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The things removed from the forum that were not just hidden, but deleted and could not be subpoenaed by a court without going into the back up are gone. What was hidden and staff had access to was all the harassment from one person to another proving he was harassing. However, all the proof that the other person was harassing him was taken and deleted. They could provide that without assistance from the owner.
I'm kind of glad this got brought up because it just confirms that it wasn't just the site that was threatened to be sued. I don't have any civil or criminal actions pending against me, though when I heard the threat, I wasn't entirely sure what the angle was. Thank you.
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Luckily, there was more and it was missed that proves that she was harassing him. After two or three tours in a war zone, we have a man committed and having so much love for his dominant for years… has a break up and what appears to be a break down, suffering a great loss. He moved to Alaska and changed his whole life, finished a dungeon and after that, goes through a break up with said dominant.
Yeah, not as it's being portrayed. The moving to Alaska wasn't for me. At least it wasn't what I was told at the time. It was to be a transfer of state units so there would be no loss of the other party (and his family's) medical benefits. (There was also a serious unemployment problem.) I was told there were being cutbacks made to the unit where he had been assigned in CA, and he was facing losing his TriCare. We (MP and I) were told that he had arranged for a position on the job on post where we lived that was being vacated by the medic currently stationed there. I was actually the last hold out to this but ended up agreeing, as I knew the other party's wife and dependent off-spring needed the medical coverage.
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All sorts of things were said on the forum, for which a number of posters on this coming thread mentioned. All over the forum we heard that the dominant was missing events because he would stalk her. They both spoke of taking legal action.
Yes, I did miss *some* events. Some that I attended were the references to being followed in public. As you are well aware, I am not allowed to detail these on the forums or post any of the documentation to corroborate it. However, if anybody would like to drop me a note on Fet...
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Now, I have worked in the area of domestic abuse, rape and stalking and know that you don’t harass or inflame the situation. You go legal, you try to defuse and yet you stand your ground. You don’t spend time trying to upset the other party and you keep it legal. This was not done. Both parties and their close connections were doing dramatic battle all over the forum. The dominant in this situation also worked in this area of rape or abuse in some manner, so knew that you really shouldn’t engage or inflame someone harassing or stalking you.
I had the option of going to legal. It was offered to me in May of 2013 when my husband's boss on post and the Chaplain had been contacted. (Another one of those neat journal entries that was admitted by the other party.) I passed on that option because it would come back on the other party's family.
I was in the situation that a lot of people who aren't "out" face when people start the "go to the cops or it didn't happen" routine. I was a poly person who engages in BDSM on a military post. If anybody doesn't understand the potential of that, write me email.
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This thread was started during this time. There was another thread I cannot yet find, but it was in Mistress and the dominant spoke of her new boy getting to know her so well that he bought her something she loved. A stuffed animal. The other party was on the forum and reading it all. While he is supposedly stalking her, she is continuing without concern over what this could result in. After two or three tours in a war zone, I have to question the intelligence of messing with a vet.
So, what's the implication here? That I also wasn't supposed to post on the forums about engaging in kink or in the kink community? That I was never supposed to say anything that was good that was going on in my life because I was supposed to be afraid that the other party was reading it?
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A few posts later, the dominant’s husband comes in and says he had to buy it for her, because he knew she would love it.
It wasn’t her new boy that bought it and knew her… but her husband of around ten years. What would be the purpose of creating that thread other than to harass her former slave? The problem with this is that the dominant lied about the new boy during a time she claimed that she was being stalked and harassed and she went so far as to lie in a thread to others here about a new boy, which was a new 21 year old she was playing with and had mentioned in other threads.
Ummm... Being happy?
Yes, the stalking was bad. However, I only had to worry about the in person stalking when the other individual traveled to the state where MP and I resided. The rest of it was internet stalking, which you're obviously aware of.
I'm going to say something else about this. If someone is 21 years old, and wants to engage in consensual S/m, there should not be a problem with that. I have always had casual play partners of darn near all legal ages, from twenties to sixties. I absolutely had casual play partners from April 2013 - December 2013. Around January of 2014, I made the decision that I was only interested in playing with the person that I had collared at that time.
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Now this dominant has been lying about me and accusing me of numerous things including not telling the complete story or truth, besides how crazy I am. LOL I will continue to look for that thread, but it may have been deleted by staff.
Please do. I admit that I said some not nice things about you when the s****m***4u thing came up because the guy had such a short time to live. I'll apologize for that.
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What is happening here is that I am telling the truth about people that did things that weren’t supposed to happen, showed favoritism, covered up what one person was doing and leaving evidence of what the other did. All parties were less than calm and all were involved in harassing one another.
Plenty of times that I wasn't calm. I'll admit to that one, too. Especially because of the things that kept happening that I'm not even allowed to talk about here, due to Terms of Service. By your definition, it's "harassing" someone if you remove them from your life and then go on to HAVE a life.
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You can see throughout this thread, that the ugliness was known about and distasteful to a number of people.
To understand better, read all the thread.
Yes, I removed the thread from the quote because, if I can't identify the individual, I don't think you should be, either.
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I know of many more lies that she has told about different things. At this time there was a takeover attempted between groups of staff caused by one powerful staff member being involved with the same dominant as another lower powered staff member. This married man was being fought over and the powerful one wanted the other fired. Alpha refused to do it as it wasn’t proper grounds to release her. The war started then.
What? Whatever this is, it has nothing to do with me. Of the folks that I know their Mod identities, only one is a married man and he was a Gorean man. I've met some former Mods in person. Went to events with a couple of them but the only one that I've ever even played with was a female submissive. That was way back in 2010. (Yeah, I had to look it up.)
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Things started disappearing. Mod bashing threads started and went to dramatic places. I then outed myself and quit trying to get the mod bashing threads stopped. This dominant that has been lying about me and with the dramatic public break up… kept those threads going as well as the other team trying to gain power.
I have always contributed and discussed issues on threads about moderation for as long as I've been a member here. At one point or another, I've probably disagreed with one decision or another that dang near any forum Mod has ever made. I absolutely thought the way the Arpig matter was handled was stupid but that wasn't your decision or blame and it would have been foolish of me to say it was.
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All this high school drama… These are the people that accuse me and slander me.
Go digging if you wish to. The bashing threads are there minus a few posts and you will be able to see when posts slowed down and who came to start them up again.
You mean like when I lived in Alaska and had a four hour time difference than anybody living on the East Coast? Heck yes I was on threads after a lot of people went to bed. I do that now because I'm an insomniac. I had no idea that my posting habits were supposed to be designed to accommodate you.
For what it's worth, I think you were incorrect in one of your statements from your earlier post. There really isn't any reason that you are unable to look for a kink partner on a BDSM site or attend events in your area to look for one. Nobody is going to be able to recognize you from the picture that was on your personal profile from years ago, so that shouldn't hinder you. It's my understanding there's a really good scene where you live.
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