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What is it about vaginal or anal penetration that peopl... - 1/13/2014 5:55:25 PM

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This is an odd but serious question, I guess, mainly because I've never experienced what I'm asking (nor will I).

What is it, literally, about penetration, that women (or men so inclined) enjoy?

I realize this may possibly be considered either a naive question, or a stupid one, because, I guess, the answer should be obvious to all. But, it's actually not obvious to me. Perhaps it's my Catholic upbringing? Or, my cultural bias (e.g., ever since I was a child, penetration was something to be abhored, as witnessed by, for example, drop-the-bar-of-soap locker-room jokes).

Whether it's a cultural bias, or a gender bias, or a brain-wiring bias, I personally have no desire to be penetrated, ever.

However, I still can wonder, what exactly a woman or man gets (erotically) out of the sensation of penetration, particularly in the anus (where, it can be presumed, there is no clitorus or glans to be stimulated).

Hence, may I ask:
Q: What is it about vaginal or anal penetration that people enjoy?

Note: I already realize clitoral stimulation must be a key factor, so if that's the whole answer, then I accept that fully - but there may be other sensations involved since clitoral stimulation doesn't require penetration as far as I understand the process.

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RE: What is it about vaginal or anal penetration that p... - 1/13/2014 5:58:00 PM

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For women, those who enjoy vaginal penetration, is because they get orgasms.
For women, those who enjoy anal penetration, is because they get orgasms.
For Men, the only way for them to experience female-like multiple orgasms, is through anal penetration.

Simple.

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RE: What is it about vaginal or anal penetration that p... - 1/13/2014 5:58:16 PM

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eerrr, that I'm a woman and that's how I get orgasms among other ways? Why do men like their dicks to be sucked and to penetrate a woman's vagina? It's biology 101

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RE: What is it about vaginal or anal penetration that p... - 1/13/2014 6:08:26 PM

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Why do men like their dicks to be sucked and to penetrate a woman's vagina?

Wanting a dick to be sucked is very different than having sex with a woman. It's like the difference between masturbation and sex. It's huge, the difference, mainly, I believe, (at least to me), as to the location of the sperm.

I can only speak for myself, but I have an innate desire to put sperm inside of a woman, in any way that I can. Inside her mouth (best to be swallowed so that it's inside her body). Inside her vagina. Inside her anus. Heck, it's not my fetish but I'd put it inside her ears if there was a way.

Point is, that biologically, there is something erotic about my sperm inside of a woman. Mind you, it's disgusting to see someone else's sperm inside of a woman, but mine is beautiful.

On the other hand, MY sperm, slobbered, dripping, lathered all over a woman is just OK, but, INSIDE is erotically golden. An orgasm is ten thousand times better with sperm inside of a woman than not (e.g., with a condom or by pulling out). It's not even in the same ballpark.

So, that part of biology 101 I do understand. So, if you had said that you enjoy someone's sperm inside of YOU, that's something I'd fully understand as the logical answer.

But, just saying it's Biology 101 doesn't really convey anything additional, at least not to me. But that's why I asked. Maybe it is as simple as orgasm. Nothing more than that. I had thought it might have been deeper than that though...

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RE: What is it about vaginal or anal penetration that p... - 1/13/2014 6:16:48 PM

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Because it feels so damn good

Hey...I am a simple person...

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RE: What is it about vaginal or anal penetration that p... - 1/13/2014 6:20:53 PM

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there's these things called nerve bundles and glands and when they are stimulated in just the correct manner, the woman has an orgasm.

Maybe this will help you to understand. Take a read.

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RE: What is it about vaginal or anal penetration that p... - 1/13/2014 6:22:49 PM

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Maybe it is as simple as orgasm. Nothing more than that. I had thought it might have been deeper than that though...
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Yup. For me, it's really just that simple.

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RE: What is it about vaginal or anal penetration that p... - 1/13/2014 6:33:09 PM

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Yup. For me, it's really just that simple.

So, two questions, to flesh that answer out a bit:

1. Does an orgasm without penetration feel as satisfying?
2. How does one orgasm from anal sex (doesn't it actually hurt?)

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RE: What is it about vaginal or anal penetration that p... - 1/13/2014 6:55:17 PM

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They are the same amount of satisfying for me. Both methods are for sure best when used in combination.

I don't come from anal alone, but add it to the combination mentioned above- and I'm a happy girl. I'm a masochist? so the pain is beneficial to the orgasm.

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RE: What is it about vaginal or anal penetration that p... - 1/13/2014 6:58:55 PM

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1. Does an orgasm without penetration feel as satisfying?
2. How does one orgasm from anal sex (doesn't it actually hurt?)

1. It's kind of like pumpkin pie. The pie is very satisfying but it's better with cool whip on top. Penetration is fun but not really the topping.
2. It does hurt and I have never orgasmed from it. Don't like it.

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RE: What is it about vaginal or anal penetration that p... - 1/13/2014 7:05:44 PM

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The only way I orgasm from anal is if my clit is being stimulated at the same time or he's hitting my gspot. Otherwise it's just painful and I'm not a masochist.

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RE: What is it about vaginal or anal penetration that p... - 1/13/2014 7:16:18 PM

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Not the one you are addressing but

1- No an orgasm without penetration (for me) is kind of like low fat chocolate...supposedly it is a viable substitute but all the fake stuff does is make you crave the REAL stuff even more.

2..Don't know why...but I do

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RE: What is it about vaginal or anal penetration that p... - 1/13/2014 7:52:50 PM

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Being filled and having all those nerve endings stimulated is far superior to just having the little ball of nerve endings stimulated. His cock, his fingers, toys - it's all good. The orgasm is stronger when penetrated.

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RE: What is it about vaginal or anal penetration that p... - 1/13/2014 8:26:57 PM

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From a guy's perspective:

What is it that I enjoy?
I don't know. There are a tonne of nerves there. How it feels varies. When it hits the prostate, it can be the most insanely great feeling. Also the feeling of sensations in part of your body you cannot feel without that type of penetration. Like a massage but in the oddest part of you. There's also the pain aspect for me. Yeah, for me there's always pain, especially if it's rough, or if I'm not willing. I'm never willing. I get torn to shreds and that pain is intense and feels so fucking wrong and yet you're at the complete mercy of someone else. And that brings me to the final part. As a gay guy there's a huge psychological element to it. You've lost control to someone who's demonstrating their strength violating you and getting something they shouldn't. They feel like the strongest guy in the world and you're hating it but you also can't help but be overwhelmed with how fuckin strong they are.

The best way I can describe it as a guy is what I've said before... "It feels so fuckin wrong and so fucking right and so fucking overwhelming you've never felt anything like it before."

Does an orgasm feel as satisfying without it?
It's different. Some times I prefer with it, some times I prefer it without it. I will never actively ask for it tho. In my mind men don't give that up. Another guy has to take it.

How does one orgasm from it?
For me, sometimes hits the prostate and I let fly without control. The rest of the time there is a pleasure-pain mix. You get off on the pleasure element, or both if your a masocist like me, jerking off.

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RE: What is it about vaginal or anal penetration that p... - 1/13/2014 9:49:53 PM

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ORIGINAL: Pyramus
Hence, may I ask:
Q: What is it about vaginal or anal penetration that people enjoy?
Note: I already realize clitoral stimulation must be a key factor, so if that's the whole answer, then I accept that fully - but there may be other sensations involved since clitoral stimulation doesn't require penetration as far as I understand the process.

For me, when I know I am about to be penetrated there is a swift intake of breath somewhat akin to what I feel if I am on a roller coaster that is just beginning its path.
It is like the air is being sucked from my body and then replaced. If you can imagine being on that coaster and for each in and out it has that same excitement then you might understand what penetration is like.
Now add in a slickness. I think that might be similar to what your cock feels like when it is surrounded by a hand covered in lotion.

I enjoy clitoral stimulation but without the penetration I cannot orgasm. It lacks the "rush" required for me to reach a climax. As for anal sex, it hurts like hell. But I am a bit wired for pain so it is somewhat ok. And it does have that "rush" associated with penetration. Sometimes a rush of adrenalin is enough to bring on an orgasm

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RE: What is it about vaginal or anal penetration that p... - 1/13/2014 11:17:58 PM

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It's nothing to do with clitoral stimulation, for me. In fact, I prefer my clit not to be touched at all.

Penetration, for me, has always seemed like and felt like an act of dominance over me, and I like being dominated. I know it's not very feminist (and I like feminism) but even when I did it as vanilla, it still felt like an act of submission for me. There is something freakishly wonderful about one person having a hole that another person is meant to fit parts of their body into, it's very intimate.

As for the physical part, it gives me that whole-pelvis feeling of tingly pleasure, like when you see someone you really fancy, and they come on to you and you get that blast of arousal throughout your pelvis and lower belly. Sex is like that feeling, but constant, and escalating.

Finally, there is the cock part. I find that the skin and flesh of cock is like nothing else on the planet - not like fingers or a toy, it directly transmits its own sense of pleasure to anything touching it, so that, as I am being pleasured, I can literally feel the pleasure of its owner and that's amazing. To have one in the most sensitive parts of me is literally the greatest pleasure on earth, for me. Then orgasm - once again, I know it's not very feminist, but I can only see being ejaculated into as an act of dominance over me and because I like being dominated, I like the feeling of it, and I like stickiness afterwards.

Anal is very similar to all of this, but there is an added dimension of pain and fear that feeds into the feeling of being dominated and of having to submit to something.

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RE: What is it about vaginal or anal penetration that p... - 1/13/2014 11:20:42 PM

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For women, those who enjoy vaginal penetration, is because they get orgasms.
For women, those who enjoy anal penetration, is because they get orgasms.
For Men, the only way for them to experience female-like multiple orgasms, is through anal penetration.

Simple.

No, it isn't really about orgasms for me. It's about pleasure, for sure, since it is a unique sensation, but it's mostly about being dominated, about the intimacy of having part of a man inside me, about feeling and witnessing his pleasure. When I do orgasm denial, I enjoy the sex just as much as when I'm allowed to orgasm, although in a different way. If it were just about orgasms, I'd buy a vibrator lol.

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RE: What is it about vaginal or anal penetration that p... - 1/13/2014 11:24:46 PM

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ORIGINAL: Blonderfluff
Yup. For me, it's really just that simple.

So, two questions, to flesh that answer out a bit:

1. Does an orgasm without penetration feel as satisfying?
2. How does one orgasm from anal sex (doesn't it actually hurt?)

1. Yes, but I only have an orgasm through oral, explosively, I might add, then if I am being penetrated, I have multiples.
2. Not an orgasm per se, but hot as hell.

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RE: What is it about vaginal or anal penetration that p... - 1/13/2014 11:44:26 PM

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Not taking anything away from vaginal penetration because that alone is orgasmic but for me I happen to REALLY enjoy anal penetration and if my mate wants to boggle my mind and overload my senses, he throws a DP in the mix of things.

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RE: What is it about vaginal or anal penetration that p... - 1/14/2014 12:00:31 AM

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Because it feels so damn good

It's actually not about the orgasms for me. Ultimately, yes, but enjoying the journey getting there is what matters more; and orgasms do feel better, richer, and more fulfilling with my partner, especially when we climax together. (He has to wait a while before he gets to let loose, though, on average my 3 to his 1.) I wouldn't feel this way if reaching orgasm was hard to attain, as it is for some women, in terms of my primary sexual focus. It used to take longer for me when I was much younger and was limited to clitoral stimulation. It wasn't until I was in my early 30s before I began experiencing vaginal orgasms. I won't go into the technical details, but it's awesome when experiencing both simultaneously or when both kinds overlap.

1. Vaginal - I don't look at this as a male-dominant act. I'm wired to want a male-begging dynamic, so it actually makes me feel powerful having a pussy that is in demand by that special man in my life.
2. Anal - Difficult getting used to in the beginning. Take a few deep breaths and relax, with clitoral stimulation. Later you won't require that until you're ready to come, and pressed downward on the G-spot, clitoral isn't even necessary for what a friend of mine calls "assgasms."
3. Anal for Men - As pg4g notes, men have a prostate gland. Logically, males should be more anal-erotic than females are from that standpoint.

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