GoddessManko
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Joined: 3/6/2013 From: Dante's Inferno Status: offline
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I really don't see the problem here, or maybe it's just me. I have had submissive partners who have been chaste in the entire duration of our relationship be it for several months to a year or more. Maybe she's more Dominant than switch, maybe it has little to nothing about her being burned but about her TESTING your limits, and to what end? Who knows. But the tease and denial, ongoing chastity etc etc are all VERY Dommy Mommy traits. Now you have to decide if that's good enough for you. And if you love her then yes it is. But if you don't then moveon.org It sounds like she does care for you deeply and there is some level of attraction/ affection there and she especially enjoys keeping you under her thumb. It's essentially a total D/s relationship with her being the dominant partner. If you love her and think it's worth going the limits, embrace your new role as a sub, but you both should recognize things as they are right now. NOT EVERY DOMME LAYS WITH HER SUB, I NEVER HAVE (Not that I wouldn't, it just never happened because well, I satiated in other ways). I am very faithful and monogamous but I see vanilla acts as inherently submissive and it is hard for me to imagine myself laying with any man very easily despite aesthetic appeal, attraction etc. She clearly DOES care on some level or you would not have shared a bed (traditionally they sleep at my feet and I LOVE that), nor would she have gotten nude before your eyes unless traditionally an exhibitionist (which I doubt). With that given information, you need to decide if being submissive to a woman you love and is a Domme rather than switch is good enough for you. Good luck with it! :) quote:
ORIGINAL: Dwn2EarthDom As back ground information... I have known this switch when she was first a sub, then moved into switch. I have known her for 2 yrs or more. In the past 6 months things have gotten a little more serious between us. I have now spent the night in her house, met her son, met her mother, and we have grilled out, eaten together as a "family", went shopping, I have even slept in the same bed as her. Funny thing is we have never even kissed on the lips nor even had sex. She is making me take it slow. Wisely slow I think. She has been burnt bad in the past. To the point of moving herself and her son to another state and then having the Dom bail on her and he. This woman and myself are very successful in our careers and life in general. Both well educated. So the sticking point is she does not love me. She is very skiddish because of past experiences. All I can, in my way of thinking, is to just be resolute in my approach to her and my emotions, because if she never falls in love with me as I have her, I will still be in love with her. Her emotions does not change mine. I have OPENLY told her that I am in love with her... and while she smiles, will touch me, she will not kiss me. She will hug me, I have even seen her completely nude, I mean the ONLY thing I have not done is to kiss this woman... which drives me insane btw. So the question is... HOW long is long enough to be wise, but not stupid about the waiting AND is my steadfastness the right thing as a " Dom" to do or am I just being stubborn not wanting to give up on someone I am in love with? D2ED
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