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ORIGINAL: orgasmdenial12
It's really very simple. A large number of people come here and answer questions because it gives them a stiffy to insult people, be judgemental and put other people down. they are not looking to be helpful - they are looking for an excuse to have an argument. This is why they answer questions that are in no way related to them, just because it gives them a chance to call someone names or make them feel stupid for daring to post or ask a question. They see questions that they are not interested in as fair provocation and just wade right in.
Then, their offensive posts are not removed by moderators, which compounds the bullying. The poster feels like they have walked into a snake pit, which they have. The only way to deal with people who routinely attack others is to delete their posts - take away their soapbox until they can learn that they are not going to be given an audience for their bile.
I totally respect the woman who stuck up for the OP on the other thread - that's the kind of person we need more of. Everyone else can jump down her throat all they like - but she was right, and she was brave for saying something. It takes courage to stand up to a clique this entrenched and self-righteous.
Many regulars on this site seem to feel that it's their duty to police the forum and answer every single question, especially if the answer is in the negative. They seem to forget that they are not obliged to answer any questions at all - if they don't like a question, they can simply walk away. It's crazy but it just might work.
Take the topic on the other thread - the OP wanted to know about eating women's ass. Unless you're a) a woman who wants her ass eating or b) an expert on the subject who can help and advise - then why answer?! Just move along to a question where you can make a positive contribution. Answering by saying 'you need to adjust your attitude' is just an excuse to start an argument. If the OP's approach is really that bad then no-one will answer his question and he'll get the idea that he needs to change his approach.
I've heard a lot of posters say you wouldn't walk into a bar and start talking about your dick; true, but then you wouldn't walk into a bar and see a woman being held by the hair while she eats out a man's ass, or a woman squirting enema water into the face of another woman - yet I see both these things on the adverts every time I log into collarme. You also wouldn't walk into a bar and see people dressed the way they are portrayed in their pictures here because this ISN'T a bar, it's a sex website, it's a kinky sex website, so why should someone be shot down for asking a sex question?! If the admin don't want it to come across that way, then maybe remove the gratuitous porn adverts from the main website and then we'd be justified in reacting to sex questions. It's hypocritical to spam us all with sex and then react with horror when someone asks a sex question. Sex is normal, get over it.
Of all the forums I have been on, collarme is by far and away the nastiest, most judgemental, most cliquey and most full of self-righteous poseurs espousing their one true way. Threads where no-one puts the boot in are few and far between. Want to do something about it? Delete more posts. Simple as.
Yeah, well, you know, that's just, like, your opinion, man.
(Seriously though-if you dislike the place so much, why loiter? I don't hang out in spots where I'm uncomfortable. Might pass through once in a while, but I don't vacation there, much less buy a house on the block. And no, I'm not trolling. It's an honest question)
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RE: What can we do to retain new posters? - 
), surviving is going to get tougher and like I said up top^nobody wants to do anything for nothing. CM is not a charity, its a business.
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