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MarcEsadrian -> RE: what traits do you think are annoying in submissives? (2/5/2014 10:16:39 AM)
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curious newby here. I was wondering; are there specific things (like behaviours, personality traits, etc.) that most dominants find unattractive or irritating about submissives?
Not being submissive to any consistent degree is a big one. That sounds painfully obvious, but it's amazing how many you encounter in the BDSM circle who are anything but, when you get past the wrapping paper and down to the core traits and inclinations. Some can be molded and shaped, and will gladly kneel if so inspired. Some need the looping psychodrama of being tackled and worn down in an unending arena of mental air hockey. Others eventually refuse to take it much further past the sexual top notes. I prefer the first camp and generally disdain the others, which limits the pickings to just a few here and there, but the search is worth it, for me.
The second most most vexing trait would probably be jealousy. Its presence is natural in human beings, granted, but too much of it plainly worn on the sleeve, despite clear communication about how I feel about it and the brutally stupid drama it tends to stir up, is a problem for me. I once served a woman who had multiple slaves and found myself only wanting for her happiness, beyond my own inclusion. Having been in that position, I know a jealous-free state is possible to achieve, perhaps not in all people, but surely, the state I managed to embody is not some supernatural gift I inherited. Those who make too much of a fuss over others in the picture, who conspire to back-stab and nurse resentments over access, time, or regard I give to other females are eventually released in my world.
My appreciation for curvacious beauty set well aside, probably next on the list would be outright obesity. It's a problem in BDSM, or so it seems, at times. Maybe the sample rate of women (and men) I've encountered in these circles proportionally reflects the problems of obesity in society, overall, and so that is why it seems like a problem. All I know is I'm tired of being approached by women who are several sizes too big. I've taken the route of fixing them before, indeed. I brought a young lady down from 300+ pounds to the 130s in roughly a year. My current live-in slave had a weight problem, too, which she now no longer has. But all and all, I think I'm done with being a weight loss coach. And so the pickings reduce even more.
But the above are the top three, for me, at least. Most other things I have the tolerance these days to deal with.
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