plug to me, is like the difference between a 6-hour paddle/cane/tail session, and a gentle cheek-squeeze while walking through the mall . .

But I guess that if you're playing the "Twue Dom" or "twue sub" thing, then it'll destroy your entire relationship, cause you both to flip roles, both to develop "backne," which will then cause the zombie apocalypse and end times . .



DesFIP -> RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? (11/29/2013 8:54:14 AM)

He's not interested thankfully.

And I'm grateful because I don't feel comfortable doing it, and it would be extremely difficult for me emotionally. As I didn't sign up for emotional masochism, instead it's a hard limit, this isn't something I am willing to explore unless he spent the necessary time and energy to make me feel comfortable with it.



ResidentSadist -> RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? (11/29/2013 9:31:21 AM)

They may like to dominate but they are not a Dominant, they are a switch. This goes along the lines of those silly posts about "Dominants" commanding their subordinates to top them. You are either pitchin', catchin' or switchin'. If you like pitchin' and you like catchin' by getting anally dominated, that means you are switchin'. Simple as that. The fact they don't want to admit they are a switch is their problem.




kalikshama -> RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? (11/29/2013 9:48:42 AM)

quote:

My submissive girlfriend has told me that she's curious about pegging me. I was just wondering whether there are any other Dominant men in here who enjoy this, and if so, how does it work for you?


If you are interested in trying, then go for it.

I would be willing to engage in other type of anal play with my man but pegging would require me to take what would feel to me too dominate a role. I signed up to catch, not pitch ;)



MercTech -> RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? (11/29/2013 12:18:42 PM)

If you want the prostate stimulation, give it a try.

As to whether it is dominant or not, depends on so many more level than just the physical act.



Focus50 -> RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? (11/29/2013 12:19:39 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Kana

Not this cat. Not one whit.

I have zero opinion on what others think/do,but for me-yeah, it would be very undominant.


Same here - 'cept my take on the circuitous "undominant" is that it's submissive, and I ain't into doing that.

And (to the OP) I've never met a submissive who'd be curious about taking such a lead in the first place. Sounds like you both be switches and (as ResidentSadist says) you're not so comfortable with such realities.

The (rhetorical) question for you, OP, is how do *you* feel about getting "pegged"? Cos it's not like your first reaction here to your g/f's curiosity is "NO WAY, Jose!"

I think the way to go with your g/f is less emphasis on individual labels and more open communication about what you really wanna do together. Simples...!

Focus.



petitespot -> RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? (11/29/2013 12:28:46 PM)

The thought of fucking a guy, any guy, up the ass with a strap on is such a turnoff. I would walk out on hearing the request and never go back.
A rim job....no problem.
Anything remotely resembling a cock in size or shape...no thank you.



Kana -> RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? (11/29/2013 2:46:51 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: petitespot

The thought of fucking a guy, any guy, up the ass with a strap on is such a turnoff. I would walk out on hearing the request and never go back.
A rim job....no problem.
Anything remotely resembling a cock in size or shape...no thank you.

That's exactly how the Mouse would feel.
It would fuck our relationship up big time.
As in, I'd no longer be the man she submitted to, therefore any deals we've made,bargains struck or oaths sworn are made null and void by my actions.
In short-she'd be free and I'll bet my bottom dollar she'd jet.
She's been with guys who rolled that way prior and hated, as in HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAATED it.

Which holds true for almost every sub/slave gal I've known.
They don't like taking charge. They don't like/want/feel comfortable being in control. And they certainly don't want a guy who goes ass up because,rightly or not, such acts hit something within them that they tag with submissive.
It goes against who and what they are. Guise it all ya like,cloak it in shes serving yadda yadda, that's how most gals I've met feel.

I can darn tooting tell ya 100% fer sure that mouse does. She would view it as a submissive act, that I damn well know.



evesgrden -> RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? (11/29/2013 3:09:14 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Kana


quote:

ORIGINAL: petitespot

The thought of fucking a guy, any guy, up the ass with a strap on is such a turnoff. I would walk out on hearing the request and never go back.
A rim job....no problem.
Anything remotely resembling a cock in size or shape...no thank you.

That's exactly how the Mouse would feel.
It would fuck our relationship up big time.
As in, I'd no longer be the man she submitted to, therefore any deals we've made,bargains struck or oaths sworn are made null and void by my actions.
In short-she'd be free and I'll bet my bottom dollar she'd jet.
She's been with guys who rolled that way prior and hated, as in HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAATED it.

Which holds true for almost every sub/slave gal I've known.
They don't like taking charge. They don't like/want/feel comfortable being in control. And they certainly don't want a guy who goes ass up because,rightly or not, such acts hit something within them that they tag with submissive.
It goes against who and what they are. Guise it all ya like,cloak it in shes serving yadda yadda, that's how most gals I've met feel.

I can darn tooting tell ya 100% fer sure that mouse does. She would view it as a submissive act, that I damn well know.




This is really interesting, because the first time I had a guy ass up I knew I found where I belonged, and the interesting part of it was it happened in the context of him topping me. I could present that argument that I was complying or even serving, but the reality is that a light went on for me. Make that a bolt of lightening.

Isn't THIS good fun.. oh MY!!!

Yes indeedy, one could have interesting debate about it all depends on who's in charge but I became a Queen in that moment. Not out of merit, but because of raw power that was simply mine. Not even mine for the taking.. it was just mine. Fait accompli

That day was a delightful head bender for me. A game changer.



petitespot -> RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? (11/29/2013 3:09:42 PM)

Yeah. My brain equates it as submissive too.
And also as bisexual.
Both are deal breakers for me.



Miyani -> RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? (11/29/2013 3:12:34 PM)

I hate to be the dissenting voice (not really), but here's my take:
There's really no such thing as a submissive position. Just a submissive mindset. If you command your girl to use a toy on you in a way that pleases you, even if it's phallic looking, and even if it goes in your ass, how does that make you the submissive? It may make you the bottom, in the strict sense that you're the receiving party, but there is such a thing as a service sub, isn't there?

If you want to watch your girl ride your cock cowgirl style, and tell her to make you come, are you the submissive because she's on top of you? Fuck no. if you want to screw her silly, and pound her until she screams, are you dominant because you're on top of her? Fuck no. You're dominant, and she's submissive, because you're both of a mind that you are the one in control, and she is acting on your wishes.

Have fun, man. The prostate is a beautiful thing. And you know how sensitive a piece of flesh can be when it's rarely touched? Right. Go for it.



Kana -> RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? (11/29/2013 3:46:08 PM)

Hey-I'm not saying how I feel.I'm saying how I know the mouse feels and how I think most sub/slave women I've interacted with do.
(Notes that Evesgrdn lists as Domme too-sounds more like you discovered who and what you really were-grins)

Personally I don't care what others think and do.

I can say with 100% clarity for me it would be, but that perception is also shaped by life events. As in I served time in prison and watched what happened to men who took it up the ass-willingly or not.
Bitches was about the kindest word applied to them, lets put it like that.
So I'm a bit biased when it comes to my own asshole,TYVFM.But I recognize that bias, understand it's shaped by unusual circumstances and don't impose my personal feelings re the act onto others.
But I can say what I've observed over many years in the scene and dealing with women who have submissive mindsets. While it obviously is a small sample size and I'm in no way attempting to apply the micro to the macro, I am sharing my personal experience.
That's all.
You can disagree all ya want-that's cool.But it doesn't change my experience :-)



TieMeInKnottss -> RE: Dominant men recieving strap-on sex? (11/29/2013 3:55:14 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: petitespot

Yeah. My brain equates it as submissive too.
And also as bisexual.
Both are deal breakers for me.

FINALLY!!!! Someone who gets me!!!

Yeah "command" me to do that to you and I would lose all interest in you..



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