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ORIGINAL: totallyrandom

Hello,

To anyone with an answer. Are most doms ok with taking on someone who the kinkiest thing they've ever done was get handcuffed to the bed like once and is there some rule as to who makes first contact the dom or sub or is it like any other relationship and it doesnt matter who makes the first move?

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I think most don't care about experience level, but it depends on the specific dom, doesn't it.

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ORIGINAL: totallyrandom
To anyone with an answer. Are most doms ok with taking on someone who the kinkiest thing they've ever done was get handcuffed to the bed like once and is there some rule as to who makes first contact the dom or sub or is it like any other relationship and it doesnt matter who makes the first move?

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ORIGINAL: Kana

Yep.In BDSM, as in Real Life, it is far often easier to train someone from scratch than to untrain and then retrain.
At least with a true newbie, tabula rosa style,one never hears, "But that's the way my old dom liked it."

Blank slates are wonderful things...as long as the willingness to learn andthe humility to accept teachings come with it

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I think most don't care about experience level, but it depends on the specific dom, doesn't it.To this cat, experience matters a whole heckuva lot less than characteristics such as willingness and obedience.I can teach everything I need her to learn,but without those two base ingredients,things ain't gonna go anywhere

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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven

There are lots of reasons I would take on a sub. Experience level really isn't a major factor. That said, I've seen some insecure Doms wanting a newbie only, because they don't want a sub to have any basis for comparing them to others.

Generally, the man makes first contact whether Dom or sub. But there's no rule for that, and as a male Dom, I'm flattered when a woman makes the first move.

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ORIGINAL: ChatteParfaitt

As in real life, males tend to contact females, regardless of orientation. However, if you find a profile you like, I say go for it.

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A sub can act as though he understands and agrees, but if he doesn't follow through with the consistency of his actions, then acquiescence is meaningless.

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are you the type of man who takes compliments well? Informally, I've noticed that men who don't react negatively to expressions of positive attention (from the desired gender) are not threatened by a woman making the first introductory move or showing interest (beyond innocent flirtation).

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ORIGINAL: totallyrandom

Hello,

To anyone with an answer. Are most doms ok with taking on someone who the kinkiest thing they've ever done was get handcuffed to the bed like once

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ORIGINAL: totallyrandomis there some rule as to who makes first contact the dom or sub or is it like any other relationship and it doesnt matter who makes the first move?

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ORIGINAL: MzMinx

Hey there, Welcome to collarme and welcome to your own explorations

Asking questions is a great way to start

its like any other relationship ... and if someone gets their knickers in a knot because you contacted them or tells you there are rules you have to follow before you have agreed to be teir submissive... then they have self selected as probably being wankers and you do not need them in your life


Rules, expectations and protocols row from your relationship with someone ... not from the title they select from themselves

I am not sure where you live , but most parts of the world have real life bdsm gatherings. And some areas have groups that are specifically for under 35's and lots of gatherings can just be discussion groups. They can be great ways to learn and meet others who you might find interesting



*edited for spelling*

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ORIGINAL: totallyrandom

Hello,

To anyone with an answer. Are most doms ok with taking on someone who the kinkiest thing they've ever done was get handcuffed to the bed like once and is there some rule as to who makes first contact the dom or sub or is it like any other relationship and it doesnt matter who makes the first move?