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Since when were you allowed to decide how we spend some of our time? Only if I give "consent", eh?

You noticed she is not on my profile and it is recently created? It must be damn frustrating for two of you to search my meager profile and not see who she is, that is what all that means and nothing more.

Why don't you trust someone you say you are so close to?

When did it become "your" community? I think it is mine.

"Us'all" are. I don't share her in case you were to ask.

Yes, it is me who described the other side as a BDSM dating site. It was designed to be.

"The plot thickens", I like that. Original, right?

Nah. Not frustrating. Sometime, a person's profile gives more information to understand where the other person is coming from. Since you are talking about having success with your methods, I was looking for that success.

I didn't say I didn't trust my husband, so you're just reaching there. I'm just better at handling my own email. (I also happen to be the better one of us when it comes to social engagements and the like. When people want to meet us, they contact me, because they'll get a better result. I'm the one who tends to pay more attention.)

I guess you missed the fact that I said "our" communities. That's also you trying to manipulate what was said.

If your methods work for you, that's great. Even if you have this small, but overwhelming amount of women saying that your tactics wouldn't work in their cases. That means, the folks who *are* still trying to meet people may not do well by using the same measures.

Always listen to your target audience. It's true of advertising, marketing, and so many other areas of life.

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~FRing it~

Frankly I think it's high time that folks who think like you learn and accept the meaning of the words "no" and "not interested," OP.

No fair dong a free reply and then address a specific person. I suspect I don't need to anymore since I was successful. I wonder if that occurred to you.

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Anyone can recognize a dance and you are dancing. For example, how could it be "our" community if, as you claim, I know nothing about it?

"My" tactics? They are male Dom tactics if you accept this thread is a two way conversation. You think when a Dom is ignored by a woman he simply tucks tail and slinks away? In your dreams.

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"My" tactics? They are male Dom tactics if you accept this thread is a two way conversation. You think when a Dom is ignored by a woman he simply tucks tail and slinks away? In your dreams.

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They are male Dom tactics if you accept this thread is a two way conversation.

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You think when a Dom is ignored by a woman he simply tucks tail and slinks away?

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ORIGINAL: ImperialPath

"My" tactics? They are male Dom tactics if you accept this thread is a two way conversation.

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You think when a Dom is ignored by a woman he simply tucks tail and slinks away? In your dreams.

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A "thanks anyways, good luck to you too" isn't going to get you into too much hot water.

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ORIGINAL: Danemora

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ORIGINAL: ImperialPath

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ORIGINAL: Danemora

~FRing it~

Frankly I think it's high time that folks who think like you learn and accept the meaning of the words "no" and "not interested," OP.

No fair dong a free reply and then address a specific person. I suspect I don't need to anymore since I was successful. I wonder if that occurred to you.

I'd suggest getting to work on building the bridge to Get The Fuck Over It then, homie

Calling your right hand "your girl" doesn't count as being succesful. Just saying

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

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Anyone can recognize a dance and you are dancing. For example, how could it be "our" community if, as you claim, I know nothing about it?

"My" tactics? They are male Dom tactics if you accept this thread is a two way conversation. You think when a Dom is ignored by a woman he simply tucks tail and slinks away? In your dreams.

OK, bro. If your method is not to leave people alone when they've told you to, that's kind of on you. The magical "Dom" label doesn't escape that. I'm not going to say that domineering people are better than asshats.

I haven't seen you say anything about being a member of the community, or even willing to tell folks your former screen name, so no way for a person to check.

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A "thanks anyways, good luck to you too" isn't going to get you into too much hot water.

A second pass is a second pass. This version of the second pass shows her what a great guy you are and gives her an opportunity to signal that you might want to stay where you are, look for visual clues to this. On a cmail second pass using your "tactic" you are forced just to wait for a possible reply to the second pass.

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ORIGINAL: ImperialPath

"My" tactics? They are male Dom tactics if you accept this thread is a two way conversation. You think when a Dom is ignored by a woman he simply tucks tail and slinks away? In your dreams.

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ORIGINAL: ImperialPath

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ORIGINAL: Danemora

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ORIGINAL: ImperialPath

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ORIGINAL: Danemora

~FRing it~

Frankly I think it's high time that folks who think like you learn and accept the meaning of the words "no" and "not interested," OP.

No fair dong a free reply and then address a specific person. I suspect I don't need to anymore since I was successful. I wonder if that occurred to you.

I'd suggest getting to work on building the bridge to Get The Fuck Over It then, homie

Calling your right hand "your girl" doesn't count as being succesful. Just saying

You are so clever!

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ORIGINAL: Danemora

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ORIGINAL: ImperialPath

"My" tactics? They are male Dom tactics if you accept this thread is a two way conversation. You think when a Dom is ignored by a woman he simply tucks tail and slinks away? In your dreams.

There you have it, new submissive ladies! Number 1 on the list of dominant types you need to run the fuck away from like you were being shot at. The man who will not respect your wishes if you say no, no thank you, not interested, get the fuck away from me, or any other derivative. If he won't respect your wishes, what else won't he respect about you?

You guessed it. Nada. Zero. Zilch.

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6. I make a second pass just in case, I say "Your hair caught my eye, I don't understand how you get it to shine so beautifully under those dim lights. I also describe my desires, my history as a Dom and how I think we actually might click if we only give it a little chance, I ask her if she would "like to dance" starting out with a call from me and maybe lunch in town on Saturday noon?

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You called it a tactic. I directly quoted you. You said your male Dom tactic is to not tuck your tail between your legs and slink away. You can put lipstick on a pig all day long. But it's still going to be a pig wearing lipstick when you are done. Harassment is still harassment, no matter how you try to pretty it up.

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When in actuality the OP subject and "tactic" is this.

1. I see a woman at the bar and catch her eye.
2. She smiles and reaches up to put her hair in place even though it is perfect. I got it.
3. I walk confidently across the room and sit down beside her and introduce myself.
4. She politely nods but realizes I am not married and she likes married guys.
5. She looks away and stares at nothing. I got it.
6. I make a second pass just in case, I say "Your hair caught my eye from across the room, I don't understand how you get it to shine so beautifully under these dim lights. I like that song, would you like to dance?
7. She turns back briefly, cocks her head and looks past me while saying she does not dance and then she turns away again.
8. I finish my drink and notice someone else glancing at me and she has a lovely smile and I could use one right now!
9. I talk to the other woman.


or...cmail version

1. I see a woman's profile and her eyes and smile touch me.
2. I read her profile and journal and she seems to be somebody I can relate to.
3. I write her confidently and introduce myself, I tell her what attracted me to her profile, I write about her journals and comment on them positively and how I relate to what she said. I also talk about her hair and her eyes. I talk just a little about myself and was certain to include my best picture.
4. She politely writes back and says I am not married and she likes married guys.
5. I got it.
6. I make a second pass just in case, I say "Your hair caught my eye, I don't understand how you get it to shine so beautifully under those dim lights. I also describe my desires, my history as a Dom and how I think we actually might click if we only give it a little chance, I ask her if she would "like to dance" starting out with a call from me and maybe lunch in town on Saturday noon?
7. She does not write back.
8. I finish my coffee and notice someone else glancing at me from my CS screen and she has a lovely smile and I could use one right now!
9. I write to here and she knows how to dance.

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1. I see a woman's profile and her eyes and smile touch me.
2. I read her profile and journal and she seems to be somebody I can relate to.
3. I write her confidently and introduce myself, I tell her what attracted me to her profile, I write about her journals and comment on them positively and how I relate to what she said. I also talk about her hair and her eyes. I talk just a little about myself and was certain to include my best picture.
4. She politely writes back and says I am not married and she likes married guys.
5. I got it.
6. I make a second pass just in case, I say "Your hair caught my eye, I don't understand how you get it to shine so beautifully under those dim lights. I also describe my desires, my history as a Dom and how I think we actually might click if we only give it a little chance, I ask her if she would "like to dance" starting out with a call from me and maybe lunch in town on Saturday noon?

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1. I see a woman's profile and her eyes and smile touch me.
2. I read her profile and journal and she seems to be somebody I can relate to.
3. I write her confidently and introduce myself, I tell her what attracted me to her profile, I write about her journals and comment on them positively and how I relate to what she said. I also talk about her hair and her eyes. I talk just a little about myself and was certain to include my best picture.
4. She politely writes back and says I am not married and she likes married guys.
5. I got it.
6. I make a second pass just in case, I say "Your hair caught my eye, I don't understand how you get it to shine so beautifully under those dim lights. I also describe my desires, my history as a Dom and how I think we actually might click if we only give it a little chance, I ask her if she would "like to dance" starting out with a call from me and maybe lunch in town on Saturday noon?

Your scenario is the textbook definition of the very thing I'm talking about.

You tried. She said you didn't meet your criteria and turned you down. So you write back talking about your desires, your history as a dom, and asking her to exchange numbers and go out to lunch with the very person she just got done saying no to.

Look up "harassment" in your favorite dictionary. Go ahead. Ill wait. The whole pretending you are incredibly dense thing just isn't working.