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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Ja, no.

You are not looking for advice. You are looking to be pissed on.

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ORIGINAL: WickedsDesire

Akin to me asking a wanton wench over, dressed of course in bespoke corsets, boots above the knee, for a 8 course banquet of; spit roasted stegosaurus, broiled shoe essence, chingeree chitlins and 5 plates of chocolate cake (none for her) with vanilla ice cream. And I, who has the capacity to burn boiled potatoes, serve up 8 slice of toast (if i can find the book on interent re how to cook toast) and berate her for such tardiness; after her 18hour day and sell her into slavery – as there are 6 hours of the clock left. And that is clearly not enough time to train someone, save for the travelling circus and you need a good 6 and half hours according to the internet.
You have the makings of a bad stereotype – personally my pet hate as they are responsible, as well as those of derangement, for so much mis-information, ludicrous expectations from those who know better
You have a lot of good advice eg she is human, and of such an equal, and there is no etiquette – it has already been said.

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ORIGINAL: WickedsDesire

Akin to me asking a wanton wench over, dressed of course in bespoke corsets, boots above the knee, for a 8 course banquet of; spit roasted stegosaurus, broiled shoe essence, chingeree chitlins and 5 plates of chocolate cake (none for her) with vanilla ice cream. And I, who has the capacity to burn boiled potatoes, serve up 8 slice of toast (if i can find the book on interent re how to cook toast) and berate her for such tardiness; after her 18hour day and sell her into slavery – as there are 6 hours of the clock left. And that is clearly not enough time to train someone, save for the travelling circus and you need a good 6 and half hours according to the internet.
You have the makings of a bad stereotype – personally my pet hate as they are responsible, as well as those of derangement, for so much mis-information, ludicrous expectations from those who know better
You have a lot of good advice eg she is human, and of such an equal, and there is no etiquette – it has already been said.

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ORIGINAL: Lucylastic
I didnt get the philly reference, lol
Well apart from hockey references....
Meaningless to me...is it sposed to be a "big man" thing?
Cos it didnt click.

I can paper your ceilings with pancakes, we would be laughing with each other. Ill make a point to bring marmite for the syrup:) noooo not instead of:)

Apparently, Im far to laid back/nice/easy going a person to be a domme, Ive heard it way too many times, (altho Im sure a lot of people who post here think otherwise)....few guess im a bit of a sadist, until they play with me.

The Philly reference was from the thread yesterday. I'm from PA, too. It's not a thing.

Last time we did a nice brunch here, the one submissive in the house didn't get to do a damn thing. Much laughing, decent food, and good company. (That last part always makes the food taste better.) We were just having fun. Nobody cared who was a D or an s. My house, right? I'm the one who knows where the pans are.

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ORIGINAL: newatdis

As you know I am new. It was established before the slave arrived at my house that I was Master and she was slave. To do what I want with her, but she might resist at first. I knew she started her day at 5 AM. By the time she got to my State, and my city it's 11 PM at night. She commented about getting lost, being tired. Should I have just done the things I read about anyway? Without consideration as to her day? I am being dead serious. Granted I had a messed up idea about the whole thing. I only starting googling it a couple days before she got here (lol) and read mostly stories and experiences. Some twisted stuff. The ironic thing here is, I bought a book on Ebay "Doms guide to Submissive training"...and if I knew, I could have followed it to the T. But the book didn't arrive until yesterday and all this started Friday.

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ORIGINAL: Lucylastic

I didnt get the philly reference, lol
Well apart from hockey references....
Meaningless to me...is it sposed to be a "big man" thing?
Cos it didnt click.

I can paper your ceilings with pancakes, we would be laughing with each other. Ill make a point to bring marmite for the syrup:) noooo not instead of:)

Apparently, Im far to laid back/nice/easy going a person to be a domme, Ive heard it way too many times, (altho Im sure a lot of people who post here think otherwise)....few guess im a bit of a sadist, until they play with me.

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ORIGINAL: WickedsDesire


Some questions:
1. How did you present/offer yourself to this person and her to you?
2. How long have you spoken to this person
3. What happened when she turned up and how long did she say
4. what exactly did you say and do when she turned up
5. Have you spoken to her since and how long ago is it now.

Notes;
1. Some people expect bad stereotypes eg. To be imprisoned and thrashed on the hour every hour..Only monsters have that capability…granted now some do expect it, are conditioned to believe that’s how it works – these are people who know no better, or perhaps vulnerable, or merely seek abuse – different from a relationship.
2. Slave what is a slave is difficult to anwer. In essence there is no such thing in their entirely there me be some parts, fragments. In short they wish to give up their worldly possessions and serve. Who with is irrelevant although the mad, deranged psychotic, often snaffle em up…I have never known a true one in all my life to exist – one came close…there are a marginal higher number of Deranged masters/dommes
3. (fantasy is okay) fantasists preaching that as their 10 commandments. not so much – doesn’t mean 1 or two cannot be sampled/tasted/tested.

I have read your profile, it requires much work ( mines is not a good example - what is the point of me writing about just dark I I am so much more than that for I am not insane - or offer only insanity and bliss
, and it(yours) is better than most on here…most worry me, but that is another story. And us men folk outnumber the (genuine)women who are looking by a factor of many

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ORIGINAL: newatdis

I did "indulge her"

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ORIGINAL: Danemora

~FRing it~

From what I've read here, I personally think you are spending way too much time obsessing over what you think a dominant is "supposed" to be. What you should be focusing on is becoming the dominant you WANT to be. Im not sure about any other submissives, but I personally can see right through someone who adopted some notion of what a Master is supposed to be. However I respond highly to the dominant who already knows who he is. Because that breeds confidence. Confidence inspires trust. And trust is what makes this particular little world go round. I dont want to trust some dude who is trying to act dominant. I trust the one who is being genuine, sincere, and real. Take from this what you will.

Figure you out first. That shit cant be found in a book. After that, seek out a compatible counterpart.