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ORIGINAL: Moderator3

I can be an ass. I guess it depends on the view.

In any other section outside Feisty, I could have done something. I just couldn't there.

I knew who you meant.

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ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

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ORIGINAL: GotSteel

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I knew I was kinky before the internet, didn't know there were other people like me or that my sexual differences were harmless and completely achievable. Even after the internet it took me a good deal longer than it should have because I didn't even know I should be looking, that it was an achievable thing. So when people muster up the courage to come out of the closet here only to be told that their completely achievable kink is unachievable, dangerous and nobody wants that it saddens me because who knows how long it will take for those people to muster up the courage to look again.

Why the hell do you care about what strangers have to muster up?

How does this even affect you?

Unless one of your kinks is to be the guy on the white horse who saves misguided kinksters from being hazed when they profess their all too often delusional fantasies.

THEN I could see how you could spend such an inordinate amount of time and energy trying to "fix" the forums.

Otherwise stop telling me and everyone else how to act.

OUCH!!! Red, what was the safeword again?

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ORIGINAL: GotSteel

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1
Otherwise stop telling me and everyone else how to act.

Considering the nature of this statement, do you find anything hypocritical about your telling me how to act?

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ORIGINAL: dcnovice

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GS, where is it written that I must be courteous to someone I find repugnant?

Miss Manners, Emily Post, Amy Vanderbilt, and countless other guides to civilized life.

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ORIGINAL: GotSteel

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ORIGINAL: RockaRolla
Yet your position is basically that I have to be nice to the newer people because they don't know how to communicate. (nevermind that the guy wasn't even new.) Last I checked, this was a kink-oriented forum for adults, not a daycare to coddle children with no social skills.

I think there are a some gradations between coddling and your tone, don't you?

Now I don't think he's requiring his subs to do anything at the moment, things fortunately sound well within the realm of fantasy. But it sure would have been nice if early on someone could have had a productive conversation about how fantasy and reality differ in important ways. Now after the snark and sniping I doubt he's going to listen to any of us and if he doesn't figure things out on his own before he stumbles upon a woman willing to meet him...somebody could really get hurt.

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ORIGINAL: dcnovice

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GS, where is it written that I must be courteous to someone I find repugnant?

Miss Manners, Emily Post, Amy Vanderbilt, and countless other guides to civilized life.

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

Yes, I suppose you might think that.

However, I never tell everybody how to behave on a message board over and over again expecting different results.

I may have been hypocritical, but I am not delusional.

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ORIGINAL: GotSteel

Wow, that's the most passive aggressive way anyone's found to call me delusional. Care to share what's so wrong with me raising awareness to promote tolerance?

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ORIGINAL: GotSteel

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ORIGINAL: sexyred1

Yes, I suppose you might think that.

However, I never tell everybody how to behave on a message board over and over again expecting different results.

I may have been hypocritical, but I am not delusional.

Wow, that's the most passive aggressive way anyone's found to call me delusional. Care to share what's so wrong with me raising awareness to promote tolerance?

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ORIGINAL: CreativeDominant
There was a poster on here who loved to talk about how much fun gunplay was...sticking a gun in his submissive's mouth, pussy, ass. I told him what I felt...that it was an idiotic thing to do unless he or she were independently wealthy so I and others didn't end up paying for their fun. My opinion, my perspective. He got a might upset and the next thing you know, I was being attacked by the " any kink you want to do is o.k. as long as there's consent" group. To which my reply was...and ever will be...no, it's not. When he and his group got more vociferous and less sensible, more opinions started coming out. It happens. He was a regular poster and not a newbie but I can tell you, a newbie posting that kind of idiocy probably wouldn't have gotten a very much nicer me.

As someone else noted, it's not my job to coddle adults. Teach? Sure. But to encourage a thickheaded, possibly harmful idea? Not so much.

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Purple Haze;
are in my brain;
lately things just don't seem the same;
actin funny;
but I don't know why;
'scuze me, while I kiss the sky.

Am I doin alright?
Am I doin alright?
Are the mosquitos gettin black?

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ORIGINAL: RockaRolla
Please tell me that was sarcasm.

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ORIGINAL: RockaRolla

The problem is that you're trying to promote tolerance for the wrong people, or at least the ones we feel are the wrong people.

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ORIGINAL: RockaRolla

Otherwise, where the hell are you when these newbies need educating?

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ORIGINAL: littleladybug

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ORIGINAL: RockaRolla
The problem is that you're trying to promote tolerance for the wrong people, or at least the ones we feel are the wrong people.

Who's "we"?

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ORIGINAL: Kaliko
It's really just personality differences. I can look at posts by regulars pretty recently and I have to roll my eyes and wonder why everybody seems to be acting like they're at a middle school dance. And I can also think of a number of times in the past when new posters were piled on and I saw absolutely no reason for it other than they didn't lick somebody's ass when they started their thread. What I consider to be an unworthy post is different than what another person considers to be an unworthy post. So saying that a new poster is treated fairly unless they post "dumb shit" really doesn't say much about the poster at all. It only tells me about your preferences. And I'm not in favor of a thread that I might fight interesting to be ripped to pieces because somebody else has judged it to be "dumb."

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ORIGINAL: littleladybug

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ORIGINAL: RockaRolla
The problem is that you're trying to promote tolerance for the wrong people, or at least the ones we feel are the wrong people.

Who's "we"?

I think Kaliko had a good post on that.

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ORIGINAL: Kaliko
It's really just personality differences. I can look at posts by regulars pretty recently and I have to roll my eyes and wonder why everybody seems to be acting like they're at a middle school dance. And I can also think of a number of times in the past when new posters were piled on and I saw absolutely no reason for it other than they didn't lick somebody's ass when they started their thread. What I consider to be an unworthy post is different than what another person considers to be an unworthy post. So saying that a new poster is treated fairly unless they post "dumb shit" really doesn't say much about the poster at all. It only tells me about your preferences. And I'm not in favor of a thread that I might fight interesting to be ripped to pieces because somebody else has judged it to be "dumb."